Motivation

How often do you jack off?

>>17850611
>PORN IS A SIN IT MAKES YOUR BRAIN DUMB STOP JERKING YOUR WEINER OFF TODAY AND HAVE THE DREAM LIFE YOU ALWAYS WANTED
/adv/ in a nutshell

>>17850587
Motivation is bullshit and leads to nothing without action.

You need discipline. Start marking things on your calendar for every day of the week and actually do them. Keep it up and theres your discipline.

Motivation is for Instagram fags.

>>17850621
and they are right though

>>17850621
They're kinda right, though...

There's no benefit to masturbating often and watching porn, only negatives. You literally can't go wrong with limiting your masturbation and shifting your focus to actual women you meet in real life.

>>17850611
Once or twice a week, I also have a fiance if that makes any difference.

>>17850622 that sounds like the way to go, thank you.

I agree with >>17850622
Initiative and discipline are important. If you have a job, try to transfer some of that to your day to day life. Do whatever it is like you're getting paid, and you will eventually be paid with peace of mind. I really like the calendar idea.

>>17850680
You have to keep yourself accountable though, no one else will do it for you. If you miss something for the day don't beat yourself up over it, just get it done ASAP.

>>17850693
That last bit might be the biggest hurdle, I tend to beat myself up until it becomes apathy.

>>17850693
>>17850732
Thank you though

>>17850732
Yeaaaaah don't do that. Treat your body like you would a good dog.

If it does something bad, don't fucking chastise it. Give it love and positivity.

>Fuck up real bad
>Tell yourself you're a stupid loser moron
>feel even worse

>fuck up real bad
>realize what your mistake was
>learn your lesson from said mistake
>Tell yourself "Don't worry about it bro, next time you got this."

>>17850622
This

But discipline is a skill. You don't just suddenly work for hours everyday. It's like a muscle, first you do a little bit, to be able to say "I do X every day", also time allocation is key; 30 minutes after dinner, before going to sleep. Cut off all distractions.
One key point of discipline is doing it even if you don't feel like it. Just motherfucking do it.
Anyway, you start by doing it for a brief period every day, and then you slowly raise the bar as time passes and you get used to doing it.
If done right, your life pretty much flips around in a relatively short period.
Also try to cut off on one of your main vices, for example porn (not necessarily jerking off unless it's not much of a problem for you). In my case I'm trying to reduce my coffee intake because it was a liability for me.

>>17850754
Thank you, that's a good way of putting it.

>>17850845
Do you think going by time or by tasks completed would be better? Like instead of 30 minutes spent should I instead go for complete goal each day. Little reasonable ones.
Thank you

>>17850876
Just depends on what you are trying to do. If you're going to run do it for time, chores just do them, read x amount of pages yada yada.