Staying Friends

>>17785190
Why would you do this to me, man

By having a gf that is somebody else. There you can keep being friends while not worrying about relationships.

>>17785237
This makes sense but right now I don't think that's going to happen any time soon.

Is it the only way?

>>17785259
Or you can distance yourself from her for few days. It's hard to falling out of love with someone if you interact with them everyday (in a happy way).

>>17785274
I agreed to meet with her to study tomorrow but from Wednesday to Sunday I won't see her due to Thanksgiving break and may not see her even later since our class is on Fridays.

Maybe the time away will do me some good and help me recover a bit.

It can be done man.

I met a girl on vacation last year. Had a great time with her. After my vacation I went home and kept in contact with her. She liked me A LOT, and I really really liked her. We talked literally everyday all day. we really became close, and she changed my life for the positive. Because of her I changed my hair and how I dressed, became more confident and began pursing my dream job. we had agreed to meet again so we could be with each other. I booked airlines tickets a few months out. We were both so excited. Then 3 months before my flight, I could tell things between us has shifted. came to find out, she met a local guy. And said to me she couldn't do the long distance thing anymore, but still wanted to be my friend. That shit hit me like a fucking truck. and was a really difficult few months. I still went on my trip. and I still met with her. We had a pleasant 2 days together, but it was so hard internally. I so badly wanted to hold her hand and kiss her. But I knew I couldn't. So I respected her and we had a good time as friends. I cried like a baby that night when I got to my hotel. Full blown cry. But it was good for me. Helped me get it all out. That was months ago. I still keep in contact with her. But I've accepted we will only be friends now.

So, it can be done. You just have to convince yourself it won't happen

>>17785316
Letting out my emotions like that sounds healthy, in a way. I've been keeping it in since we departed, aside from this thread, but when I found out that I would never be able to be with her today I nearly broke down. My voice started fading and my throat ached, I was completely hurt. but since then I've been trying to restrain my feelings so I don't open any wounds but maybe that's exactly what I need in order to recover.

Thanks for the post, anon, I hope you find another.

>>17785174
Try to talk to her as if she's a guy friend for now on.

How the hell did you even develop feelings if you havent been friends before? After a week no less. Get a grip.

>>17786276
I should had explained a bit more. We spent a lot of time talking in those first weeks and the feelings really came pouring in about the 3rd week when we spent about a legit day and a half just studying and talking to each other almost non-stop. She showed a lot about the way she thinks and I fell in love with that.