Friend of mine made an OKC account, used it for about a week,

>>17851549

not if you're doing fine in real life.

>>17851552
If I was doing fine on real life do you think I would be on either OKC or a Laotian Reptile Breeding Enthusiast Forum?

>>17851554

thats the irony is that a lot of guys use it for the wrong reason.

its supposed to be a supplement. if you cant get a girl irl you cant get one online as a general rule.

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>>17851560
Time to kill myself I guess

>>17851566

>time to improve* myself i guess

fix'd.

I'm female and I've had an OKC account.
At least for me, the majority of messages were basically spam: just guys from India or some other poor countries either sending "hi" or a copypasta standard message, hoping to get a green card I suppose.

>>17851549
I am totally pro-online dating, and I've had pretty decent success (many hookups, a few long-term relationships, varying ages and attractive qualities).

But make no mistake: You will send dozens and dozens of messages before you get one that is enthusiastic enough to meet in real life. That picture you posted is pretty much what happens to every woman no matter how attractive they are (this chubby girl I hooked up with told me she receives about ten messages a day on average).

But don't be intimidated, because a slightly attractive man can be a ladies' man thanks to the internet if you put the effort in. You just have to be persistent, playful, and respectful.

If you're just looking to hook up, then yeah, you have a lot of competition. If you're actually looking for a relationship, then you don't have that much competition.

Oh look it's another thread where a man throws a pity party because women on dating sites are inundated by sex requests from ugly, fat men, even though no woman wants that and even if she did she'd then be a dirty slut who doesn't even get to have sex with an attractive man and then you'd be making a slut hate thread because she didn't have sex with you specifically.

>>17851549
you're at a huge disadvantage as a male on dating sites. making attempts to improve yourself, take better profile pics, and writing your best bio are really the only steps you can take to help your odds.
if you don't have success with women offline, you'll be even more disappointed with online dating

>>17851718
Bitter slash rejected by Chad detected
Know your place


Op, look up population pyramids for your area ande you'll see why everything is shit

Obviously things are going to be a lot different if you're a male on this website.

I think to have any real success is to have good pictures, like dress up a little for the photo even. One of the big reasons I'm with my current bf that I met through OKC is because he a very nice photo of himself in a suit and he also had a nice beard which both of those things were really big turn ons for me. His pick up line was pretty bad too, honestly kinda cringy, but it was also pretty unique so it kinda gave him points there too.

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Fucking with fat tumblr dykes is fun. Asking a pansexual is they fetishism cooking utensils is always good for a laugh.

>>17851718
Fuck off, you revolting obese SJW cunt. We've seen all your attempts at derailing other threads. Idk why mods don't just ban you. You never give advice and just come here to insult people and get off-topic. Go cry into your ice cream some more.

>>17851549
Most of those messages are:
- 'hey'
- 'wanna fuck?'
- 'lol i liek ur eyes gurl'
- from fatsos
- from niggers
- from 60-year-olds trying to bang 20-year-olds
- from people in other countries
- copy-pasted obviously with no relevance to you
- from someone totally incompatible with you
- from someone leaving the state in two months
- from someone who won't ever ask the girl out because he is too shy
- from someone seeing 2 other girls who either won't continue msging or will end up trying to fuck them all and losing them all
- from manlets talking to girls taller than them
- from men with no career or life prospects
- from men who want threesomes
- from women who want threesomes
- from thirsty lesbians
Etc etc etc
If you aren't trash and are actually somewhat compatible with the girl, your odds are better than you think. I've messaged maybe 50-70 women total and ended up with 3 full-blown 6-month+ relationships and a bunch of other dates that simply didn't work or go anywhere. It's much easier for me than doing an intro in person because I can filter for single+looking+likelycompatible, and do 3-5 in an hour.

>>17852001
i.e. basically what this femanon said:
>>17851731

I ended up with a girl completely uncontested once because the only other guy msging her and capable of holding a conversation ended up ghosting. She was a 90-pound hapa engineering major who liked video games, rough sex, and spontaneous vacations. She also gave the best blowjobs I've ever experienced. Granted I am toward the top of the pool economically and I'm in decent shape, but I only date one girl at a time and I'm single right now anyway. This too can be yours.

>>17852014
Women do get approached or solicited constantly, especially very attractive ones, but they just filter it out. 99% of the attempts are halfassed bullshit, or from incompatible people, or not even intended to be taken seriously. They can get sex easily, but apart from a small minority of whores, most girls don't actually want random hookups, or want to risk an existing decent relationship over them. Quit worrying and go find someone similar to you to talk to. But don't aim above your league if you want to get replies.

>>17852001
> muh high standards

>>17851549
Honestly it's shit for both genders, but varies on your location

My standards aren't high, but because of where I live it's nearly impossible to date.


I just want someone similar to me, but finding a woman without kids, tattoos, or dyed hair just doesn't work in a place like Seattle.

I might make an OKC to see exactly how bad things are here

Hell my ideal woman is a chubby seen and even those are hard af to find

i might make an occupid account as a female to see what it is like. i bet 80% of the messages are from guys asking for sex though.

>>17852670
Let's be real, what else do women have to offer?
Do you call a plumber when you have a toothache

Im a Latin American living in a major city (Buenos Aires) and holy shit this APP is SJW CENTRAL.

The ideological invasion is real, you heard them cry about USA polluting our minds with "right wing and nazi shit" and then you have to see this bullshit.

I swear to god, there is no difference between a campus here and a campus in Austin

so do you guys write a witty one line pick up line or do you write a more conservative, friendly message asking about their profile/interests/whatever

I'm always too afraid to write some witty pickup lines to a complete stranger if I have no idea about their humor or intellect at all. Am I just too afraid?

>>17852714
you have nothing to lose, just be yourself

also be chad

>>17852714
>so do you guys write a witty one line pick up line or do you write a more conservative, friendly message asking about their profile/interests/whatever

when i was pof, i normally just said some really basic boring shit like "hey, how are you?". i would sometimes write a proper message but i stopped because i never really got a reply. i think its retarded that women expect you to put in a fuck load of effort in the opening messagr because they likely wont reply and literally women only ever say basic shit if they message you first.

It's much easier for a guy to meet a girl irl than online. Online women are protected from their natural instincts so they're actually more rational and will dismiss you because, let's be honest, you're pathetic (we all are). but in real life its actually a lot easier to attract women even if you're not perfect. I tried dating for months online and it never worked out. I started showing interest in girls around me offline and surprisingly most were perceptive. I'm now married and in hindsight my biggest hurdle was assuming women weren't interested. The trick is to assume they are.

>>17852714
Just make a paragraph (3-4 sentences max) and save it to a notepad that quickly glosses over your interest. Mass applying should work

Women generally have an easier time picking up men than vise versa, especially on the internet. Men 'birdshot' their advances, and women pick from the ones that they like. That's just how our sexual economy works, in part.

Now, you can be a bitter fag about it and resent it, or you can improve your lot and increase your chances of being the guy they pick.

>>17852733
some of us know for a fact that none of the women around them are interested
Let's be real here

>>17852966
So go somewhere else

i have an okc profile i haven't logged in for a while. i can log in and see what i have got and if there is anything i would respond to. so you guys can see how i would sift trough them. anybody interested?

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>>17853054
meh, if no one wants to know...

>>17853078
All shit.

>>17853078
im interested. i was thinking about making a female profile to gain insight. from the posts i can see there, the guys dont sound too bad but you never really know until you start talking to them

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>>17853094
with the oneliners i would take a look at the pic and if he looks like someone i could get along with i go to the profile. if that is interesting, i'll write back.
with the ones being from abviouse idiots (like that with the angel smiles) i will ignore it. i like to be able to tell that someone actually took the time to read my profile before sending a message. i know guys just shoot a quick hi to every female, so if they make the effort to read what i wrote, i really apprecciate that. i give enough material to start a conversation with kn my description, so if you aren't too lazy, you will be able to send me a personal message that will catch my attention.
pic related is just absolutely ridiculous

>>17853127
So my mistake was just that I send more than one line. thks

>>17853127
oh fuck me i pocked the uncensored version. how do i delete that on mobile? damn son, how stupid can a person be...

>>17853137
not at all! i like the thoughtfull messages way better. but i know how annoying onlinedating can be for guys so i don't just dismiss them because they sent oneliners.

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>>17853137
i just received this and there's a good chance i will write back because he has read my profile and seems genuinely interested

>>17853127
some of the guys sending you messages do sound quite cringy. my ex told me some weird experiences she had with some guys. i think some guys think real life is like porn or a disney film, i kinda feel sorry for them lol. i think your reasons for replying to guys is fair enough.

>>17853155
where are you from? the guys sound indian

>>17853162
europe. just checked and he's originally from argentina.

>>17853158
well, it's no problem. some guys really go overboard or start to get very agressive if you don't respond (or even if you take too long...). but i don't take that very serious. i can always just delete the messages. they don't really bother me.

>>17852693
Use Tinder, you retard. Only SJW use OKCupid in Arg.

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>>17853178
oh well... he doesn't seem too bright. i tought he was actually going somewhere with that but he just doesn't know what a doubt is.

>>17853189
his english isnt the greatest but he seems ok so far. i suggest speaking to him for a bit longer to see where it goes.

>>17853194
yeah, i wouldn't dismiss him based on that convo. but i know this won't go anywhere. i can go on and show you what happens

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>>17853201

>>17853201
let me guess
bad innuendos and subtle sex jokes?

>>17853217
he could have done better by answering my question... but that answer is pretty cheeky too

>>17853219
probably. let's find out

>>17853222
just saw that he answered it. i just received it delayed. so he's all good till now.

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>>17853227
now he's getting the big guns out. we do speech therapy now

>>17853236
idk, not a big fan of that, people usually get bored and annoyed fast at someone grilling them with questions.
do you get bored easy with that dudette, cause it looks like nico is gonna do that all afternoon.

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>>17853251
no, i actually like that. that way you can gather a lot of usefull informations about someone fast. but this guy is a bit weird. either i am not very bright or he doesn't make a lot of sense.

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>>17853265
kek

>>17853251
So what do you talk about? I usually make lots of questions. Girls rarely question anything about me, even though they only know what I've written in my profile, so there are lots of subjects to ask about.
But this has given me nothing so far. Tell me what you usually do.

>>17853290
i don't know what that anon talks about if he doesn't do the asking and answering thing...

>>17853290
>>17853265
oh don't get me wrong, it is fun and useful, but there is only so much you can ask about before the other person jokingly replies to you saying idk or they dont know what to say anymore.
Usually I just ask about stuff for a while and then I spin it into talk of family and friends, then job and finally social media, its much easier to talk about anything and look more friendly, if you can hit it off and within a week of texting on the dating site or app move to some legit social media sites (fb, whatsapp, etc) its much easier to move away from just being another random dude on okcupid.

>>17853147
I honestly would have to guess you're an exception there. I spent a year on PoF in a small rural-ish city and found ~15 girls who remotely shared interests with me and hadn't fucked up their life somehow; I wrote 3 sentences to each that specifically name-dropped something from their profile and didn't get a single response.

>>17853320
where are you from tho

>>17852966

So how you expect to meet a girl online if you can't irl since you're way more scrutinised online? Problem is you're so used to getting everything you want at your computer that you expect to get a girlfriend to. And if you're lucky enough to do that there's a reason she's resorting to online dating. And trust me you don't want to be stuck with the wrong girl. A lot of the time (like 50/50) you're better off single.

>>17853534

When you meet an interested girl in the real world you're an open book. They give you a chance and before they really know you you've ideally already done the dirty and she's just willing to accept your flaws.

Online they learn who you are straight away and can dismiss you before you've locked them into anything. The truth is women hate what men like by default. There's a reason they always say "there are no good men" because there literally aren't by their standards. Words on a website won't attract women. Just approaching women irl with the right game is far far more effective. You can convince a girl you're the man just with confidence and the right conversation. Online you just look desperate and pathetic by default. Your profile literally means nothing unless your pictures ooze outgoing confidence.

>>17853572

And if that's all too hard my advise would be to approach a girl who is below your standards and use her to build confidence and dump her when you're ready. Don't feel guilty about it they might get over it who cares anyway

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>>17851718
You vile fat whore, shut up with your projection and quit whining.

>pic related

>>17852014
If you're white, go to hell.

Here are the girls I've hooked up with thanks to online dating:

>20 year old black biology major. She touched my hand when we were drinking and I knew it was over. Smoked at her place and then fucked her. She had a fat butt.

>24 year old Jewish girl who was a little pushy and aggressive. Wanted to go to my place right away. I obliged. She gave great head but was really annoying and talked nonstop about her Jewish grandfather. Also fat.

>19 year old redhead who was really tall. Really sweet and instantly said she wanted to come home with me. Fucked her but she had a very unremarkable body. Pretty fun though.

>20 year old Dominican who smelled bad and sort of catfished me in that she was fatter than she let on and was a bit of an annoying cunt. Kissed her for awhile and cut off all contact.

>18 year old festival chick who is a little chubby but affectionate. Slept over. Clingy as fuck.

>18 year old black high school student who was like 4'5. Booty was fat. Fucked like a total animal but felt really awkward with her in public due to her size.

>24 year old black girl who was very quiet and kind of ugly but she was totally down to fuck with a little coaxing and she had a great body.

>22 year old black international student who is very traditional and only lets me kiss her and grab her tits. Sexiest girl I've dated by far. Still seeing her.

>18 year old Latina high school student with a nice curvy body. Kissed her in the middle of dinner and it went from there. Want to see her again but it's been so long I should let it go, but I don't want to.

>24 year old Italian girl who was totally damaged goods but was really fucking sexy. Slept over. Did everything but fuck her (didn't have a condom and I definitely didn't want to risk it)

>23 year old Indian girl who is hilarious and totally slutty/down for PDA. Still seeing her.

>21 year old tall Chinese girl who's very quiet and kisses so softly. Still seeing her.

>>17853389
306

>>17853127
I think this is bullshit. I always attempt to talk about something that was in a girl's profile, and the ones I find attractive rarely respond. The unattractive ones that I just want to have a conversation with cause they sound interesting, I get a marginally higher response rate from.

I have become much more forward when I'm not interested in someone I'm exchanging messages with now.

>>17853155
That first statement could've been shotgunned out to 100 women, you know? The second sentence, did you mention something about food, or did you just not fill out that section? If you didn't fill it out, it could've also been shotgunned.

>>17851560
That doesn't make any sense. The ones looking online are all bottom of the barrel. Just like this guy said, and applies even better to girls, they wouldn't be online if there weren't real life trouble.

What's fucking with me is how online dating used to be seen as pathetic (which made it easy to score) but is now the "in thing" and all the top tier people are using it to flock to eachother and fuck around, which also makes no sense. They have no trouble getting attention normally, why come to the lower level? Just for ridiculous attention? At that point its literally an addiction.

>>17851581
This math is all fucked up. A good looking, well funded ladies man can get a few chicks but even the fat girls get hit up in the double digits because of thirst.

>Try to find ideal partner
>Don't like people that drink alcohol so pubs are off
Try find people if you hate women that drink.
Don't want one that is already torn open.
I want em just like me, fresh and unopened.

>>17854580
Adding:
Don't like Facebook either, so Tinder was obviously not even gonna work since you need a FB account.

>>17853534
I don't online date though you angry loser

>>17851560
bullshit dont listen to this guy

>>17854580
hahahaaaaa jesus youre a fag you cant be serious
>this has gotta be bait

>>17854369
Haha jealous? Or /pol/tardes? Get bent. I know what I like.

Back when I got started an OKC account, I got tons of replies from girls.

Yes you have to like and message them first, but as long as you write a good profile full of girly shit like how passionate you are and how much you love learning then you will get a response. Just make sure you aren't hideous.

fuck wrong thread

>>17851549
There are 85 messages but all of them are "hi", "whats up", "u r hot" and so on. I don't understand why anyone would answer to something like that unless the guy's portfolio is interesting.
The same goes for all the sites, not just dating sites. For instance, if you use couchsurfing to get free accommodation and just write "hi", nobody will answer you. They won't answer you either if you write long copy-paste messages that don't address the real person. You can use copy-paste but make it personal according to the profile. I think this is the best way to go. Also, don't write to anyone who hasn't filled their profile because they are not active users.

>>17852679
Hahaha! This is why i keep coming back to 4chins!

>>17855988
Also, I can't believe that actual adults use netspeak and think that it is ok to write you one word that doesn't mean anything. When I used to search penpals at the age of 9, I wrote at least half of page to 10-12 people whose ads I answered. I was a child so writing took time. But just writing hi, r u hot would have been ridiculously idiotic, like a kindergarten child and not the brightest one. I don't know, is internet chat making people stupid? There is no basic respect any more.

>>17855995
>Also, I can't believe that actual adults use netspeak and think that it is ok to write you one word that doesn't mean anything.

its not that people think its ok. its because writing half a page is too much of a piss take when the girl is probably not going to reply. the intent of writing hey, or something equally generic is to create a conversation.

Creating a catfishing profile is an experience everyone should experience at least once

>>17856033
tell me you experience with it anon. is it true that most of the message are just guys asking for sex or being autistic?

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>>17851549
>Being a girl like
>people get mad you don't get back to them

I didn't check this for a week

>>17856023
Why do you write every girl? A child who is looking for penpals doesn't answer every ad either. It used to be that you didn't really have to choose who to write before the internet because everyone who published their ad in the newspaper were interested. Now people just register on sites out of curiosity and never use it again.
So first of all, you have to choose who you are going to message if you don't spend enough time even to check out if the profile is actually active, if they have filled it out then you obviously need to write to everybody.

But even so why on earth would anyone answer to "HI, u r hot"? If I'm looking for partners online I'm probably introverted and don't know how to speak to others. If they just write a stupid pick up line I have no idea how to answer this.

Secondly, why would I answer to a sentence that is below 1st grade level? It subconsciously shows that this is the type of conversation that you are going to have with a person and doesn't really say anything what makes that person himself. Are people really that disrespectful that they don't even read your profile through and can't write 2-3 sentences that proves it?

>>17856033
if you create a profile using freely available pictures your chances of getting idiots to respond increase drastically tho. everyone decent enough knows how to reverse image search in 2016

>>17856049
>"HI, u r hot"?

obviously writing this is ridiculous but there isnt really much you can say to someone in an opening message other than ask what their interests are, expand a bit bit on an interest they have expressed, or ask them something equally generic in an attempt to create a conversation. im not going to tell someone my life story when they probably dont care, the whole point of the chat is to talk with someone and find out about them. also, every single girl that has message me first on tinder, or pof has done exactly the same, and just said "hey" or "your cute". saying just hi is a bit pointless if the the person you're messaging has wrote quite a lot on their profile but most girls here dont even fill in their profile or they just state a few things.

its easy to judge but if you where a guy, you might understand why putting in effort to the opening message feels redundant. penpals is completely different because people on them didnt get anywhere near as many messages. i do normally put in effort to the opening text if the girl has wrote out a good profile but even then they normally dont reply, or if they do, they stop talking to me after a couple of messages. fortunately i barely use online dating and dont reallt care much for it.

>>17856049
I put in as much effort as they do.

Long profile = long message

>>17851560
I don't really believe this. I live in a pretty small town with like 0 places to hang out that is not a food establishment. Where are you supposed to meet girls in a place like this?

>>17856201
he means if you're ugly, don't online date

there is a difference between not getting girls and there not being any girls nearby

>>17856201
most people meet girls through friends, or at work. not often do people meet their partner at the shops, or a pub.

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>tfw get a bunch of likes but no messages

>>17856237
>tfw major crush on girl at work

she's just so damn tiny and adorable

i really hate being ugly

>>17851552
internet is IRL in 2016

meatspace singles clubs are overrated.

>>17856309

bruh, I got a like and sent a msg to her about it and got six months of freaky sex out of the deal...

>>17856309
I know that feeling. Ever since I disclosed by background, my likes have skyrocketed but no messages. I even put a message in my profile that I'm never going to know who you are if you just "like" me, because my policy is to never pay for online dating. I assume most of those likes are scammers or from quickmatch. If you really like someone, from quickmatch, you van find them to be able to send them a message, it just takes a little bit of work. You have to take into account their location and then search that specific area or change your location to theirs and use search criteria to narrow down the results. No one wants to do this though. That's too much fucking work.

And yes, I'm a guy.

>>17856148
Why do you message no or short profiles at all? They are probably just lurking because one of their friend is there or made an account for quizzes, general curiosity, forgot it later, etc.

>>17856088
For instance, I don't know how to "chat", that means to have topicless conversation. Chatrooms have always been a mystery because there is no topic and one sentence doesn't go along with another. Teen texts are the same way, I don't understand what the hell they are talking about when reading them. No full sentences, just some nonsense.

Many people just don't know what to say unless there is a specific topic for conversation. That's why speaking online is a lot easier for me, I can think about my interests, write them down, fill out my profile and even just think about who I am. OKC seems a lot easier than Tinder where I have to have a first impression based on a picture which means I have no idea about the person, what to say.

Men are usually not pretty enough that women would message only because of that. Most women are really pretty, I don't want to have sex with them but I constantly admire women, looking their pictures and imagining what they are like. Men are attractive in real life when they speak but rarely in pictures. Also, women express themselves more with makeup and jewelry, men don't.

>>17856376
That doesn't sound like it actually happened.

>>17856474
>Many people just don't know what to say unless there is a specific topic for conversation.

i think its because most people are boring, or have boring lives, and you cant really connect with them the same way through a screen than in real life. I can create a topic easily out of nothing because i read a lot of none fiction, i do interesting things, i have interesting friends and live in an interesting enviroment. if a guy or a girl does fuck all but drink, party, and work, they are not going to have much to say. Most people on dating sites are working full time so unless their jobs are interesting, they are not going to say much.

>>17851731
I've got pictures of me dressed in a suit, and it's done fuck all for me!

>>17856610
Yeah but I'm just wondering how much has the messaging culture changed since the 90s. Chat texts remind me of those teens in my class who were stupid and lazy, who couldn't write properly and sent nonsense text messages on the phone. Bad grammar doesn't annoy me because I'm not a native speaker myself but netspeak (like "u", "r", "bae") and one-liners really do. If it wasn't ok for me when I was 7, it surely isn't now.

>>17856088
>its easy to judge but if you where a guy

Actually, I think the same way of people who write copy-paste messages on Couchsurfing or when they search for room in a apartment too. People are just lazy and don't take the time. It isn't that I don't like those people, some of my best friends use "r u" which kind of pisses me off and copy-paste all their messages when looking for a job or a room and wonder why nobody answers. They are not stupid, but just lack the culture of writing decent messages. The same goes for e-mails. People tend to forget normal writing culture. Maybe it is just me because I'm over 30 and introverted, that means I write more on my computer than I speak.

I agree that it is more difficult for guys otherwise, because they are rarely that pretty and safe-looking that you want to meet them without knowing them first. I know I would invite almost any girl over and fucked her if I were heterosexual male, but it isn't the same for guys, you need to meet first.

The only reason to use a dating site as a man is if you have good stats but are too socially anxious to get your foot in the door normally.

These men don't really exist

>>17856610
you sound really boring, if you have nothing to say unless there is a specific topic for conversation

>>17858233
How do you form sentences when there is no purpose? Not that I don't have anything to say, I can't get what is even going on. I can't logically understand how people make sentences when they talk about nothing and their conversation goes nowhere, there is no result. I just hear sentences but they don't even fit together, it isn't like a story that you read.

>>17858297
they are trying to put out their own conversation topics

if you weren't a sad autist you'd realize this

>>17858320
I don't put out topics, I rarely talk if there is no topic that interests me which is actually quite often. My problem is if there is no topic, like small talk. When people ask each other questions but without any purpose to actually get to know them or talk about something that everyone can see anyway (just to pass time, not to point out the problem).

For instance, dating chat messages that you can find online make no sense for me. It isn't a story that you would write down and that has a meaning.

>>17858330
>they are trying to put out their own conversation topics
i was kidding about the autist remark, but holy shit

they are cycling through topics to spark conversation. christ almighty anon, do you not understand basic human interaction?

>>17856237
>most people meet girls through friends

Wish this would happen to me. none of my friends,male or female introduce me to anyone.
Maybe I should start putting it out there im looking for someone. I don't usually tell anyone that I like someone or shit like that. I mean what are they going to do about it? not like they care or need to know.

>>17858349
I completely stopped anything like that after someone told me "I could never condemn a woman to being with you"

>>17858338
I am probably autistic. I do understand how to have an actual conversation but not small talk (which is not common here anyway) and I can't ask somethign I don't mean because I sound really fake, my tone of voice, expression and so on.
I would understand if people cycled through actual topics but they talk about nothing at all. Like, look at the grass there, the teacher had weird hat today, when was your grandmother born, age, sex, location. I can't think out such meaningless things because even those examples are actual topics. Real chat is not. I usually think what to say before I even enter the room-

>>17854580
I feel your pain dude.

>ideally, want somebody thats not into smoking or drinking. Not really a fan of clubbing either.
>My idea of a good saturday night would be either gaming/watching something all night, or just a night out on the town, doing fuck whatever.
>this baffles people as apparently a 20+ year old male in america that doesnt do any of that is unheard of

According to women in my area, that is not an option. It also severely limits the activities I can do and the kind of women I can date in general.

Think i might give up looking for my ideal partner and just go with whomever is available and do what they like to do. I'm a pretty easy going guy, so I'm up for whatever anybody wants to do.

>>17858392

find more hobbies, esp once similar to what you already like, that will involve you meeting other people.

Is the match% thing accurate?

>>17851549
No, because females just camp and males are supposed to do all the heavy lifting.

t. made fake profile with an average-looking girl with 1 pic and 0 bio, got 20 visits and 10 messages the first minute

made fake profile of hot guy, got nothing

>>17859326
Should we feel sorry for guys who are answering an empty profile who is not looking for a relationship but checking out their friend's profile or just doing some personality tests?
If the guy is so lazy that he doesn't even check if the account is real, who can you blame here? This is why girls don't answer, because most guys just blindly message any girl, no matter if they actually search for someone.