I am nearly 19, alone and undeclared in college first year. I feel a massive tear between having a "complex" in which I am the main character of my life and have a future, and feeling as if I will never succeed and can't see myself in the shoes of people who "made it". My confidence took a nose dive since coming to university and I feel like my path is getting darker.
>>17780124
I hear ya
>>17780134
Haha, I like to stay hopeful and reassure myself that things will work out, but I'm not sure how much I need to be actively doing to reach my goal. Life seems like completely uncharted territory right now.
Nobody knows exactly how to reach their goals because that's not a goal, that's a weekend project. Identify something, anything that will help you and reach out and take it. It's scary though, life really is uncharted territory, but you're the only one who can make the map.
Hah, I have similar thoughts when I have huge changes occur in life. Only I perceive them as phases. You just entered college, so now is the time to ducking explore and make a plan. Once you have a plan, knowing the steps to achieve them will make it easier to "succeed". I never once thought I would make it once I graduated. Bachelors in my major doesn't really warrant good jobs. And I didn't make it for a while - about 2 years. But I worked my butt off, and kept applying to the good shit.
Any idea what you would like to do, career-wise? I did geology on a whim - hiking and beer-drinking is fun, but not a good representation of the job-scene.
>>17780169
Hearing all these cliches as a kid was something I completely disregarded and thought my life would just play itself out. Now I truly understand how fucked I could be at any moment. Everyone wants a story book life, but thinking of all the people that don't get that really makes me upset.
>>17780173
This is a very aggravating issue for me actually. I would ideally love to do something that utilizes creativity and social skills over logic. I have been frequently having visions of grandeur and believe that it's entirely possible that I could make something bug out of myself. I'm taking a theater class next semester and am trying to learn guitar. I love creating music and have been writing songs during the frequent time periods in which I'm feeling lonely or depressed. If I were to have a legitimate job, travel would also be a very interesting element. I realize I'm immature and will see wild alterations to my vision down the road though. I often feel that I am a much deeper thinker than those around me and carry potential, but at the same time I'm very self criticizing and have no ego whatsoever. I realize that being an actor or musician is everyone's pipe dream, but I don't see myself finding passion in anything else for now.