How do I fight loneliness /adv/?

Don't. Embrace it. Everyone is lonely and is gonna die lonely.

I don't even try to be edgy, that's just how it is.

>>17796240
It was never like this.

by making friends and talking to people

alternatively, by watching chinese cartoons, reading and playing videogames.

>>17796246
You get used to it is what the other guy is trying to say. Eventually you'll become empty inside and life will return to its shitty self.

>>17796253
I always feel like people would get uncomfortable when I talk to them, how do I even know if that person wants to have a little chat. I'm not bad looking so that's not the problem.

>>17796278
Most people want to talk, unless they're feeling like shit. Just go to social events etc, there's going to be people wanting to talk.

>>17796282
I'll try, thanks.

>>17796262
Yep. Loneliness doesn't even register with me now.

Hell, imagining myself in social situations actually kinda freaks me out. I have no problem talking with people professionally, but the idea of emotional intimacy or vulnerability is an alien concept to me. It's so divorced from my normal state of being that the person I'm imagining is entirely different from who I am.

>>17796296
Ha, yeah, I still put myself out there occasionally if I'm invited but I'm never actively looking for something.

I learnt to cope with loneliness and now I am ok simply being on my own. It's pretty nice (sometimes).

define 'lonely'. im guessing you are edgy and claiming that the universe has magically decided that you will be single, so im going to write out assuming that.

the things you need for a happy life are
>a job you can stand
>'productive' hobbies
>meaningful relationsihps

the problem with most people is that hteir lives lack any meaning and they assume other people (specifically girls) can fill that hole. get excited about what you do, alone or with other people, and you'll be happy and fulfilled.

lets start with
>a job you can stand

not everyone gets their dream jobs and most dream jobs are not what they are cracked up to be. however if work is something you hate or get sad at the thought of, then your job isnt right for you. try to find a career field you can stand.

my best friend loves working at a restaurant cuz its social. he just has to take orders, make small talk, and deliver plates. it keeps him on his feet and burning calories. I cant stand wokring at a restaurant. i enjoy the exercise but after that it makes me feel like im dead inside. I prefer working in a small business cuz i enjoy wearing suits, relaxing, doing math etc.

dont be afraid to try new jobs. it may take up extra time until you find the right one (what iwth working one job and applying for another) but its an important sacrifice to make until you find one that works for you.

>>17796361

>'productive' hobbies

i put productive in quotes cuz the actual definition of productive is hazy here. my advice is generally to take something you enjoy doing in your down time and reverse engineer it. for instance,

>do you like playing video games? learn how to design one
>like reading comics? draw one!
>reading books? write one!
>watching TV? film a web series!
>watching movies? write / produce one!
>sitting in chairs? build one!
>listening to music? learn an instrument!
>like cars? start remodeling them.
>any other subject? consider a podcast! or managing a meetup!

some hobbies can be a little expensive but a LOT of hobbies are getting cheaper and cheaper by the day. even filmmaking is REALLY cheap after the initial investment. i even learned visual effects to make it even easier for me to tell the badass stories i want.

whatever your interest, reverse engineer it. dont be afraid to try multiple things you do not need to have one hobby for the rest of your life or even the rest of your year.

write a book, then a comic, then radio play, then learn to build shit, then make a video game. do anything you want. just make sure its the kind of hobby that has a sort of 'end game' and mile stones.

just 'drawing' doesn't have much reward cuz there isnt much you can do with a drawing when its done except post it. no matter how bad your comic book is some people will want to read it.

most people avoid productive hobbies cuz they have a weird fantasy of only doing this when tehy magically get a huge budget and it becomes their careers. dont bother. just produce something for the fun of it.

>>17796362


finally, meaningful relationships. this doesn't mean dating. on the contrary. Romance is the absolute most fragile of all human relationships. its the reason you go through a million girls in your lifetime (whether in actual dating or just weird fuzzy feelings) but your best friends tend to be a select few.

if you like your parents, try to deepen that relationship. if you like your friends, deepen that. or make new friends, some hobbies, such as the filmmaking, are GREAT ways to meet like minded friends, and working together on such projects really bonds you together.

generally speaking. the best way to bond with people is to spend extended periods of time together, work on things together, and experience emotional shit together.

the reason high schoolers seem as close as those soldiers that call each other 'brother' is because in a high schoolers mind, daily life is just as dramatic and traumatizing as a battle field. its edgy, but it works. they share their emotions together adn spend more time together than they do with their parents.

so dont be afraid to collaborate with people on building, designing, writing, go camping, take a road trip, or just have a fuckin sleepover where you intend to beat an entire game.

nothing bonds people together like time. being 1 on 1 also helps as they develop a bond with you instead of a whole group.

>>17796237
Read Anthony Sterr's book on the subjecy