Depressed Over "Helping My Parents"

you could always just kill yourself

>>17846709
Just calm down and try to reason with them.

In hindsight, instead of lying about not wanting to help them with stuff, you could have been more open about it, e.g. telling them you enjoy helping them, but have a life of your own so you can only do it 1-2 times a month.

Tbh it does sound like they're asking too much of you. Half of your paycheck and a ton of your time off work is definitely too much. Again, what I would do is just try to negotiate something more reasonable while keeping a decent relationship with them.

>>17846718
I do love my family, but sometimes I entertaining the fact that I could just GTFO from home as I make about $200000 per year, but deep down in my heart I just can't live without them too.

I actually used to put the blame on the very intrusive Church teachings, but that would bring another sore points in my relationship with my parents.

>>17846732
Yeah, many of my coworkers actually thought I'm giving my parents too much. But still, I'm actually not minding the financial ones, I just want to tell them I want to have some time off and just being lazy at home like most guys.

They actually responded by telling me that I should quit my job and working in my hometown instead. And they aren't tolerating what they deem as sloth and laziness.

>>17846751
Then put your foot down.

Tell them that you're a grown man and you can do with your life as you please. They should be happy that you're giving them anything.

remember this moment when you're elderly and alone and nobody is there to help you in your old age

>>17846772
You nailed the very reason I keep up with my parents demands when everyone else thought I'm giving too much.

But still, when I'm old, I won't force my children to help me with my works, and most importantly, never get into too much commitment in what supposed to be voluntary church works.

Father keep bare minimum conversation with me this night, while mother refused to even talk with me until now, only my little brother willing to really speak with me, but still...

>>17846804
OP. Tell your parents mentally challenging work is more rewarding than menial labor and that if they tried it more you wouldn't have to send them money.

>>17846772
Dude, get fucked. He is giving half of his money and his time to people who call him an ungrateful shit.

His father cannot do his job by himself, his mother does not work even though his family lives on charity? His mother should be helping the father with work or the son with homework before they should live on the handouts of others.

>>17846772
T. no actual life experience