To text him, or not to text him

>>17769716
I feel you in kind of the same situation just with a girl.
If you are friends ask him to hang out.
And do start conversation with him try to show it more.
And again if you are friends than you can tell him how you feel ask him to just hang out and talk to him about it, if he doesn't want to date you there's not a lot you can do about it.
Can't force someone to love you.
That is what I'm planing to do with me friend at least

I mean, ask him out to hand out, and than talk to him. If you two are as close as you say you are you can talk it out. People who step out of longer relationships usually want to be alone for a while just so they get past the anger and issues from their past relationship. Just so they don't lash out at their next partner for no apparent reason.

Ask him to go and hang out and than if you feel like it's right talk about how you feel about him.

If he wants to date you he will, if he doesn't not much you can do about it.

I'm a dude that recently got out of a long relationship. I honestly just want to message women online. I can't even think about meeting a girl in real life for a few months maybe. The point is it's going to take me some time to get over my ex. I don't want to jump into another relationship right away. I need some time to think things through and decompress. He probably feels somewhat similar to me but to a lesser extent. If you message him and help him get his mind off his breakup that might put him more at ease. Don't jump on him though haha, just give him space while throwing a message his way every now and then.

>>17769716
I think he might be avoiding you on purpose because he doesn't want to be around any women for some time. It happened to me a few years ago, broke up with my ex and I didn't want to know anything related to women for months, but that's because it ended in a really fucked up way.

I might be wrong, but it could be. Sorry for my ESL btw.

>>17769716
he's just not that into you

If he treats you different, you are different. You say you're close, so I doubt he thinks less of you than others. Definitely possible he likes you, feels intimidated and doesn't know what to say.

Regardless of what else you do, tell him how you feel, ideally in person so you can gauge his reaction. If you don't, that romantic uncertainty festers, and can potentially blind you to relationship alternatives. This happened to me in college, and it was awful, please don't subject yourself to that.

>>17769716
maybe he really does need space? and he' afraid to get close to you only to have his gf want him back and then he runs back to her only to hurt you, that's one way to think about it at least

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Thank you everyone for the responses. I appreciate it very much and it was extremely helpful! I thought that maybe it would be interesting to SOMEONE if I posted the aftermath.

I just messaged him, asking when we were going to hang out (he promised me one week ago). He replied "idk maybe in the weekend" which is a no but he doesn't want to come across as rude. (He had done this before with other people.) I then asked him how he was doing. He read my message and went offline after shortly, while he always used to reply really fast. He never ignored me.

So, that is what happened. I guess he needs some time after the breakup as said.

Have a great day/night everyone x