Try to help my friend that's ignoring me?

She's your best friend for 20 years so you have the right and I would say an obligation to do something here

Unless you do something drastic I feel like she won't snap out of it

Idk if just a chat at the bar will do desu but it's worth the shot

If you think she won't just brush you off if you talk to her, go for it. But it sounds like she's down a dark path and simply extending your hand as a friend isn't going to do much.

A lot of people have to learn the hard way, and based on what you've said from my POV it looks like that's going to be the case this time around.

I'd let her dad handle it initially. You can say a lot, but there's no guarantee it will be heard and your friendship may be ruined forever. But do bear in mind that if you try to talk to her about it after the fact, she may take it as an attack. Could be ruined forever that way, too -- but the real goal should be getting her sober.

Honestly I can't give real advice here, it's really up to you. Just be prepared for a bad time in any case.

>>17825534
Oh, and be prepared to give support no matter the decision you make.

People with real substance abuse issues will often lash out when someone highlights their addiction as an actual problem. Keep in mind it's more the addiction talking than her, should things go south. I said and did some terrible things before I cleaned up my act, and looking back I'm deeply ashamed of them.

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>>17825524

ITs good you are concerned, its the right thing to do. I wonder if you need a team approach as to whats going on, you, her family, her friends, her ex boyfriend. I would certainly talk to everyone and see what everyone is doing and take a co-ordinated approach.

>150000$ job
>Get fired
I would advise to point a finger at her and laugh heartily for actually being the stuff of jokes and throwing away such an indecent income.

>>17825532

What's something "drastic" I can do?

>>17825534
I was partly thinking this. I feel like if I try to intervene she's just going to push back on me for getting involved in her shit, and maybe come at me for my excessive drinking.

>>17825547
Her ex is happy to work with me if I can help, but he doesn't want her back or anything, so that's limiting. She'll be mad at me for taking his side. Her family? I don't know. I think they like me, but I don't know how much. I used to fool around with her sister and ended up not talking to the family for a long time.