Dating without a dick

Be strong, my man. I can only sympathize. You'll eventually find a girl who's sole idea of a good relationship isn't one that relies on sex alone.

I say reach for the stars, ask one of the girls at uni out, take it slow and don't try to rush things. Hopefully, the more comfortable she feels around you, the better chance she'll take the news better, and actually support you.

Godspeed, anon.

>>17757255
Thanks. I appreciate the sympathy.

In terms of "taking the news" though, I really think this is something I have to put out on the table first. I mentioned this to somebody before, and I argued that I would rather have them know before they get invested.

If you can't inseminate, go on a rampage, find the people you always wanted to kill and do it.

>>17757285
Kek. Thanks for the laugh.

It's pretty shitty what I feel now with orgasms. I don't get the full feeling anymore. I can still ejaculate, sure, but it isn't a climax per se. The pleasure is 70% reduced, which is why I wouldn't be particularly against an asexual relationship.

>>17757238
Hey OP, I'm sorry I don't have much advice, but idk I can share your pain.
I have pretty awful vaginismus, I've tried everything, nothing has works. Therefore, I'm impossible to penetrate. I have the same fears as you though, knowing that I can't preform the type of sex 99% of dudes want means I'll likely die alone.

It's a tough conversation, I understand, and especially in this day and age where sex is almost immediate in a relationship, it comes very quickly. I'm the same as you, I've had quite a few nope out of the idea of a sexless relationship, and I do not blame them in the slightest. But in all honesty, I got sick of wasting my time and getting my hopes up that maybe this will be the one that can deal, so I've started being upfront about it from the beginning. No success, but at least I don't deal with that crushing disappointment of really liking someone just to find out they can't handle my baggage.

So, only thing I got is, maybe you can find people like me out there, who can't be penetrated anyways.
Do you still enjoy sex? Even if you don't cum/get hard or whatever? Because I'll admit even I wouldn't know how to feel if the guy I was with just plain didn't enjoy any kind of sex anymore, since I am a sexual being myself and feel kinda "guilty" about getting and not giving. But in all honesty, I rarely ever cum either. I enjoy the process though, and that's plenty enough for me. Is it similar for you maybe?

Also, as for the asexuals, typically they aren't aromantic too. It's just the sex part of a relationship they won't do. So idk, that could be a demographic of people you could try, but I would think if you still did have a sex drive at all it might be complicated for them to date someone who thought that way.

You should try turkey baster.

>>17757337
Thanks a ton for sharing your experience. I would say you managed to describe my feelings on the matter even better than I could.

I still enjoy the foreplay of sex because of the mental aspect, but strap-ons were mainly for my ex's benefit. You also nailed the part where I wasn't sure about an asexual relationship. I still kinda get sexual gratification, but I'd feel bad about not giving any.

I guess I'll just trudge on for now. Being upfront about it is probably what I'll continue to do.

I wish you luck as well, anon.

>>17757355
Thanks man, its uplifting on my end to see someone with a similar struggle to me as well.

Keep going, you're younger than me if you're still a teen, there's still a lot more for us to do before getting too concerned about long term dating I guess. Try just putting your all into school first. One thing I've learned is that college has never been about dating, and more about just casual sex. So I've decided it would do me good to wait it out until everyone matures a bit. Probably good for you to do so as well.
Don't cut your losses just yet, but perhaps put them on the backburner. However, don't shut down any opportunities that come to you either. If someone shows interest, if you want it, might as well try. That's what I think. Basically, I just stopped actively seeking it out myself, but I'm not going to turn away if something falls into my lap, right?

>but I'm not going to turn away if something falls into my lap, right?

Hear, hear!