Two months ago, my mom passed away. This was a very sudden and

A couple of weeks go by and my dad is showing me pictures of women he's trying to take out on dates. I feel that while he can do whatever he wants, and is clearly doing so, that he's pushing it on me way too fucking soon. He's already gone on four dates and I'm not even sure if a woman would ever want to date a man that just lost his wife and all the baggage that comes with it unless she's a gold digger, which brings me to my next concern. My dad is a fucking idiot when it comes to trusting people and money.

He's lost thousands and thousands of dollars in desperate times just because he thought the money was safe out in the open. He's also telling me that I need to start buying his groceries since he's got to "tighten his belt". He hasn't sold any of his ten vehicles, which with the interest on the one's he's still paying comes out to about 250k left he hast to pay. I feel he's making me subsidize his fiscal irresponsibility. I also feel that whatever woman he chooses to marry will inherent everything if he were to pass, meaning that the houses and cars and everything else goes to some other fucking family. He'd probably be proud of himself, too, since he does that when he can make my life any bit harder in any fashion. (something he's been telling me for years, "If I can make your life a living hell, that's a good thing. It's good for character.) The cherry on top is that the house we live in was paid for with money from my mom's mom that was intended to go to me and my sister. My mom is a big push over so my dad took the money to buy the house since he didn't want to deal with the HOA at the old house, though, she did say that if she were alive, that my cut of the house was guaranteed. I get no cut now, which is a big fucking wrench in my life plans, since that was a decent five figures I was to get in the next three years.

Should I feel bad for wanting to disown my father? Should I go ahead and do that? I really don't want this person in my life, and the only reason why I stayed in this house was to help take care of my mom.

>>17787868
Man up, talk to him about these concerns and more importantly tell him to get a fucking grip. It's quite possible that these are side-effects of his grief and he might be more upset than you think. Nevertheless, what he's doing is unacceptable and if he still refuses to see the light after you've sincerely and truthfully voiced your concerns it's time for you to make the cut and remove him from your life.

>>17787970
This.

Tell him straight up to stop being a pathetic excuse for a man, and to grow a pair of balls already.

unfortunately this is your dads way of dealing with greif. everybody greives in their own way his way is to try not to be alone and using somebody else to take away hius problems.

you need to sit him down and have a proper heart to heart talk. he may not listen but then again he may do as well.