Trying to get a job?

If you lack social skills, please, for the love of Christ, do not teach.

>>17785306
I don't lack social skills that strongly, either. I just gotta overcome my shyness and improve my self confidence. I've given speeches for projects at college so that's something.

>>17785344
That still sounds like you shouldn't be teaching.

>>17785346
Give me reasons, and why this should be any different as a store clerk.

>>17785352
With teaching, you're not just talking one-on-one with another person, you're talking to a whole class. It's also not the same as giving a speech or general public speaking, since you're not just talking to them, you're actually interacting, answering questions, and thinking on your feet and responding to questions that they might ask. This means that it requires a lot of social finesse. In contrast, something like a store clerk is just talking to one person and just making small talk. You're not getting into complex discussions, which is what you'd be doing as teacher, and would be harder as you're not only trying to navigate yourself socially, but you're also dealing with the material you're teaching. Also, shy people who lack confidence aren't that approachable, and if you're teaching, you need to be approachable so that if your students have any questions, they're not disadvantaged by not feeling like they can ask you them after class or whatever. No one expects store clerks to have social skills, but they do expect them of teachers

>>17785371
That's interesting. I do admit that I do get nervous and it shows. My mind gets full of ideas and I lack the tools to channel that more properly. You're probably right, and I'm going to take that into account - it's probably not a good idea to teach, not because I don't know my shit or because I can't explain stuff, but rather because I do need to get more confident and less nervous when speaking, and I can only do this with reasonable exposure. Probably why my counselor doesn't want me to do teaching yet? Although her reasons were more along the lines of "this requires a good deal of responsibility".

>>17785405
>Although her reasons were more along the lines of "this requires a good deal of responsibility".
That's also a factor, I just didn't mention it because we were talking about social skills. Teaching isn't just teaching people, it also involves assessing what people have learnt. Not to mention, you're responsible for their education, and they're relying on you to actually teach them and teach them well.

>>17785413
Damn you're right. And with weak social skills this could very well go badly. My father clearly did not consider any of this, and in the other hand he'd rather have me working as a professional on the stuff I studied - even when I'm already doing related stuff.

>>17785448
Your father probably considers that you're 'above' working retail or whatever. Which, realistically speaking and given your current skillset, you're not. At the very least, you're not at a point where you can teach.

>>17785448
>>17785451
Not to mention, your therapist is giving you a more objective view on the situation. She's seen and heard all the facts, and is advising you based on that. She doesn't have any stake in what happens in your life, whereas your father might be the sort of person who would consider it a 'risk' to his name if you're seen working in a store or whatever. He might also not be as aware of your shyness and lack of confidence, which are your two biggest barriers.

>>17785451
He definitely does. And I definitely need to get out of my home and do some sort of work that won't consume my entire time because I also need that time.

Given what you said I'm definitely going to have a second talk but I'm also leaning more heavily towards retail, and this is the perfect timing to net a job, especially because stores need people badly.

>>17785458
I agree on that as well, and oddly enough my family is also super skeptical of her (mostly because what she's told me basically goes against most of my family's beliefs although it's positive for me).

>>17785465
Since it's holiday season, maybe you could take on a seasonal job and see how it goes? Not fully committing, and if your parents ask, you could just say you're doing it for some pocket money to spend

>>17785476
I want to do that, if I do well I could stay for a bit longer until I feel the need to move out, and it's probably not going to be as draining as I fear.