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Stop having feelings for someone unavailable 2016-11-30 18:26:21 Post No. 17810875
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Stop having feelings for someone unavailable
Anonymous
2016-11-30 18:26:21
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i was so certain that this girl at my uni was totally as into me as i was into her. I really never felt this connected so someone since my ex whom I dated for 3 years. we talked alot and had dinner together, then when i told her how i felt she was nice about it but said she had a bf (idk if hes here or back in her country).
The thing is, I still wanna be friends with her. She's really cool and fun to be with, one of the reasons I wasn't gonna do it initially was I didn't want to lose her as a friend if it ended badly (like how it ended with my last ex). But I don't want to keep having feelings for her In a romantic way.
Is it possible for me to just make this go away and stop looking at her like this way? Is this a good idea? I don't want to just lose her as a friend or look petty, but I'm just lost because I've never been in a situation before like this.
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>>17810875
Please. I don't have much time left
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>>17811050
How can we tell you about your feelings?
You know she is not available. So try to make that click in your head. Sorry, but that's all we can offer. You know howcyou think better than us.
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>i told her how i felt
what exactly did you say?
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>>17811075
He didn't ask about his feelings for her.
He asked if he should stay friends with her because he likes her company or drop her as a friend because he likes her and she doesn't.
Idk what to tell you OP. I wanna know what other anons think.
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>>17811189
I asked her out and said I liked her
I didn't drop the L word or went on some giant thing, I know better. But I did let her know of my intentions, and I may have fucked up by using the word "gorgeous"
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>>17811203
ok that's fine
you can be friends if that's what you want, but you might develop stronger feelings and then it might be tough to be friends, or your feelings might go away entirely
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>>17810875
Yeah, most of the time this kind of thing isn't working out. If you're not sure about yourself, you better drop this.
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>>17810875
>Is it possible for me to just make this go away and stop looking at her like this way? Is this a good idea? I don't want to just lose her as a friend or look petty, but I'm just lost because I've never been in a situation before like this.
I think the only reliable method here is to go out and find another romantic interest, thus automatically 'pushing out' the old one. It's not easy, obviously.
I can relate though, I've expressed my romantic feelings towards my crush, got rejected - we're still cool, so that worked out nice, despite me obviously still harboring those feelings. However, should she actually find a guy, I'll probably go full miserable if I have to see them together. Let's see..
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>>17810875
Honestly bro I make it go away by severing most of my contact with the unavailable person and going to talk to more women. Even if it's meaningless, seeing a woman smile and interact with me makes me feel better, and takes my mind off the last one.
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