Improving body language

It's definitely worth it to work on body language. As for how to learn it, I personally like videos. That'll depend on how you like to learn though. I learned a lot about body language in a public speaking class, so if you have that opportunity I'd take it.

>>17780639
Superflirt by Tracey Cox

>>17780723

Thanks. Will look for that options

>>17780761

From the description on Amazon the book looks definitly like what I look for. I will read it. Thanks

>>17780723
>I personally like videos

So do I for any subject that involves something as visual as body language. I've heard about Superflirt a bit, but I'm afraid a book won't do it for me. At least not a book alone.

Any videos or youtube channels you have watched that are good?

>>17780639
You're reading books about it, which is a step in the right direction.

I recommend the defninitve book of body language by Alan and Barbera Pease: http://bookzz.org/book/676757/3751ac

However body language isn't something you consciously control, it is a telegraph for your internal emotional state. If you try to consciously control it, you will come across as weird, because people will be able to detect subtle incogruencies in your behaviour. Besides, acting takes a lot of energy, you don't want to pretend to be something you're not. It turns out that when normies say "just be yourself" its about learning how to be a genuine person, learning how to accept yourself and not be afraid. But its useless advice for anyone who doesn't know that.

So ultimately the way to fix your body language is to resolve your emotional issues. Maybe this will help give you some insight: http://bookzz.org/book/1014798/b148b3
Therapy might also be a good idea.

Best of luck. And keep trying, it is possible. I started at 25, consciously made the effort to learn and practice social skills, and develop self esteem, lost my virginity by 26.

>>17781841

That sounds right. I think that body language can help me read people better and be more aware of my own reactions, but "acting" and "faking" won't do much.

I have been doing therapy for 6 months now - it does helps a lot, but it is a long process, so I was looking for additional help.

I will definitivly read the books you recommended. Thank you.

Could you elaborate on how did you approache your "concious effort" - like where did you start and what did you do? I would appreciate any tips.

>>17780639
Whatever u do don't be that faggot who takes up space in an already cramped environment just to prove to his fragile ego how confident he is- girls can smell that from miles away and you look like a huge faggot to perceptive guys