Does anyone want to talk

namaste

>>17773871
If you could come back as one animal, which & why?

>>17773900
Not OP but I would come back as a black hole

>>17773906
A very /r9k/ answer. Would still let u suck me though

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>>17773877
namaste to u too.kms

>>17773900
who are u

>>17773968
nice to have you here....

>>17773871
Alright...
23/m will be a masters student soon
Work out a shit ton
Imo nothing wrong with my face, and present myself in a good way (I put effort into how I look)
Never been on a date before
Tried asking girls out I know from campus, and have been on PoF for like 2 years now
Only people that have shown interest in me on PoF is right swipes in the definitely-not-tinder part by someone who meets 3 or 4 of the following:
>has kids
>obese
>no job
>high school dropout
Only "success" I've had was a girl from uni, it turned to a no at the last minute since she said she's too busy
Wtf do I do?

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>>17774066
Post face w time stamp and let me see what we are working with here sweetums' :) :) otherwise, give more info... you gave me a bit, but youre a bit vague. There's a lot to do, but yeah, gimme that pic. Just a neutral one, I don't want one you're posing Mr. Tough Guy. Unless you actually are..

>>17774112
Not putting my face on 4chan.

What kind of more info do you want?

>>17773871
Yeah, I could use some input. I am in a long term relationship and things have started to get rocky. We've gotten ourselves into a bad cycle. It starts when she starts talking about how she's going to leave (she has no concrete plan to and has made no effort) for Indonesia and will may or may not return but that the relationship will be over then. I'm totally fine with this, I started the relationship knowing it and have expressed such. The problem the comes that after she mentions it, she gets really contradictory and defensive. I leave her alone during this, but she gradually gets more and more pushy about it until it turns into a series of small, stupid fights, and then escalates into one big one. I care for her a lot, but I am really tired of this dance. I'm thinking about ending it and that scares me. Any suggestions, advice, or input?

>>17774129
wtf is wrong here, did I miss the memo??? I don't think you understand, "mate", "bro", "pal", "buddy"

I just don't. Think. You. Under. Stand

post your pic and you will receive a present in return.

>>17774144
>otherwise, give more info...

Not interested anymore though. You seem kind of abrasive.

>>17774137
it's sad that i have been just like her. I think your girlfriend needs to do some soul searching. Whatever you do, don't smother her... and if you really care about her.. Don't give her any thought that you are far away, since it seems she doesn't think you are there for her, you just have to chill out- man

I don't know how serious you are for her. But time will give you best results. Time, and the advice I said above.

>>17774167
I'm sorry. I have been in front of this computer screen for too long, I am being abrasive because of my lack of actual human contact, but if you want to stick around.. I guess you could give me info, like, about your hobbies. Tell me why you expect to find a woman so easily? Do you expect one to fall into your lap? You just have to let go, really. That which you seek is seeking you.

>>17774173
I get it too, we both come from rough backgrounds. I give her space and reassure her that I am here when she needs it, especially when she gets freaked out. I've done the same thing you're suggesting and given it a lot of time, things are getting worse. At least I know what I have to do though. Thank you.

>>17774182
Apology accepted.

>fall into your lap?
That's the thing; I'm not just sitting around. I'm trying to get with someone from the girls I know at uni (who aren't taken). I even caved and started using a dating site a few years ago. It's not like I'm not trying.

Hobbies
Big into games, the masters program I'm entering is actually in games (branching off comp-sci)
Singing
Gym
Running, Parkour
Kind of into anime/manga
Cooking

>>17774209
Yes, you certainly are trying. But sometimes we aim for the wrong targets. I suggest dropping the site... Usually, people who want to hook up ( sex ) use these dating sites. Unless you would want to practice that, keep using it. If you are looking for a kind of girl you want to make have like.. Something Real with, I would suggest stop putting yourself on the spot too much. Take this perspective; would you want to meet the next girl to be your girlfriend in the same kind of mental state you are in? Are you actually holding your own standards, do you have boundaries... Do you know what you are doing with the next five years of your life, etc etc.. Relationships are no joke, and even having friends as girls is a great thing, because just having them around gives you a sense of like.... The Other Sex..

>>17774209

You sound like you got it pretty sorted hobby-wise.

If you're willing to spend some dosh (and if it's legal in your country) you can always pay to date an escort. Despite what 4channer might say about getting an escort, maybe it's just your approach to women in general. Like I dunno maybe you just don't hit it off with these girls you're talking to and some experience on dates (even if they might be faking) could give you some natural confidence that will probably make you more attractive.

>>17774281
I'm the kind of person who'd just have their esteem devastated paying for something like that. The way I look at those things it's just the ultimate admission I can't get it any other way.

>>17774246
I'd definitely not miss much about it if I stopped using the site but the friends I've spoken to have unilaterally advised me to look in more places, with dating site(s) being the example suggestion.

Mental state - is openly looking really a red flag?

Pretty sure I meet my own standards. What do you mean about boundaries? Definitely got plans for my life as far as work goes.

>>17774320

As a stranger on the internet that's vaguely interested in your success, I think that you need to relax a little. Not in the sense of a rhetorical smackdown but why do you want a gf? I understand there's a connection you can't really get from anywhere other than a good relationship, but why not change your perspective on the issue? Like dive into your hobbies and maybe they'll come to you. Then again I've had no gf ever so take that with a grain of salt.

>>17774338
Between the longing for a connection like that, intimacy (even just physical contact, cuddling) and my entirely unfulfilled sex life, not being single is quite appealing.

As far as diving into my hobbies goes, they're far from inherently social hobbies so when I do that instead of being around others I usually end up taking a hit with my existing friendships, never mind trying to make new ones.

How are you Amelia?
I'm alright, having four of my best mates over for thanksgiving soon. Schools going good and I'm enjoying my hobbies.
However my dream project wont leave my mind, I think about it so much and I'm close to getting the perfect blueprint in my head, but I'm too anxious to start on it for some reason.

>>17774396
hey... feeling rather odd. if you don't mind me asking, what is this dream print thing?

>>17774396
You haven't started because in your mind it's perfect, but on a deeper level you're worried in paper it isn't perfect. It's called paralyzing perfectionism and is a trait of anxiety. The truth is you may encounter some obstacles and it might be less than perfect. As of now though you have nothing to show for it. Which do you prefer, non-existent it's flawless or putting on paper and working through the kinks?

>>17773871
I'm currently 7 days in no fap, and I almost lost today. I went to find porn to fap to, but didn't touch my dick. How do I avoid temptetions like this?

>>17775318
Castration. As a bonus, you'll forevermore be 100% less likely to commit rape.

>>17775282
Is your name Amelia, too?

>>17775516
man you're a real cunt aren't you?

>>17775521
*you're

>>17775526
*cun't

>>17775521
Happy hunting.

>>17775282
Hmmmm. I'm aware that my project will never be perfect and there will be bumps on the road to finishing it. Every fiber of my being screams to start it, work, and finish it. But I just haven't started it yet.
I've planned it for over a year now, but I just can't get myself to start it for whatever reason.

>>17775234
Why the odd feeling?

Not trying to be a dick, but I've read several things that say the more you share on something your working on, the less likely you're gonna get it done. Something about talk versus actually work I guess. Ironic though, since that is what I'm doing now.

>>17775318
Hey, you probably have too much idle time, that or your only aspirations are sex related. Stop thinking about sexual things, it's that simple.

>>17775556
pardon?

>>17775567
nah i totally get it, that being said i probably shouldn't talk about it :^)

>>17775516
Since when is fapping equal to rape? I'm 18, so it's quite normal to beat my dick around.

>>17775672
I usually fap once or twice per two weeks, but I'm trying to last untill 2017. It's something of a personal test for me. What usually happens during my no fap attempts is that I presude myself that I need to fap, so I actually do it. I need to find an aswer to this, other than to occupy myself. What's the best way to train my will, if I don't want to repeate my former mistakes?

>>17773871
Hey still there?

>>17775747
Ask away.

>>17775750
I'll try to keep it as short as possible, here's my story:

There's a girl I like from my extracurricular classes, we don't take lessons together, but we meet every now and then. I asked her to come to a b-day party of my best friend, and she didn't gave a clear answer nor messaged me about it.

Moreover, my name day was couple of days ago, so I thought I should bring something to treat my classmates. Even though she was standing right in front of me, she just stood there in an awkward position, saying nothing.

There was a party last night, which unfortunately couldn't go to, and her friend (which I'm not at good terms with) kept asking me if I was going to that party, and today she asked me why I didn't go.

Any thoughts?
Note: She's shy/introverted af.

>>17775763
Forgot to add that she was in that party as well.

>>17775763
>and her friend (which I'm not at good terms with) kept asking me if I was going to that party, and today she asked me why I didn't go.
From this post I assume your introverted/shy friend likes you. I would suggest you invite her out for coffee or something similar, so that you can see how it goes. If it goes well, try asking her on a date.

Did she display any signs that would imply she might like you before?

>>17775774
The girl that asked me about the party is in the same class with me at school, and she's a complete slut. What I understood is that you're telling me that she's attracted to me?

Sorry if I got it wrong.

>>17775781
The other girl, introvertive/shy one. She's the one that was wondering why you weren't on that party, right? If so, I'd say call her out and see how it goes.

>>17775789
Idk, my best friend says that's she's just trying to "restore relations" or something.

I do hope though that she made her ask me.

Another friend of mine (who was at that party) told me that nothing special happened, they just had some drinks (actually only her friend) and left quite early.

1/2, I need to add some more background info so I can put you in the picture.

>>17775799
As I've said, try inviting her out as a friend to a coffee or something and see how it goes. Then you can determine, if there's a possibility of dating her.

>>17775799
2/2

A while back x (the shy one) had a crush on another guy. I asked her friend (let's call her y) to take me out with her. Instead, she took her out with that guy (that's why we are in bad terms).

Anyway, nothing came out of it, and she's probably not interested in him anymore.

We haven't really talked much except for 1 or 2 times. I see her 2 or 3 times a week, for 5-10', but she's usually talking with other girls.

Should I tell y to tell x that I have something to tell her, so I can ask her out or something?

Note that y knows my feelings about x.

>>17775834
Should I tell y to tell x that I have something to tell her, so I can ask her out or something?
Approach her yourself, and say you have something you want to ask her in private or ask her out when she's not around her friends, if that's possible.

>>17775841
I think that asking her like that out of the blue is going to be really awkward, especially for her, I really do believe that she may just freeze and do nothing.

Willing to risk it, but should I? I am just considering the fact that she mumbled instead of giving me an answer when I asked her about the party.

>>17775855
You don't ask her out of the blue. You try to be as subtle as possible about it. And try to be casual about it, so she doesn't freeze as you said. It's just a casual meet up, not a date.

>>17775862
What will probably happen is this:
>her talking with someone during her break
>ask her if I can talk to her
>ask her out

Isn't it too much?

>>17775869
If you're that worried about, give it a month or two and collect more information on the topic, if she likes you as a friend or as bf material. Then try asking her out, when you're confident enough.

If it's worth the risk, why not?

>>17775878
We aren't really friends, but I know that we share a lot in common. I was thinking about asking her out no matter what, but I don't know, something's holding me back.

>>17775896
Just go with it! If you're afraid of the risks, you're never going to acomplish a lot, anon.

To quote Yoda's over memed line:"Do or do not, there is no try.".

>>17775906
I'll probably go for it, fuck it. Thanks A.

>>17775922
Good luck!