my girlfriend is in control of my emotions

>>17834664
But I've never broken up with a girl before. I still feel like I love her. I think about all the great times we had, I think about all the times we said we'd be together forever and I just couldn't break her heart like that. Honestly it breaks my heart just thinking about it. I still love all of her good qualities, I'm just not sure if I want to deal with these negatives for the rest of my life. I'm not sure if I really love myself anymore.

I just don't know what to do. Help please.

>>17834664
When you came to /adv/ to ask, you already knew what you have to do.
Leave, this is a toxic relationship. Love is not everything in a relationship and someone who neither respect you nor your feelings is not someone you'd want to spend the rest of your life with.
Yes it will suck, but you've got to dude.
And the quicker the better.

>>17834664
Anon, if she makes you afraid that's not healthy. If you are doing kind things for her because you feel like if you didn't then she would be upset at you. You aren't in a healthy relationship. It will hurt for a long time, but eventually you'll pull yourself back and become who you were. you'll never learn to fly if you are tied down to a rock.
Focus on the people who make you happy when your down, talk to your mom or someone you can emotionally trust. I believe that it isn't healthy to be in that relationship and that the best thing for you would be to break it off. It'll hurt, boy will it hurt, but your life will be yours again. good luck anon.

>>17834690
>>17834707
but how much of this is me? how much is just me creating this kind of reality for myself? how much is this just my mind working against me? do you know what I mean? like how much is really her and how much is really me?

not all relationships are like this, right? this isn't one of those "deal with the bad because of the good" kind of things i hear about? my only other relationship was not as serious as this one.

>>17834755
OP any bit of you that wants to break up with her is you. You are not her, your thoughts are your own. She seems like a very manipulative person and with people like that, from my own experience it's better to leave them.

Not all relationships are like that. This seems like, from the information that you've provided it's more bad than good. you dont buy someone a gift, one of the sweetest things you can do for a person, out of fear or repercussions if you hadn't. That sounds like a toxic reason.

I'm sorry, it is hard to hear but you need to end this. she will get angry, she will cry, it's possible you'll feel the need to stay with her, you have to fight it. It'll be difficult, more difficult than most thin gs in life, but there is a light beyond the dark.

>>17834755
OP, try to read this : https://markmanson.net/boundaries
It might help you.