Paying for sex calls/videos

>>17787065
How often do you see each other? If you see each other often and have lots of sex, then that could be indicative of an addiction.

Why is a 23 year old girl dating a damn near 40 year old man? I get girls like older guys but this is ridiculous.

Also understand that this guy is only using you for sex....you two are in two completely life paths right now.

>>17787090
Yeah we pretty much are with each other constantly. Im kind of thinking you're right.

>>17787065
Personally, if I were getting personalized calls/videos from camgirls it'd be a pretty huge red flag that the relationship I'm in isn't doing it for me.
If my significant other was doing that, I'd be extremely uncomfortable.
Being "cool" with uncomfortable behaviour is most often not worth it. Confront him about it.

>>17787101
I know its a large difference, we met through mutual friends and i didnt even know his age until I had feelings for him. I honestly don't think its for sex i think its the opposite... he wants the emotional side from me (sex too) but he wants to settle down and find a "partner".

>>17787143
Thanks, i did, im trying to be calm about it.

6 months though. Maybe this guy's just acting on a habit he's had for years, and doesn't realise how bad it is for real relationships.
Tell him to knock that shit off. If he can't do that then maybe consider it an addiction.

>>17787157
> he wants to settle down
lol i guarantee you, you're not the first or last slut half his age he's said that to.

>>17787187
Could be the case, he hasnt had a serious relationship in years.

>>17787209
Can tell you're quite the gentleman. Thanks bud.

Dating a man that much older than you is fucking retarded if you think it's about anything other than him getting young pussy and you getting a guy with money

>>17787538
literally all relationships are like that though

>>17787065
I used to do what he did but I ended it once I got in a relationship. I understand why he's doing it but it's tantamount to infidelity. I say don't even give him a chance about it. Sorry but you're only 23 and you'll find plenty other people in your life, it seems like he's just using you.

>>17787065
>>17787090
>>17787143

Really depends on what his relationship status was before you. I got bored of sex with the woman I was dating around 5 years ago and eventually found out about camgirls, and since I have disposable income I went ahead and did some of the stuff you're talking about because it turned me on a lot more than the sex I was getting from her at the time. After we broke up, I still watched camgirls pretty regularly and paid for things like videos and pictures 2-4 times a month for a couple years. I met the woman I'm with now and I did keep doing it for probably about a year after we started dating, simply because it was a different kind of sexual stimulation for me and I liked it. I eventually stopped, she found out about it and just told me that she felt like even though we had a healthy sex life and she knew I loved her, that me watching/paying for camgirls while we were dating hurt her feelings and made her feel jealous, just like that without freaking out about it. I thought about it and decided to stop and see where that went, but told her I wouldn't delete the stuff I already had both because I paid for it, and because sometimes I want a change of pace with what I'm masturbating with, and to me there's a separation between that and actual sex.

From time to time a still watch cam girls, maybe a couple times a month, but I haven't paid for any videos or pictures for a couple years. I'm satisfied with the woman I'm with and enjoy our sex thoroughly, and did from the initial start of us dating, so it might just be that he's used to it and likes it. Talk to him about it, don't demand he stop but ask him to dial it back and save that energy for you. Offer to let him tell you what to do or get a little more dominating while you're having sex, get him to take pictures or videos of you 2 having sex for the both of you, it all translates well and is stuff I did/do with my current partner that I "weaned off" with.

I know of a few relationships with that big of age gaps that have worked out well, but they're the exception.

Getting off 3 times a day is more than average, but not really insane.

As for how he chooses to get his jollies, you need to decide what you're okay with. Some partners put masturbation at all off-limits, some are cool with open relationships. There's no law saying where you have to draw the line, you just need to be comfortable with it. It doesn't sound like you are. But if this relationship is going to work, you need to be able to communicate. Decide what you think about it, and then talk it over with him. See if you can come to a compromise that makes both of you happy. You can also choose to accept the status quo, of course. At the end of the day, you may need to decide if it's worth breaking up over, but hopefully you can stop him before that if it's a big enough issue for you that you would.

>>17787065
>Also, how much porn is too much porn?
When you start prioritize it to important stuff.

Going his way out and paying for that shit and for calls is pretty extreme though, so I wouldn't say you're overreacting.

Also why are you dating someone who could be your dad?

>>17787681
Well i've now been condemned for spying on him. And now apparently he cant trust me when i found something. Sounds like some serious manipulation but I still feel guilty, or maybe i am the dick who knows
As for why im dating someone his age is just mostly because we hit it off and neither of us seemed to care.

>the old sex pervert I'm dating is creepy
yea no shit

>>17787923
>Sounds like some serious manipulation
And a good fucking sign to give him the boot.

>I still feel guilty, or maybe i am the dick
Even if you are but using the "you spied on me, so I can't trust you" shit he moved himself in dick territory, and that's ignoring the paying for porn and calls part.

Didn't you just find out by checking his tumblr account? If you went much further, you did act like an un-trusting partner, which doesn't affect the rest of course.

>neither of us seemed to care.
No 40 year old would mind dating a young chick. Did he have any relationships with women of similar age?

>>17787952
Hahaha best post of the Day

>/thread obviously