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>>17814829
I like a grill but I don't know how express interest in her. I went out with her but just kept the conversation dry because I don't know how to flirt or express interest. To be honest I'm tempted to just confess over text. What do?

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>>17814838
i don't fucking know. relationships are the worst and starting them is hard. good luck :/

http://vocaroo.com/i/s1tXoEajVVoR

http://vocaroo.com/i/s1tXoEajVVoR

>>17814851
fuck I feel like I left out some pretty important stuff there. We're friends and she likes me enough that she brought me back to hers to try and fuck me once, but I sperged out. Honestly I talk to her rarely but she always seems interested, I just don't reciprocate because I don't know how and so it always dies out. I like her but I'm never comfortable around her and feel like a burden with my awkwardness. I dunno if you can help out, don't worry about it if you can't.

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>>17814872
http://vocaroo.com/i/s08s5QBQML1l

>>17814890
That's reassuring. I don't know about in person though, I've literally tried to do it before but I just hit an emotional wall that I can't break. I've tried drinking too and I still can't do it.

>>17814908
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0zoJXLSW5IB

>>17814921
Ah but now we've come back to a key issue here: I don't know how to show this interest to her. Sure I could just come out and say I like her but I don't know how to work up to it, the little things I can do to express affection and interest.

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>>17814938
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0U5RNzbv6wd

>>17814829
May I ask why you choose to answer through vocaroo? I don't mean to be confrontative. I just don't see these often in /adv/ and I'm curious as to what spurred the choice, or gave you the idea.

>>17814959
Not her but I know I give better advice when I talk it out than typing.

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>>17814959
http://vocaroo.com/i/s1sAWF3HQhlb

and vocaroo is safe because i can delete something if it sounds bad to me

>>17814949
I think you're right and I'm overthinking it. If I just took action I'd be dating her ages ago. Still, I am absolutely an awkward person to be around, and lack any confidence or personality and sometimes she seems bored around me so I feel like it's all my fault. Maybe I just need to hammer back some more drinks. Thanks for the advice.

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>>17814969
http://vocaroo.com/i/s1fd9YPE9ePd

like you're probably not as boring as you think, just unsure of yourself and lacking the confidence to be yourself.

but mostly stop overanalyzing everything and just do the damn thing.

>>17814981
Well I eat well and just started going to the gym actually, so fingers crossed that it helps. Thanks again.

>>17814829
How do I reconcile my apathy for (90% of) women, with my guilt for ignoring/blowing off the ones that are interested in me? Sometimes I feel really bad when I happen to run into these chicks again and view their reactions to my frosty indifference. On the other hand, at times I feel just the opposite, a la "girls are annoying and a waste of time, why bother", and will literally go out of my way to avoid them. Why can't I just give someone a chance?

>>17814986
http://vocaroo.com/i/s1fxkXYH3OXY

>>17814991
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0vd747pDdfw

>>17815023
It's mainly women because men don't take an interest in me nearly as much to that end.
I admit to having trust issues and tend to get annoyed too easily, but how is being aloof analogous to being an asshole? Would it be better to lead them on before pulling the plug once I'm annoyed enough? Explain.

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>>17815051
http://vocaroo.com/i/s00FyH6cXqAf

yeah sorry i feel bad at advice tonight. i'm a little off my game atm :/

>>17814967
Wow, I didn't expect that. It's not silly at all, I've felt the same.

It's always come naturally to try to make my voice as small as possible, as if it were better to be unheard. But that's no good, right? People shouldn't be so ashamed of their voices that they won't speak. So I've tried to practice in the same way through customer service jobs. But it only works because I'm wagering your anxiety over speaking against the pressure to do the job right. As it turns out, that takes some getting used to. After all, and for the longest time, it was enough in school to keep your head down and listen.

Vocaroo though, that's hard. I can't bring myself to send one in return, even though it seemed like a fun thing to do. But I think you have the right idea. You're building from the ground up instead of throwing yourself into it. So I'll try that from now on, too.

Good luck, please don't give up.

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>>17815124
>>17815132
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0IRwofDgVV8

also i think maybe i'm just crazy? work voice wasn't quite my real work voice but idk

ugh why am i so awkward.

>>17815197
Yeah it makes sense, scuse the panic delete.

You sound more natural in your normal voice, not your work one. But it's understandable that you have to speak in a certain way to be understood by them.

I imagine it's probably pretty hard to meet guys in your line of work. And I've dated a girl long distance who did something similar. It seemed... depressing. And it didn't help her that she lived in a small town. most of the guys there were farmers who wouldn't share her interest, druggies with nothing else to do, or college kids going to the local missionary college. Not exactly a whole lot to choose from, especially considering most people were already coupled.

It wasn't realistic to change her situation, she still hasn't. That was why a crapshoot LDR was acceptable at the time. But it may help to change something about your situation.

Do you like your job? Does it work for you? Is it realistic to try and do something else?

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Should I relax my views of sex and relationships? So far I've only looked for serious relationships so naturally I'm a dateless virgin at 28. People always tell me to chill out and even my mother thinks there is something wrong with me because I don't want to watch sex scenes on TV. But I think sex itself is vulgar and I believe my future husband will by happier if I am pure.

Media is always bombarding us with facts about how healthy sex is and recently I've started reading about how both loneliness and "skin hunger" is as bad for your health as chronic stress. I don't care about peer pressure or anything but it looks to me like there is a mountain of evidence saying that I'm wrong and only hurting myself.

I am european, atheist and female by the way.