About a month ago I had an extremely akward sexual encounter

>>17841849
>hey... I didn't used to look like this, so I'm kind of new to these things
>can we just kiss for a while and see where it goes?

Just be fucking genuine. Obviously you can't be anything else right now since you're so psyched out about it

>>17841858
I don't even know if I'll be getting physical with this girl again, it's just something that's eating away at me. Like I feel like I owe this girl an apology, but I can't tell if an apology is what she wants.

>>17841858
>>17841862
Don't listen to that moron.
Juat cut all contact, completely ignore her, find another girl to fuck and get over the whole thing.

>>17841862
Don't apologize just try to talking to her again

>>17841862
>ask
>maybe get physical again
>don't ask
>won't ever know if you can

>>17841858
>>17841862
And my bad, I just realized you were referring to girls in the future. I'm definitely going to be more open about it. I was much more secretive about it when I was fat because I felt like girls definitely wouldn't want to put up with me if they found out about my lack of experience.

>>17841865
It's going to be difficult to cut all contact when I'll be seeing her on campus regularly. She was also just a fun girl to hang out with, regardless of our romantic intentions.

I have no problem cutting contact with girls who aren't interested, this isn't a case of me trying to get /adv/ to tell me what I want to hear so I can orbit some random girl.

But I just think about this way too much. If I at least tried to talk to her about it, I might get some closure.

>>17841880
Stop caring, you fucked up with her, no way to fix it really.
If you keep interacting with her you'll just keep worrying about how you failed in bed.
Relax, take it easy, as soon as you manage to find another girl and properly fuck her then you'll completely forget about her.
If she also feels bad about the whole thing then it's her problem, not yours. Plus, she probably just thinks you're pathetic and already told all her friends about how you couldn't get hard, women are like that.
Move on and find another bitch to fuck.

>>17841880
If you think you should talk to her about it you should but it's a bit odd after this long

>>17841897
She's a sorority girl so she has probably definitely told friends. But I still don't see what I have to lose if I try to talk to her about it. I really just want closure at this point, I can't stop thinking about this every week. Can you give me some specific reasons for why cutting contact would be the better option? Because that's essentially what I did in the first place, and I can't say I wouldn't have handled the situation differently looking back on it now.

>>17841873
Some girls will think it's cute, some will think it's a drag that they have to teach a guy how to fuck.

Thing is, which attitude towards sex is more attractive to you, whether you were experienced or not? Would it be the open, positive one? Or the expectant, negative one?

>>17841912
Because you have absolutely nothing to gain.
She doesn't need closure, that's just something you convinced yourself to believe.
She's a sorority girl so she gets all the good dick she wants, talking to her and trying to explain yourself like a beta will just annoy her.

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Ended up texting her, she responded basically saying that she's akward too and that it was both our fault, and that she still likes me.

Holy fuck why did I fall for the no contact meme?

>>17841865
>>17841897
>>17841918
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If/when you get close again, you absolutely have to take it at a fucking glacier pace. Make this clear to her as well.

Go SUPER slow, just feel her up, maybe finger her, see what she does, play it by ear and do not have any expectation to have sex unless you really really want to in the moment.

Jumped-up teenagers with no hangups about being a virgin at their age might find it okay to leapfrog from making out to straight up intercourse but if you're older and you've got some issues about it, that's going to be too much for your brain. I know it sounds like obvious advice but I was in the same boat as you and I had two floppy nervous cock fuckups before I figured this out.

>>17842104
>he actually believed her

Fine then cuck, learn the hard way.

>>17842207
>Continue casually fucking girl
>Cuck
hmm?

>>17842261
You couldn't even fuck her you limp-dicked faggot.