Is there any way to force the female sex drive to work? Some

I'm considering circumsising myself with a boxcutter since that thing won't make me happy.

What puts you off sex specifically? Do you know?

>>17798168
What puts you off swallowing sand? Why do you not like plucking hairs off your head?

It just doesn't feel nice or good and I either want to be able to do it or never have to think about it again.

>>17798179
So I take it then that even working your own fingers aren't fun? Sex drive isn't the issue then, it's than you have either an over sensitive clitoris or a psychological hang up that makes you feel overly conscious of things, killing the pleasure vibes.

>>17798184
>>17798184
How can it be overly sensitive if I can pin it between a vibrator and my pelvic bone and still not feel a thing?

What vibe?

this thread again it sems

>>17798195
Alright, deffinately the latter then. Do you ever find yourself getting turned on or do you just try to get off as an experiment? Genuinely just trying to eliminate possibilities at this point.

>>17798202
I used to be able to get wet from certain things and thoughts but that doesn't happen anymore.

All I know is that an orgasm is supposed to be a massive relief of all tension and on an averge tuesday there's more tension to me than blood and bone and that has to stop.

>>17798206
Well you're not wrong. Let's put it this way: can you think of any reason why you've stopped getting wet? An experience or just complete divorce from sexual culture?

>>17798207
I haven't had a sexual experience since 2014 - my ex helped me discover that a penetrative toy won't do any better than just the bullet vibrator - and I guess I was still able like a month ago. Still no real pleasure or anything, not like you'd get from a cup of coffee. Don't think I've ever had sex that felt as nice as a cup of light roast arabica, or a cigarette, and I don't really even smoke.

I have no idea what sexual culture means.

>>17798210
Basically just immersing yourself in the kind of lifestyle of casual hook ups, you know, tinder, etc.

Ok, so we know you're not getting any fun out of it in that it doesn't feel good, or atleast it doesn't feel good as of late. When you've been trying recently has it been just a "fuck it, I need stress relief" kind of deal?

>>17798211
It has always been that.

To be honest if I'd ever go out on a date with a guy who expects sex I'd probably get some kind of a weapon to defend myself with. Come to think of it, I think I'd like stabbing the guy more than I'd like getting fucked.

I mean, I was in a car crash a while ago, survived without a scratch and the car with a few bumps (nobody else was hurt either) but for the brief moment that the car was spinning out of control I had this brief moment of "cool, I might die today!" And I've never had that kind of little moment of glee from a prospect of sex.

>>17798217
Right, going to go out on a limb here and say you have some problems with General happiness atm, would it be fair to say you don't have a huge degree of care for yourself? Like, not quite suicidal, but not hugely invested in living day to day?

>>17798220
idk, the thought of dying in a car crash always seems infinitely more tempting than having to go to work in the morning.

But I've always been like this, it's always been the same. I was like this as a kid.

>>17798222
Right, so as best I can say, you're probably not feeling anything from sex/ masturbation because you're way too wound up/ generally unhappy. Sure, it's good for relief, but you're striking me as pretty tightly wound, which would actually completely shut off you're ability to enjoy it.

Best bet might be to try getting drunk/ high on you're own and watching porn or just getting into a good headspace and seeing if that makes a difference. Maybe try /soc/ and posting a faceless body shot if you feel like it's more of a body confidence thing?

>>17798231
I have problems with alcoholism and no access to weed.

How am I supposed to unwind if I'm too wound up to unwind?

>>17798238
What typically relaxes you?

>>17798239
That word is not a part of my vocabulary.

I'm happy when I'm drunk, sometimes.

>>17798256
Well there's you're problem. You need to find a way to get in a good head space or really horny and try it. Either get some weed or just set a day aside and chill as hard as you can.

or watch a shit load of the porn that gets you going or talk to someone about fetishes/ fantasies. You'd be suprised how turned on you can get when you realise there's a way to act out fetishes, even if not in real life.

>>17798259
I have no place to chill in private, and I really wish you could believe me when I say I have roughly the same chance to obtain weed as rhino horn or an albino's right hand.


I've tried browsing the stuff, I can pretty much recognise the people who contribute to that on tumblr by a glance of a faceless pic, but nothing stirs. I don't know if it's possible to wear out a fetish but it's stopped completely.

Aren't there any other ways to have relief? I don't get a sense of relief from cutting myself like some people do, and I hate either feeling like a coward for not daring to cut deeper than a scrape, or panic when I actually DO cut deep, and the scars are impossible to hide forever.

Stubbing a cigarette on myself could be sufficient, I guess, but I can't exactly do it on my hands any more than I can strip naked in public.

I just need to make this feeling stop. It's like I'm being constantly strangled and even crying doesn't make it wash out anymore, it just stays and stays and feels twice as bad hung over.

My psychologist tells me to look for hobbies and turn to friends for emotional support. He's not much help but I don't know how to get rid of him.