Hey /adv/, 29/M/Straight here, technically a virgin.
I'll try to be brief (I will probably not be brief): normally I'm not shy tho I've only been in one relationship (back in HS but we were never intimate--I grew up in a small town in Mexico so it happens).
Anyway in college I had some one night stands and found it difficult to get or mantain an erection. Sometimes I was drunk but sometimes I wasn't.
Then after college I've had a few one night stands more and have also tried with a few prostitutes but still nada.
I don't have a problem meeting girls and desu I'm not the most handome guy out there but I do ok--I'm a 6'1 white male not fat nor skinny and I make good money in a 'manly' job. All these things go a long way in MX.
I have a normal libido and I think this is ridiculous--I try to only masturbate at most every other day but I could do it everyday no prob.
Now I've been getting some good matches on Tinder but I've been getting SO anxious about my performance (or lack of it).
I don't know if it's a psychological or physical problem and it's not really a matter of just putting myself out there because I've done that quite a few times with the same result.
What do you think is wrong? Have you heard of a similar case? Should I seek therapy or an urologist?
Ok so turns out I was very thorough and not brief at all.
Try the easy way: stop masturbating.
Use your sexual Try the easy way: stop masturbating.
Use your sexual energy to find compassion and understanding.energy to find compassion and understanding.
>>17828473
How will never masturbating help me?
I mean it's not like I spend all day long beating it, I just wanted to say my libido is normal.
>>17828497
It's not about the semen (I guess) or about the sexual hormones. It's about the neural pathways and dopamine and serotonin in your brain.
It's the same reason a person who tries to trip on LSD too many times in a month or so, will have bad trips progressively worse, and be a zombie in it's waking life. Serotonin specially affects how you literally perceive reality around you.
Excess use of serotonin will overload your neurons capacity to "understand" it for a couple of weeks.
>>17828568
So no fap for a couple weeks and then I'll hace an epiphany.
You probably need to find the right girl.
I am not really good at casual sex.
>>17829233
Trial and error eh?
Hopefully it's soon rather than later.