The concept of revenge?

because it acheives nothing positive, say someone calls you an asshole and you punch them, in that moment where expressing your "rightness" over someone else may make you feel like youre the good guy but whatever his original point was, it stands, and it creates an unsafe enviroment with bystanders and if it gets worse, you pull the authorities into it even though you could of thought about your actions

Typically I don't think revenge is worthwhile, but in the situation you describe raising your voice would simply have been standing up for yourself. If she does not believe you then anger at being wrongfully accused is completely justified.

In fact, backwards as it is, chances are that how calm you were was part of why she did not believe that you hadn't done it as most people get pissed off being accused of something they never did.

>>17736837
I think you are confusing revenge with defending for your self. Revenge ranges from petty and vindictive to destructive and probably outside the bounds of the law.

What you are describing, sounds to me like what most would cal testicular fortitude.

AKA "Having A Pair Of Balls". This can apply to females too, BTW

>>17736837
There is rarely any benefit in going down to their level, only downsides.

>She yelled and screamed at me. I didn't tell back.. But what if I had?
Then it'd be two crazy people in train screaming. Instead there was one, just her.

>If someone kills your whole family, how could you not kill the person who did it?
Will it bring them back? No. Will it turn you into a criminal? Yes. Would anybody benefit from you turning a criminal? No.

Besides, killing people tends to take a toil on normal people, so you'd only fuck up your mind even more.