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>am i overthinking it?
no
>Should i end the relationship?
yes
>Will i get over it and look at her the same way as i did?
yes

Frankly you could make this work if you loved her. But if that happened to me i would never be able to get it out of my head.

Also she still had the porn so that is red flag enough for me to drop her.

>>17763450
id have left her on the spot
respect yourself, anon. she obviously lacks respect for you, so someone has to do it.

>>17763465
Honestly i do love her but because of that it makes questions how much do i even love her

>>17763465
She also told me she did not even know it was there and thought her ex deleted it

>>17763450
She should have deleted them when she started the relationship with you.
Did she know that you will use her pc?
Were the porn hidden in the pc?
Maybe she said the truth but you can't be sure,and it was disgusting for watching your gf be fucked by her ex.
After that did she delete them?
I think that you should have checked the "properties" in the porn files to see when was the last time that they were watched. It would be a relief knowing that she didn't watch them all these 7 months that you are together. Anyway,it's rly hard all this. I can understand you. Now the thing is if you can see her again like before. It depends on you. For example I couldn't forget it. But it is personal.
How are you both of you now after that?

>>17763592
Hidden? Not really they were in some random music folder, she did remove them once they were found also they have not been seen in about 5 years. Now its really awkward and its kinda hard to look her in the eyes

>>17763592
She knew i would use her computer, once we started dating she never used her pc because of the lack of no keyboard

What about this bothers you?

>>17763677
Seeing the person i love being fucked by someone else

>>17763682
Why does that bother you? Considering it wasn't, like, happening while you were with her. Does it make you feel smaller or less loved? Do you see it as a reflection of her affection or dedication to you?

>>17763731
Honestly it just feels horrible, i dont feel smaller at all, just everytime i look at her i cant get that image out of my head

>>17763745
Is it valuable to you that you put in the effort to have that not bother you? Most everyone you'll have sex with in your life will have slept with another person.

>>17763627
5 yrs! She probably forgot they were there then if it was that long since they were last watched. Your being stupid op.

>>17763752
I knoow that i understand that but to see it was horrible

>>17763450
>am i overthinking it
Yes, like, almost every girl will let their SO take private but pornographic pictures of them. this is no bigger a deal than dating a non-virgin(itself not any kind of deal at all), which I assume you're OK with.

>>17763762
You're

>>17763764
Okay, you found it really horrible. Now what?

>>17763773
I dont know

>>17763776
There's no golden pathway for you, fag. Make a damn choice. Realise that it isn't a big deal because nothing actually happened, or break up with her. Try to put yourself in her shoes.

You could talk to her about it more. Otherwise make a decision on your own whether it bothers you enough to leave her. I would be heavily disgusted by it too and would probably leave her myself.

>>17763627
>>17763631
So since she knew that you will use her pc,and since she had to view them for 5 years,she really didn't remember that those files existed. Th thing is up to you now. Can you forget them or no? Maybe you shouldn't have played the videos. But now it happened. And it all depends on you,if you can forget. Maybe tell her to stay away for a week to see if you can be away from her.

>>17763450
>am i overthinking it? Yes but that is normal
Should i end the relationship? If you don't want to waste time and put off the inevitable yes.
Will i get over it and look at her the same way as i did? Nope, some shit burns a hole in your brain that will never go away. You could go days or weeks and it not enter your mind and then bam there she is balling another guy.