Help me /adv

Shameful self-bump

Finding a partner that you and your family gets along with very well is hard. Also having mutual attraction is even harder.

I'd say stop thinking with your dick and get back together. People like that are very rare to come by and the extra pussy is not worth it based on what you've described.

>>17749888
You're retarded and your ex would do better with an actually decent man who isn't a red pill autism, leave her alone

>>17749928
That does make a lot of sense, she is quite an amazing girl especially if she is willing to take me back,thank you Anon for making my decision easier :)

>>17749942

Why did you both take a break in the first place?

do you want an actual relationship or do you just want to get fucked? If you just wanna get fucked then offer a fwb/nonexclusive thing.

>>17749942
If you're so bent on that she's slept with two people and you slept with none, get an escorts and just nut it out. Or just tinder a hookup. I would not do it though personally, this is more of your decision. Since you said you're fit and attractive, you should have no problem getting laid.

Just wear protection...

>>17749945
She broke up with me initially to sleep around and she did that and I was so naive to think that she'd actually do that since were high school sweethearts but she did that anyway
So i thought id have a break with her now and do the same thing becuase i dont want to wake up when im 30 married kids etc and be angry that i didnt have sex with anyone else like she has

>>17749946
I just want casual sex a couple of times with other people then go back to her like she did with me

>>17749947
Thanks for the advice although I'd never tinder/escort but I have tried but since I'm genuinely a nice guy and I dont know how to flirt well the girls i talk to from uni start liking me and i can't sleep with them and then leave becuase that would hurt them becuase i just want something casual

>>17749957
Do not get back together with her. She enjoyed the benefit of being in a committed relationship right up until she wanted to go out and fuck around. She breaks up to fuck a couple guys, you wondering what just happened and then when she is done wants to resume as if nothing changed. IT DID AND SHE CHANGED THINGS. If you resume there will come a day she will break up with you again to fuck around and when she gets it out of her system will want to resume again as if nothing was different. If this girl was in love with you she wouldn't be breaking up to fuck.

>>17749957
>>17749962

She probably had a few flings and realized they aren't as good as the real deal.

The fact is, this is going to be a sticking point for you forever, you need to address this unless you just want something short-term.

>>17749965
Make it clear that you want something casual. Not all women want relationship right after sex.

>>17749962
Having sex with someone you're not in love with is a shallow and meaningless experience in my opinion.
I'd much rather just have a wank than casual sex, saves so much time and energy.
This combined with the fact that I'm very picky when it comes to girls means I have an extremely low body count, despite being a financially well off, non-autistic 24 year old tall, /fit/, handsome blue-eyed guy of high social status.

Sorry about the blog post, but the grass rarely is all that much greener on the other side, anon.

>>17749888
There are many more one woman men in the world than there are one man women.

Every old couple you see walking hand in hand out there and go, how sweet I hope I can find a partner like that, has multiple episodes over the years when the man got cast aside as the woman ran off for a week or month or two to fuck other men and the man did not but took her back when her roaming was done. I don't understand why men allow this but they do. They get locked to one piece of pussy, yet the woman goes out and gets plenty of other dick but the man thinks he is special when they come back.

>>17749974
>and realized they aren't as good as the real deal
why is this considered a win?

>>17749970
That's really hard and bold move to make Anon, I know she's a genuine girl and I've had the exact same doubts that you just explained, would this be something I talk to her about before whether making a decision to date her again?

>>17749974
Thats what she told me what happened and that she realises theres more to it.
How would I go about addressing it?

>>17749978
Alright Anon Ill do that, I just assumed that females wanted a relationship after sex

>>17749985
Thats what I believe as well I've just never done it before but I do believe you, friends have said similar things as well.
Wanking is much easier to do, although my curiosity is getting the better of me.

I don't know what to think right now

>>17749998
Just trying to save you heart ache later on. If she loved you and wanted a future together she wouldn't have run off to fuck. Telling you when she returns that she realized that fucking the other men wasn't the life she wanted and hey here I am aren't you happy is proof of how selfish she really is and that is a warning to you she will pull this again and again and again. You don't want a relationship with a woman like this. She wants to ditch you for new dick she has to live with her decision and doesn't get a do over. She will do this to you again, maybe this weekend, until she finds one she wants or convinces one to stay and she'll be gone from your life for good.

>>17749970
Good post here. If you decide to get back with her now, you send a signal to her that it is acceptable for her to sleep around on a whim. WHen such behavior has no consequences, she is bound to do it again. You forgave her for it once, so you will likely do that again. Op, use common sense, dont be blinded by optimism and how you want to see the world. Judge people on their actions and behavior, dont be fooled by what they say since that may be deception. NEver forget that women use dual strategy for sexuality.

>>17750020
You've given me a lot to think about anon and I will take this into consideration, I've never thought about it into that depth before. You're right though if she did properly love me then she wouldn't have slept around, I think she was just using me as a net because she knew I'd accept her when she was done. My friends tell me they always see her out every weekend clubbing with her girlfriends (which I know get around plenty) so its safe to assume she is doing the same.
This is a hard pill to swallow, Im trying to put emotional thinking aside and use my rational thinking and you are right I cant fault you.
I will post next week around the same time with the same thread pic with an update of what has happened, thank you anons

>>17750039
I will keep that in mind, I believe this is a steep and long learning curve and I appreciate this advice, Im still young and naive but I dont want to be taken advantage of.
Whats dual strategy for sexuality?

>>17750051
The dual strategy indicates that it is strategically sensible to receive good genes and goods, care, love from a man. This does not have to be from a single man; that is where the dual strategy comes in. It is common for women to have one man being the biolgical father while another male raises his non-biological offspring unaware, htinking it is his natural child. Genetic research supports this idea in the sense that 80% of women passed on their genes compared to a meagre 20-30% of men that managed to do that. Dna testing has shown that 10 to 30% of children, depending on geographical region, are being raised by a father that is not the biological father, even though he thinks he is. This general idea of dual mating strategy of women forms the most fundamental core of evolutionary psychology and, as indicated above, is corroborated by genetic studies.

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>>17749888
naive young man, listen to this. >>17750310

>>17750310
in layman's terms, while men and women have the innate propensity to couple with multiple partners it is women that successfully breed with multiple males. Many men make the attempt but rarely successful while women just need an opportunity to be alone for a brief time with an acceptable male.

Men are fooled. If we don't see the coupling then in our mind it didn't happen.

I've had sex with women in relationships that are strong, stable and seemingly monogamous and yet the woman would set up an opportunity to have sex with me. One example. At a semi formal dinner party with co-workers and spouses, though some, including me were single and without dates. Married coworker whom I had minor flirtation at the office pulled me aside, told me she didn't have panties on, put my hand under her skirt to prove it and asked if I would meet her outside in 5 minutes by her car. I arrive, she pulls my dick out, bends over and I fuck her against her own fucking car, nut, she give me a peck on the lips not to ruin her lipstick, tell me to wait a few minutes and she goes back in the house. Whole thing took less than 10 minutes and she stuck by her husband the rest of the evening and didn't even look my way.