Compulsive Hoarding

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This is her workspace, jesus.

Notice how there are all kind of space saver boxes are in front of the cabinet, the cabinet is also stuffed full of magazines of 2007 that she "will read one day"

She does have a problem, it's not normal, functional, or okay to not be able to use the dunningroom table because it's full of crap. She needs therapy, but unfortunately no one can make her go. Getting out is a very good idea, and honestly so should your dad, cause at this rate he's going to get pushed out by crap anyways. If she doesn't work have a serious conversation with him about cutting her off financially until she gets help. Beyond that there isn't much you can do other than present evidence that she's not normal and encourage her to get help.

>>17856181
Hahaha wow. You can see it...if she doesn't get help she'll eventually start stepping over shit.
And the worst part is she isn't even going to realize it's a fucking problem. She will most likely not even notice. This is a bad situation but the sooner you can convince her the better

Don't mean to laugh...I'm just amused at how the mind can get so out of fuck sometimes

>>17856207
>>17856267
I'm thinking about finding some kind of professional that could help her realise how bad it is.

Materialism at its finest. This is what happens when "buy me stuff" becomes how people show love during the holidays. Now, these objects become the definition of who these people are because they dont do anything besides gossip and buy bullshit.

What a fucking life. Wonder what I'm getting for Christmas/ birthday. We all know it's not going to be a hug, thats just too much. Better get a giftcard.

Shit, that's another horrible holiday trait: putting cash in a card is "passe", just get them money that can only be spent in one place! Why actually think about someones wants and passions when it comes to a gift?

>>17856168
>My question is, how do I get her to stop buying so much and throw all these uneccesary things away.

hoarding is a mental illness

your best bet is to move out, otherwise that place is a firetrap

>>17856168
Talk to a counselor. Hoarding is an actual mental disease.

I've seen worse.

>>17856291
Might cause me to live a uncluttered life, my home would be the centre of minimalism, ha, no.

Maybe not a minimalism home, but surely an uncluttered one!

Speaking off, I do hate gift cards, just give me money or replacement parts of something that broke or a tool!

Gift cards mean to me: I don't know what to give you, but I'm not giving you actual money because you didn't earn it.

>>17856318
Thought so, my parents are pretty lonely if I'm honest.. We (me, my sister and my younger brother) are pretty much anyone they see daily, and my sister pretty much already moved out..

I do say that it's making me feel hopeless everytime I see the mess.

>>17856348
It has been worse, we've had 2 containers of garbage shipped out to the dump already plus I'm not showing the bedroom and other area's

>>17856343
I'm going to look up one now

even if you find a professional, your mom has to be the one who admits she has a problem. then she will decide if she wants to change.

my mom does the same thing but now its mostly my nieces' toys, clothes or plain trash.
before she wouldnt want to throw anything away. i moved back in when i was 21, waited til she went to work and threw all of the old moldy worn out stuff she had. she didnt even notice certain stuff was missing until months later and when i told her i threw it out she was pissed.
i dont advise you do what i do: just yell at her and throw the stuff out. because when i do come visit home, her and my niece have the house dirty and cluttered again. they just wait for me to clean it and im fucking tired of it.

My BFs mother is also a compulsive hoarder and its gotten so bad that every room has only a small walking path with towers of stuff on either side. She has a mental breakdown anytime someone moves her things and she has given us the silent treatment because we cleaned everything off the kitchen table. We have 5 seperate sheds on the property full of her stuff because she thinks she needs it all, and she keeps buying more things with her rich father's allowance. Its insane, and eventually it impacts the quality of life for everyone involved.

You are lucky that she still lets you clean, but you have to stop this madness NOW or else it will become so bad there will be no turning back. Good luck.

>>17856168
That furniture looks likee something out of the Sims.

>>17856389

>not recreating your childhood sims house irl now that you're an adult and have money to

>>17856362
Sounds pretty spot on, she just can't throw anything away, the attic is full of our childhood clothes that she has yet to give away or so..

last night I was trying to stir fry something and everything would just stick and burn to the pan, even with oil, they had put it in the dishwasher several times, that removes the layer that keeps the food from sticking and makes it a food magnet, now it's absolutely unusable, I wanted to throw it away immediately and she became mad, oh! mad she was!

Just the feeling that it gives you when you give everyone a plate to eat on, every plate is different. smaller, bigger, absolutely different colours. just like all the cups, and even all our forks, spoons and knives. collected over the years, gotten it at the gas stations as a reward of tanking there, some cups from a promotional give away from a company that makes her glasses, then some cups that were once nutella containers.

as you get out of there you will also notice that the same applied to all the towels we have.

>>17856386
She doesn't let me clean, It's bad whenever we clean up, she blames me for not paying something on time because she couldn't dig up the papers in the box that I have put on her desk.

something funny here, I forgot to mention we actually have someone helping us to take care of cleaning once a week, helps us with washing clothes and cooking. but I don't think she will be able to keep up with her.

>>17856389
it does? that would be pretty funny.
I've played the heck out of sims 2.

Was always satisfying to use the bolprop cheat and either burn people in a closed room, or put furniture besides the bed so they could not go to the bathroom. impregnating everyone with aliens, selling the schoolbus, that sort of things.

>>17856181
Jesus, is that carpet?

>>17856414
It's a marmer floor

>>17856420
Ahh ok. Now I see it.

I can't seem to find any coaches, just companies that help you clean up per man-hour.

it's either that or go to a mental health specialist