ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

Girls

how much weight does having a good personality carry when looking at a guy?

I'm average looking. Probably 5.5/10 but this girl I've been dating is easily a 7.5-8/10 she's gorgeous, but we also click very well. She told me that I'm "cute" and she said that she is falling for who I am. That she feels we are on the same mental wavelength with everything and loves it. It's just hard for me to believe sometimes how she could like me with how attractive she is.

Fellow guys: How often do you clean your penis? Does it hurt A LOT when you pull your foreskin?

>>17728425

I'm cut, so it gets cleaned everytime I shower

>>17728425

No, it shouldn't hurt to pull it. Unless you are too young to be on this board.

I'm not making a joke, some people have their foreskin stuck to the head of the penis. It eventually peels back by itself, though, during the teen years.

>>17728433
>some people have their foreskin stuck to the head of the penis
Oh shit... I guess I should look into that. I'm 24 btw.

>>17728406
Personality definitely matters a lot if I am looking for a long term relationship.
Sure, being physically and sexually attracted to your partner is fundamental, but it hardly is what makes you stay together. Being comfortable around each other and being genuinely happy to just sit around and talk is what makes a relationship good. Sharing plans for life, working well together as a team, being interested in the same things is important too.
If I find someone who makes me happy, I am not going to dump him because he is slightly less attractive than me. Who gives a shit.

>>17728436

I'm not a medical expert,I only know about that because it happened in my family. If it's the same thing, it was actually pretty common.

Ask a doctor, though.

A guy I know has lost weight. He used to be really chubby but he has a great personality and have always been the funny guy when out with friends. He's started to show interest but the thing is I think he's been hiding a lot of pain behind the jokes, and I'm worried he'll think that I'm only interested in him because he lost the weight. How can I convince him that he's always been a great guy?

Girls, do you ackowledge that hair in some places needs getting rid off? My girl is very sweet and beautiful, but the fact that she has those hairs on her upper lip really bugs me, yet I can't tell her that. If only she knew and got rid of those, it would be wonderful.

>>17728507
This post made me cringe so hard, even if I hate hair and permanently removed hair everywhere under my eyelashes.

You cannot expect people to conform to your own beauty standards. Especially if you don't tell them what your beauty standards are.
Maybe she doesn't even notice it, maybe she doesn't mind it. If it really bugs you, tell her. Be nice about it and don't get her conscious.

>>17728507
>do you ackowledge that hair in some places needs getting rid off
Yeah, but some people care about it more than others. I'm not a fan of body hair at all but some people are I guess. I dislike any hair below my eyelashes.
If she's your girlfriend though, can't if you just talk to her about it? I mean wouldn't you prefer it if she told you she dislikes XY thing about you?

>>17728525
>>17728532
Well, she's very conscious, and I wouldn't want her to think I don't find her 100% attractive.

>>17728537
If it bothers you but you don't want to do anything about it, you can't really complain, anon.

>>17728507
I shave this shit off. Just ask her to do the same. These female moustaches are quite gross.

>be me
>find a girl on tinder
>add her on snapchat but never get matched by her
>talk to her for months but make no progress
>get friendzoned
>go to her for girl advice because I decided to start seeing someone else
>we help each other with our boy/gril problems
>shit falls through with our potential suitors
>we start talking more often, even decide to start talking on the phone late night more, I'm always flirting with her
>eventually run into each other IRL
>she starts flirting with me more
>eventually go on first date
>see a ton of IOI's, we make out
>our first date ended awkwardly because where we were making out gave her a flashback of a traumatic experience in her life
>she sends me a text after our date reassuring me that the awkward wasn't either of our fault, just our location

I hit her up yesterday telling her been thinking about her, and asked if she wanted to see a movie this weekend. She replied, "yeah lemme check my schedule"

I'm overthinking if she likes me or not. How do I stop overthinking and looking for reassurance?

>>17728537
You do not find her 100% attractive right now. She would be right to feel like that.
It's a small thing she can improve, if it bothers you so much tell her, otherwise don't complain. You can't expect her to magically know what to do.

>>17728480
you're interested in him because he lost weight.
/thread

>>17728579
He's showing interest in me, not the other way around.

Girl im dating ask me if i want to be her boyfriend.
I feel safe and secure around her and she likes me really a lot and shes a really great girl.
The problem is that im just not in love with her, i really like her but that chemistry is still missing for me. Maybe i need more time, maybe there wont be a spark anytime.
I want to be in LTR with a girl, but im unsure if shes the right one for it.

>>17728600
Don't start anything if you're unsure. Be honest about your feelings and distance yourself if you're not into her.

>>17728525
what about your unibrow?
Also i think a mustache on a girl doesn't need to be called out, it's a standard. A girl is not supposed to have it.
>>17728587
you've started considering him cause he lost weight.
/thread

>>17728600
>I want to be in LTR with a girl,

Any girl? Why not her?

Instead of using this or any girl to tick off a box in your "life goals" list, enjoy what you have.

I'm not saying become her boyfriend, but don't decide beforehand what kind of relationship you want. Decide what kind of relationship you want WITH her, if you want any at all.

>>17728406
Lots, especially if you count both personality and physical non-appearance stuff like voice, mannerisms, posture etc.

A man who is intelligent, kind, charming and passionate but 5/10 is a lot more attractive to me than a 9/10 fratbro. Not even just in the relationship sense, I mean sexual and physical attraction.

Having said that this is in part individual and of course there are shallow women. Not everyone is also looking for as strong a mental connection. But at the end of the day I still feel that non-looks stuff factors in a lot more for women than for men - at least when it comes to raw attraction.

Anybody:

How on earth do I initiate a friendship with someone I like without making it seem like I just want to be friends because I'm interested in them? Basically there's a girl I like who I think is cool as heck but I can't seem to talk to her without being flirting. I'd definitely be interested in a relationship but It wouldn't be bad if we just happened to be great friends.

All of my other friends are females and I don't have this problem. It's not that they aren't attractive, it's just I don't see my friends that way.

>>17728621

Aiming for both is aiming for none. Either flirt or be friendly, there's no middle ground.

>>17728507
I think it depends. If you're talking about those fine hairs you can sometimes see because the light hits it just right or the angle is just right... I wouldn't bother. You'll make her REALLY self-conscious over something she likely never even noticed about herself and removing is not necessarily simple. Shaving leaves you with upper lip stubble and depending on her skin/hair it can show (that she shaved that area) because it kind of has that plucked chicken look. Waxing is better because it stays away for longer, but then there are women whose skin responds badly to that.

I would only take the risk if she has an actual mustache that is normally visible, and not just at certain moments. Even then, there is no real way to break it to her that will not potentially make her insecure or feel less attractive. You'll just have to find a good balance between being kind about it and being a bit casual about it, like you're just mentioning it, no big deal. Eg "did you ever think of removing your lip fuzz?", make it sound like something minor.

Girls, where in university can I meet more reserved/traditional girls? And how can I approach them without being creepy.

Second Question also for anyone.


>>17728624
Well then, how do I make friends with a girl more socially awkward and introverted than I am? All my other friends even best ones have honestly just fallen into my lap. Not even sure what I do. Not even sure if I'm capable of making friends myself without them coming to me like they always do.

>>17728629
>And how can I approach them without being creepy.

Approaching people based on how attractive they are is always creepy, unless you are at a bar, club, party, etc.

>>17728615
>what about your unibrow?
I don't have one. I have pretty brows to be fair, I rarely do anything about them. Like, once a month I make my best friend refine the shape to make them look the same, but they are nice.

I guess there aren't really mandatory standards about the looks. No one is "supposed" to look in a certain way.
If she is doing something that he doesn't like, he can say it.
A lot of girls don't remove it because they have very light hair. It's hard to see very light hair unless you're very close to the face. Some girls don't mind having hair on them. Some girls maybe don't even notice.

>>17728629
Church, youth groups for conservative (regional) political movements. That's about it. That's not to say they aren't around anywhere else, just that they're scattered then and not exactly easy to locate.

Get to know them a bit and subtly stress the things you have in common (world views, ideal future prospects etc). Other than that it's all individual. Don't jump at them as a suitor, just get to know them a bit person to person first. Especially since conservative girls will be way less inclined to go on dates with someone they hardly know.

>>17728638
Then what am I supposed to do?

>>17728638
Not that anon but is it creepy if the girl you find attractive is staring at you a lot so you decide to approach her, even though your only reason so far is based on how attractive she is?

>>17728650
Don't take that post too literally. It is uncomfortable when someone openly wants to get to know you because they think you're hot (outside of those environments), but people getting to know others at work/college/whatever because of attraction happens all the time. They just succeed at not giving the other person the impression that their looks were a factor, which isn't that hard because typically when you already like the way someone comes across you are already interested in more aspects of them than just the appearance, so it's not like you're faking interest talking about things with them... just my two pennies.

>>17728650

If she is staring at you then you have some kind of place in common. I'm guessing a class or workplace.

So you do know something about each other, right?

My previous post is about going to a, I don't know, the library and just hitting on strangers.

>>17728653

Exactly what I meant, and much clearer than what I wrote here >>17728655

Thanks Anon

>>17728649

Meet people because you have stuff in common and then pick the ones you wanna date.

Or go to a place where it's acceptable to hit on people all the time. I don't think the girls there will fit your expectations if you want "traditional" though.

>>17728629
Other than churches and youth groups for conservative political movements like >>17728641 said, I think that also volunteering, and clubs for people with more "introverted" hobbies like literature might be an option.
Obviously you can find traditional girls everywhere.

To not be creepy just don't base your approach solely on their looks. Break the ice with a question related to the activity you're doing together or a funny comment, try to get to know about their personality, ask about their life. Don't go for the "you're pretty, wanna suck my dick?" way.

>>17728662
Just wanted to point out that I volunteer and have for some years and my experience is that volunteers tend to be pretty leftist and probably not caring too much about the traditional values that anon is looking for. This is Europe though and I always got the impression that volunteering has a sort of different place within society in the US but I just wanted to mention it.
Kind of similar for literature, not sure about reading circles or only hobby readers (but those are hard to meet), but at poetry slams and amateur readings with feedback tend to also be pretty liberal people.

Does a curved upwards penis feel better for the girl?

>>17728662
>You're pretty, wanna suck my dick?
That's not really me anyway. I still have to decide on a good club option though.

>>17728571
Anyone?

>>17728669
Typically yeah, because it presses into the g-spot more easily and is the most natural fit for most vaginas.

However it is always a matter of individuals combined. Pussies also differ in how they are designed - this is also why some women have issues taking a 7" all the way while some porn stars can manage a 9" dildo just fine. So there isn't a one experience fits all in this regard. Generally unless it has an extreme curve to the side or downwards it's all good.

>>17728675
Sorry man there's just no way to tell yet. I bet SHE doesn't even know yet whether she's seriously into you or not.

>>17728668
It depends on the group you volunteer for.
Save the third world, teach local language to the refugees? Lefties. Help kids with cancer, spend time with the elderly? Conservative.
I am in a "help kids with cancer" sort of thingy and everyone is relatively conservative.

Reading circles are full of introverts and reserved people.

I interpreted OP preference like "where can I meet girls who don't like to party and fuck around?" more than "where can I meet white supremacists". Maybe I am wrong.

>>17728695
>"where can I meet white supremacists"

That's the question we all have, but we don't dare to make.

>Males or females
As much as I hate this term, I am smack in the middle of a quarter life crisis. Been at the same shitty job for 4 years. Never been in a relationship because of anxiety when it comes to relationships (I'm not r9k level "bitches and whores" but I just am paranoid of cheating). Which is largely why I don't even have any friends either, I get invitations but cancel because I hate having people close to me. My depression is getting worse and worse, as is my anger. My new boss being the worlds biggest anal asshole isn't helping matters either. I never went to school, I have no dreams or ambitions, nothing. How do I get out of this rut? How do I figure out my life and make some sense of it?

>>17728695
I think this is a regional thing... I volunteer as a social worker basically (mostly with elderly in practice) and no one I have encountered is conservative leaning. Then again in Europe there is a fair amount of governmental support so the only people who pick up volunteer work tend to be those who think the government should provide more still aka are left leaning politically. In the US I think there is a more "normalized" culture of volunteering because of less governmental involvement.

I read it as "where can I find a girl who's a virgin and will want to be a stay at home mom/homemaker". But I think those two align fairly well.

>>17728699
>How do I get out of this rut? How do I figure out my life and make some sense of it?

Find professional help. A psychiatrist can follow the process and guide you over the months or years it will take to change so radically.

Sorry, but there's no easy answer here, only hard work.

Best of lucks, Anon.

>>17728698
Rallies and white supremacy websites/forums.

>>17728699
This is shit but the only true answer is that if you want to make a change in your life, you have to start doing different things. You cannot accept simply not liking people around you so not having friends. You cannot accept fear of cheating as a legitimate reason not to ask anyone out. You cannot accept being afraid to look for a new job as a good reason to stay at this job.
Now you will probably feel like arguing that you know yourself and what not, but the thing is, your life choices so far have made you quite unhappy so it's time to accept that your natural inclinations right now are not going to get you where you want to be and you have to leave your comfort zone.

And that's shit. It means trying to befriend people you don't give a shit about for months before there starts to grow something. It means going to events when you're tired after working that you don't remotely enjoy.
Because it will give you new experiences (which makes you feel more capable, more alive, even if the experiences are lackluster - that's just human psyche for you), it will make you see yourself in a different light, and it'll make the concept of turning your life around and starting to discover new things about yourself more believable.

Therapy might help you, it might not be for you. But either way the answer is that you need to take control and start to force a change to happen. Don't stop at the assertion that you dislike your life.

>>17728406
It's 50/50, sexual/physical attraction needs to exist for a relationship to work

>>17728703
Oh I am from Europe myself.
Maybe in my area organisations that work with the elderly or with ill people tend to be religious, so there are more conservative people joining them.
Like, they're not strictly religious, or reserved to religious people, but you can tell the leaning.

>>17728728
Could be, and I'm from Western mainland, I don't even really know what it's like in the South (though I'm guessing it's similar up North) or East.

I know what you mean. Religiously inspired so to say.

Guys

I'm a gal, I shave everywhere except down there because I generally like the way it looks better. I keep it trimmed but because it's no longer the norm I kinda get self conscious over it, I would say. I'm a little over average in the looks department because often times I've been rated 7-9/10 and I am 20 if that means anything.

>>17728742
what's your question

>>17728742
I'm not a guy but I would say as long as it's well-groomed it shouldn't matter to most people. If you like it that way, that's good. I think most guys would not care much to be honest.

>Guys

I think my boyfriend doesn't really appreciate me because I am "easy". I have a higher sex drive and am more initiative when it comes to physical contact. I also initiate conversations more. I see his and my friends' boyfriends/girlfriends doing cute romantic things for them on social media and have lurked my bf's profile from the past and he seemed to post romantic things as well, but not so much about me. He lost his virginity to me and haven't done much besides make out with girls in the past. What can I do to make him initiate more?
Asking him to would feel too much like nagging to me, and he also has anxiety so I don't want to make him feel he has been doing things wrong.

>>17728748
I guess if it's a big deal or a turn off

>>17728753
Depends, I prefer it with some hair, completely shaved is weird.

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Girl keeps trying to invite me to stuff.

Get lunch, get coffee, go drinking, go rock climbing. I'm quite confused. I've been rejected so many times, that my heart is closed off.

Another girl who flaked on a group study session, told me she'll be at the next one since she knows i'll be there, her face brighten up when i told her i'll be there.

Can i get some opinions, at this point I really don't care anymore, but I'd like to expierience it one time.

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>>17728793
The first one is probably into you. Just try it.

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>>17728793

What makes a girl having fear of commitment?

>>17728635
Anyone? No? RIP in pepperonis

>>17728819
It might not be fear, maybe it's just disinterest. Or she's been hurt before, of course.

>>17728819
I've never been afraid of committing to people I actually liked.
When I was afraid of committing I was just scared of missing something better.

Then there are also people who don't want to commit, because they don't look for a relationship and are happy with casual sex, or no sex at all.

>>17728819
Maybe she wants freedom

>>17728819
Personally I'm afraid of commitment because I'm afraid of getting hurt so I'd rather stay alone. Sex isn't a priority for me and while I do like romance and whatnot it's just not worth the hassle for me, right now.

>>17728383
does anyone wan't to swich bodies with me?

:(

>>17728587
He doesn't give a shit why you want him. If you're doing it because he got his shit together that's a good thing.

>>17728901
Skinwalker detected

>>17728425
Every time I shower, so daily. And no, nothing hurts, if it does you should visit a doctor yo.

>>17728621
Initiating friendships (or relationships for that matter) is not how it's done. You spend time together, get to know each other, do shit together and it just happens or doesn't.

>>17728699
>paranoid of cheating
It's a pretty silly mindstate, gotta fix it.

Besides, you sabotage your chances by canceling invitations, many people aren't even lucky enough to get them.

>I never went to school
Suboptimal for career but otherwise irrelevant.

>I have no dreams or ambitions
So you just work to eat and just live to work and shit? Sounds pretty bleak indeed. Is there nothing you like to do?

>>17728742
It's kinda a turn off but not a deal breaker. Did you experiment with shapes, say a landing strip?

>>17728751
Are you sure it's him not appreciating you and not simply being his spergy self?

>>17728793
Just roll with it, faggot. What do you have to lose?

>>17728918
>Skinwalker
I just want to be a girl anon :(

>>17728931
There are ways for that. Start saving up.

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So I've decided to ask this girl out but I have no idea how to proceed.
I see her in class and everyone is basically silent besides some talking before and after the class.

I have NO IDEA of how to start talking to her, how to come up to her and talk, etc.
I'm pretty sure she's at least into me because I see her glancing at me at least 3 times per class but I don't know what the fuck to say without coming off as a creep.

>>17728965
If I'm wrong, some anon please correct me. But from experience so far I've found that:
>It's near impossible to approach someone you like without making it come off as a creep
>If she's staring at you because she likes you she will soon get over how the approach was awkward, as long as you start a proper conversation

>>17728931
Tiddie skittles are easy to come by

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Hey guys, I matched with a girl a week ago, got her number, talked to her on Whatsapp, organised a date in two weeks time (after her exams finish) and have been talking to her a little bit every day since (give or take)

BUT. I asked her a question yesterday, I can see that it's been delivered and that she has been on Whatsapp, but the tick hasn't turned blue, meaning she hasn't tapped on the chat.
What could be the reason for this? Is she maybe really busy (although we have talked the night before one of her exams) and doesn't want to tell me to give her space for fear of coming off as rude? Has she lost interest perhaps?
Weird.

>>17728997
What did you ask?

>>17728965
Just approach her after the class on the way home.

>Psych class
>Not going cause sick
>Girl that sits next to me mediating today's discussion
>Usually just means me and 1 other person talking about the topic

Should I feel bad about leaving her hanging? It's a 3 hour class and it's already so grueling, even without removing one of the most talkative people.
Not very gender specific, although she seems pretty interested/ambivalent.

What is your gender?

Would you consider getting back together with an ex where the relationship ended because of external factors? (school, distance, family issues, etc.)

Would you consider getting back together with an ex where the relationship ended because of internal factors? (cheating, arguing, abuse, etc.)

Do you ever think of THAT ex?

If yes, how long have you been broken up for?

If yes, have you had enjoyable relationships after them?

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Women, specially those that initiate first.

Have you ever been intimidated by a guy?
Like, a guy that seems out of your league and makes you scared of approaching him?

>>17729052
Not out of my league but I never approach guys with a lot of muscle. I don't like it that they focus on physical strength like that and can hurt and control me effortlessly. It's very intimidating and not in a good way.

>>17728722
>Now you will probably feel like arguing that you know yourself and what not,
A couple years ago I would have. Honestly by this point in time I realize, and I've been thinking a lot about the fact that, I don't know myself at all.
>>17728927
>Is there nothing you like to do?
Honestly? Not really. I used to enjoy a lot. I used to read a lot, I was really into old movies and music and comics and books and stupid shit. I think that level of depression has set in where I honestly don't "enjoy" anything. I just do shit to pass time. Books I read in one sitting years ago I can't even get one page in before putting it down. I own tons of games I've literally never touched. The list goes on.

>>17729063
what if it's a guy that's not showing off his muscles and just lifts to feel good about himself/be in good shape?
Not like that guy that always uses tank tops but a guy that dresses normally and doesn't obsesses about his muscles.

>>17729034
If you're sick, there is no reason to feel bad, since you didn't do anything wrong. You can hit her up with a "Sorry was sick, hope the class went okay" type of shit though, since it's always a polite thing to do.

>>17729035
>What is your gender?
M.
>Would you consider getting back together with an ex where the relationship ended because of external factors? (school, distance, family issues, etc.)
"External factors" don't exist. Nobody really breaks up because of that shit, it's just used as an excuse, even if subconsciously.
Also no.
>Would you consider getting back together with an ex where the relationship ended because of internal factors? (cheating, arguing, abuse, etc.)
Nope.
>Do you ever think of THAT ex?
Rarely.
>If yes, how long have you been broken up for?
Like 4 years?
>If yes, have you had enjoyable relationships after them?
Oh yes.

>>17729003
when her next exam was

>>17729069
Implying that other poster isn't a ham planet, muscles show dedication be fucking proud of them.

>>17729069
I don't like guys who are stronger than me

>>17729078
I'm fit actually

>>17729081
>I don't like guys who are stronger than me
The fuck

>>17729081
So, what do you prefer?

How do I stop picking at my chapped lips? Obviously this isn't a life or death issue, but I've always found it weird I am incapable of not picking at my lips until I'm gushing blood during colder seasons.

>>17729085
I like skinny nerdy shy guys

>>17729093
You're just pandering to the audience, I don't believe it.

>>17729095
Believe what you want. It's what I like.

Everyone:Am I a bad friend if I drop and slow fade my friends who are ruining their life with drugs/shit, and who don't care that they are fucking up? If they Truly wanted help , I would help them . but I'm not going to tell them something they won't listen too. It always ends up with people arguing that they don't have a problem. Or they say they have a problem but don't do anything about it, and I have to watch them kill themselves.

I guess it's because the last time I tried to help my best friend, it became the worst years of my life and he's still on heroin and we don't speak. I wanted him to get better than he himself did. But I feel like a dick for dropping people like flies

>>17729035
Female

Yes

No

Yes

3 years

Yes

>>17729091
It's a response to stress and anxiety most likely. Picking until they're bloody is gross af dude. Try seeing a counselor to work out better ways to respond to stress

>>17729100
Ok, what makes you have such an unorthodox taste?

>>17729035
Female
Yes
Probably not
Yes, often
Four years
Yeah

>>17729116
Why do you say it's unorthodox?

>>17729095
>>17729116
I resent this shit so much. Guys complain that women all have only one type, then when someone mentions the opposite they call bullshit and continue their all women like the same thing spiel.

Most people are at least also into people who are young, fit and look masculine/feminine bodywise. Yet you'll always have the ones with a niche.

>>17729035
>What is your gender?
M

>Would you consider getting back together with an ex where the relationship ended because of external factors? (school, distance, family issues, etc.)
Yes. But it really depends on if those factors would be an issue again. If I broke up with someone because they didn't think I was important enough because of all those factors, unless their priorities are different, it probably wouldn't be worth it.

>Would you consider getting back together with an ex where the relationship ended because of internal factors? (cheating, arguing, abuse, etc.)
Probably not. It would depend on if the person felt bad about it and showed a real concern for changing. But realistically, that probably isn't going to happen unless the person realizes they were wrong in the first place (and most people that do that stuff don't).

>Do you ever think of THAT ex?
Sometimes. But that ex was also incredibly emotionally abusive to me, so I know I'm better off without her.

>If yes, how long have you been broken up for?
6 years

>If yes, have you had enjoyable relationships after them?
Sort of. The problem is, I was so used to being treated like shit, I took me a while before I even saw a relationship as a positive thing. And even now, it's hard to do that. But I've have enjoyed myself with other people.

>>17729147
>>17729136
I hope I'm not being misunderstood as a /r9k/ type of guy; it's unusual, at least from my irl experience, to find women attracted to that type. Maybe it's different elsewhere.

>>17729157
I think it depends on the people you assosiate with. I'm very assertive and have hobbies that reflect that. I find there are a lot of girls like that in those circles.

>>17729164
True, maybe my living in a fitness obsessed part of Brazil skewed my view for that side.

>>17729165
Is Brazil as polarized in gender expression as the rest of Latin-America? I've traveled a bit there and the view on femininity and masculinity seems very extreme. Macho macho guys and whore-and-madonna women for the most part.

Guys
How much porn do you watch? Is it professional or amateur mostly? Do you think it influenced the way you view 'real' sex?

>>17729157
Nah, it's just frustrating to see that kind of response instead of stopping to wonder that maybe your idea of it is too narrow. And as I mentioned in the former post, yeah, obviously if you look at women as a whole then fit, handsome and tall jump out as the most common preferences. Yet it's similar for slender, curvy young women and that doesn't mean that there aren't men who can't get hard from a skinny woman or find women twice their age sexiest.

As the other gal mentioned by now, part of it is association. We tend to be attracted to people who resemble exes, good friends or people we had crushes on. Looks aren't just neutral, we instantly picture a certain kind of personality and outlook on life. There are also women who just find a slender male body in its most "bare" form the most attractive.

Personally I like normal men just fine, but pudgy men are the only ones I look at and immediately want to touch. It has to do with an association of hedonism, of living the good life, but mostly the physical experience. The idea of being in bed with someone you can grope and grab much more than you can lean flesh or muscle. And I find men who are that obviously physically imperfect but are still confident about their sexual appeal incredibly hot. I'm slim myself and if a guy who is average in looks and also on the chubby side is shameless about flirting with me... can't describe it better than that it's like they also acknowledge that they have a kind of sex appeal and factor of interest that goes beyond what meets the eye.

And since my ex was around my height I vastly prefer that as well over a height difference. Fitting like two pieces of a puzzle when spooning, natural eye contact/standing kissing, supersmooth 69'ing and the feeling of covering my lover's whole body with mine will be hard to relinquish.

Just as an example.

>>17729186
I watch porn to fap probably every day but I use it more as a way to get new moves.

>>17729127
Tell me about him.

Why do you miss him despite having other happy relationships?

>>17729185
Mostly, yes, the mainstream sexual archetypes are very traditional. But there are 'niches' like every other place.

>>17729035
>What is your gender?
Female.
>Would you consider getting back together with an ex where the relationship ended because of external factors? (school, distance, family issues, etc.)
Most likely no. If things ended because of "circumstances", I don't think we were meant to last.
>Would you consider getting back together with an ex where the relationship ended because of internal factors? (cheating, arguing, abuse, etc.)
No.
>Do you ever think of THAT ex?
Yes, I always will!
>If yes, how long have you been broken up for?
4 years.
>If yes, have you had enjoyable relationships after them?
Fuck, yes. I am the happiest now.

>>17729186
>How much porn do you watch?
Like once every day, 10 min gets the job done.
Unless I am in the "discovery" phase, where I found some actress I like and try to find more shit from her, and find somewhat similar shit, and then something I didn't look for which is cool too. Basically I download more porn than I watch.

>Is it professional or amateur mostly?
Mostly professional, that "feels" amateur. Or more movie like stuff. Scenes from movies work too. Actual amateur porn is pretty rare actually and the quality sucks pretty bad.

>Do you think it influenced the way you view 'real' sex?
Not really. To go back to movies, if I watch James Bond or some kind of war movie, I know that the shit is completely removed from reality and is simply a fantasy. Same with porn.

Earlier (when I was 15-16) it gave me some ideas to try with my gf but at this points, it's purely entertainment.

>>17729195
So you don't ever masturbate to fantasies or something?

>>17729199
Not much to tell. Was my first "real" relationship and influenced me a lot in how I see and judge every relationship afterwards, I guess. Also hurt a lot but overall it was a good experience that I'm glad I had.
I miss them because it was the first time I truly felt intimate with someone. Like someone who actually understood me.

>>17729191
The confidence you talk about it, most guys are so worried they don't fit the archetype of hot guy or even cute that they are anxious and insecure, and this shows when they eventually do approach women. In a way, you have to be a kind of ice man to disregard that the girl might find you repulsive and still be confident regardless.

>>17729246
>In a way, you have to be a kind of ice man to disregard that the girl might find you repulsive and still be confident regardless.
Disagree entirely. It's never nice to not be someone's preference if you like them, but whether someone finding you unattractive really has that much power over you mostly depends upon how much you let your self worth depend on this person's opinion. If you know yourself to be a good person who has something to offer to a woman, who is beloved among friends and gets satisfaction out of working towards goals (hobbies, education or romantic ones)... then you're not suddenly going to feel like you're a piece of shit because a single girl is not interested on going on a date with you.

Besides, what will happen most of the time is that you get shot down as neutrally as possible. If she goes out of her way to be a bitch about it (rolling her eyes, calling you names or whatever), to someone who truly has self esteem that actually makes it less bad because she makes more of an ass out of herself by showing what a petty little cunt she is.

For the record, I think this mindset comes for a huge part from just growing older and having more experiences where you get lots of feedback on the sort of person you are (professionally, as a friend, as a family member, as an artist/hobbyist, as a kind or interesting stranger, whatever), not just from women let alone from a handful of people.

>>17729210
I do have my fetishes but I don't self insert usually.

>>17729268
Oh me neither, but I mostly fantasise about people I know, even if I'm not directly involved.

>>17729052
Yes.
I guess that while I find really good looking guys (tall, fit, very masculine and attractive face, etc) nice to look at, but I usually feel a bit intimidated and just don't feel so comfortable around them. Even when they approached me, I felt uncomfortable and didn't flirt back.
Like - I find them appealing aesthetically, but not sexually. It's hard to explain.

I prefer approaching attractive but more normal guys - the guy I like now is pretty slim/average, has a very attractive face and some little flaws that make him look pretty cute to me.

>>17729035
Male

Yes

No

Yes

2 years

Yes

>>17729279
What about your looks?

>>17729035
>What is your gender?
Female.
>Would you consider getting back together with an ex where the relationship ended because of external factors? (school, distance, family issues, etc.)
Yes.
>Would you consider getting back together with an ex where the relationship ended because of internal factors? (cheating, arguing, abuse, etc.)
No.
>Do you ever think of THAT ex?
Yes.
>If yes, how long have you been broken up for?
9 years.
>If yes, have you had enjoyable relationships after them?
No.

>>17729298
Jeez I feel bad for you (not in an insulting way)

You never felt any type of happiness or connection with anyone else? How many people did you date after him? How long did those last?

>>17729289
I'm okay. 6.5 or 7/10, maybe? 168 cm, 64 kg, nice curves, decent face, pale, brown hair, green eyes. Pretty standard, a bit chubby maybe.
I think he looks much better than me, but he likes me, so I am not going to complain and cry in the corner because of it.

>>17729262
I see, I understand that it's a lot about knowing who you are and knowing what kind of woman and in what occasion or place works best for you.

Ladies,

If you were about to have sex with a guy, especially in a casual setting, and he had acne on his chest and back, would you be like "I'm out of there" and stop? This is assuming there's like some making out before hand.

>I'm asking for a friend

>>17729337
Acne scars I can tolerate. Maybe one or two zits sure. But if its noticeable? No thanks

>>17729350
What about red marks?

>>17729337
>>17729350
It's mostly scarring, mostly on my back
I mean my friends back

Curved dicks?

>>17729337
Not really but it also depends on the severity. That reddish sort of acne rash with a small fully formed zit here and there? No big deal at all. Cystic acne that looks like you have to stay away from it or one will burst? That's a significant turn off.

>Girl I've been with for a year accidentally pocket calls me
>Leaves voicemail of her arguing with some guy
>Been kind of suspicious of her cheating for a while
>Get suspicious and ask her what's up in a text
>"Not much. Out with my sister"
>Obvious bullshit
I'm not an idiot so I'm not asking "lol what's going on here?". Instead I'm asking of ways to deal with this kind of rage and stress.

>>17729337
Scars, no problem. Red spots, no problem.
Acne with yellowy huge cysts and pus and shit, nope nope nope nope.
Anyway if we already got that far, probably I would deal with it.

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>>17729359
?

>>17729363
Tell her what you heard, if she bullshit you drop her

>>17729376
>>17729359
What I mean is, is a curved dick a huge turn off for a girl? Or is it seen as a common thing? It looks weird to me. It's probably the only insecurity I have.

>>17729385
>probably the only insecurity I have
fuck you

If a girl I haven't spoken to looks at me many times accross the room does it guarantee she finds me physically attractive?

>>17729359
Gspot dicks.

>>17729389
The only insecurity, bodywise

Please just answer my question

>>17729392
But it's curved to the right, not upwards

>>17729404
Then you're fucked.

>>17729420
No, I'm a virgin

>>17729035
>What is your gender?
M
>Would you consider getting back together with an ex where the relationship ended because of external factors? (school, distance, family issues, etc.)
Possibly
>Would you consider getting back together with an ex where the relationship ended because of internal factors? (cheating, arguing, abuse, etc.)
No
>Do you ever think of THAT ex?
Yes. Mostly reflecting on the bullshit I'd accept at the time
>If yes, how long have you been broken up for?
4 years
>If yes, have you had enjoyable relationships after them?
Yes

If a girl complains about other people being disloyal to her while mostly ignoring me despite my regular efforts to help her, am I right to assume she is maybe beyond help at this point?

>>17729479
pretty much, you can't really care about her, she is going to ruin herself and all you could do is make jokes about it to her to lighten up her mood or listen to her bullshit. She will be a friend to you if you do this and your life might be a little less lonely but you pretty much can't care about her. Enjoy.

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>>17728383
Girls or guys

Little bit of backstory
>dated this girl twice, second time was really good, probably the most loving relationship I've had
> thought I was gonna have to move even further away from her so I break it off
>it's been about a year or two since I've talked to her
>saw some pics of her recently and I automatically felt shit in my chest
>fugg I think I still have feelings for her
>my friend told me I should add her on fb and talk to her and tell her how I feel
>been backing out of it telling him it'd be awkward and weird for me to do that
>not sure if it would be or if I'm just pussying out

We didn't break up over emotional or relationship problems just thought I was gonna be moving even further away

What do /adv/? Do I try talking to her again?

>>17729578
Is she single? Yes? You talk to her ass right now pal. But ease into it, don't think you'll get a relationship from the start.

There's this cute girl in this class next to mine that I'm really interested in but I've literally never talked to a girl in my life. Not a virgin but I've never had a girlfriend and haven't given myself much opportunity to get one.

I pretty much only see her in the hallway before her class starts, so that's the only time I can approach her.

I'd rather my intentions be clear as possible (that I'm pursuing her romantically), is there any standard set of dialogue I can go through to lead to me getting her number? Given she's interested that is.

I'm sure this has been asked too many times but it's taken all semester long to get the courage for this and I'll probably be rejected anyways but it would be great if I weren't

Guy or Girl, doesn't really matter.

I asked a girl out a couple of weeks ago, at which point she said yes, but she's been stalling ever since.

The messages we've been exchanging have been pleasant and casual and she's had legitimate reasons for not being able to see me, like being out of town and such, but she has never suggested another time or day, which sort of tells me she's probably changed her mind or couldn't bring herself to say no when I asked her out.

I've contemplating trying to ask her out one last time or either just tell her right away to get back to me instead whenever she had a free spot in her calendar or ask her directly if she's even interested at all (in a non-needy way).

I think I know what to do, but I would still really appreciate some advice.

>>17729675
>(that I'm pursuing her romantically)

Really? You are just horny about her, dude. What romance can be in looking at a cute girl?

Don't lie to yourself. All you want is sex, and this will be creepy for her.

How do girls always have soft, smooth skin? I have had really bad excema my whole life, and recently it has come back pretty bad. My face is constantly red and dry, and my scalp is always itching and flaking. There is a fine white powder like substance all over my clothes, desk, and any area where I spend a lot of time. I researched online, I might have Seborrheic Dermatitis, anyone have any advice?

>>17729781
Creams, I guess.

>>17729621
Yea by the looks of it she is, ill ease into it man, appreciate the reply senpai

>>17729781
I moisturise every day, exfoliate every four days, and use a face wash in the shower every morning. Hand cream and body lotion when I remember. Other than that, I don't really do much, but I don't have eczema either

>>17729773
All I want is sex? What about anything I said made you assume that? It's not true at all. Why are you judging me based on that little information as if you know me

>>17729781
Dunno if you've seen doctors about this already, but: Head & Shoulders shampoo, or any other dandruff shampoo with pyrithione zinc. Use it all over your body in the shower instead of soap. Let it soak in for like 30 seconds before you rinse it off. Over the course of a few weeks you should notice a pretty big difference.

>>17729812
All I'm saying is I think she's cute and I would like to get to know her more, obviously we want to be with someone we find attractive and I don't want just sex from her, but to take her out and maybe see where that goes. Idk why girls act like every guy that asks if they are single instantly wants to do nothing but have sex with them

>>17729812

>I pretty much only see her in the hallway before her class starts

I guess you got to really know her personality in between classes then. I mean, it's not like you said you literally never talked to a gi- oh, you did say that, right?

So, you only know you like her face. What else beyond sex can you want from there? You want a long term relationship with a girl you don't know?

>>17729824
Not him, but clearly he likes how she looks and is attracted to her, and wants to get to know her to see if she's someone he'd like to date. That's not a farfetched idea. Why do you care anyway?

>>17729824
Why are you giving me such a hard time because I saw a cute girl and would like to get to know her better!? You don't know me at all, jesus, what's with the culture these days

>>17729824
When did the dude ever imply he knew about her personality lol he straight up said that he saw here in the hallway and thought she was cute and wanted to court her. Anything from there depends on if they're compatible. What other way is he gonna find out about her

>>17729846
>>17729842
>>17729839

Have you ever stopped for a second and thought what all the "creepy guy asked me out" stories have in common?

No, it's not that the guy is "ugly". It's that the guy walks out of the blue and asks a girl he doesn't know out.

Have mutual friends, meet girls at parties (where people actually expect to hook up) or get to know her through a mutual space like a class.

Going to someone just because you like how they look is always creepy.

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What are ways that I can get a girl to become interested in me?

My wife has a gf..and we all sleep in the same bed. I got onto the girl the first time she came over...did this infront of my wife (full on kiss and tounge). My wife coukd no believe it...she always thought i exadurated my girl attraction abilities....it took her about 3 months to do what i did in 30 mins. Since the she is continually cock blocking me with this girl. I have done everything to this girl now except vaginal sex (yes done ome anal fingering) i have fucked my wife ontop of this girl almost every day the thing is i want my wife to stop cock blocking me and she has made the girl more negative towards me over time. What ahould i do. I have big exams in 3 weeks so dont want to rock the boat. We have all been sleeping together for about 3 to 4 months now

>>17729917

A girl in specific or any girl?

Like, you want to appeal to a specific girl, or you just want to improve attract any girl, doesn't matter who she is?

>>17729938
Not him but i would like to ask the same, attract any girl.

>>17729941

Any girl means ANY girl, not ALL girls. You don't get to pick which one is attracted to you.

Is that what you want?

>>17729871
So you're telling a dude who only has one chance to talk to a girl to miss out on someone that could potentially be his girlfriend, and wait until a magical scenario happens where they suddenly know the same person, see each other at a party or have a class together.. Right. Because that makes any sense at all. Women being full of themselves because they were asked out isn't his fault, stop bringing people down because you aren't giving advice you're forcing your shitty opinions on others

What is the proper etiquette until jumping into another date?
I had my first date last night and I felt it went well, I parted with her saying "we should do this again sometime".
Being I'm new to this I'm wondering when I should text thanks and work out a new date.
I guess this applies to both genders.

>>17729949
Yes.

>>17729959
>Right. Because that makes any sense at all.

Oh, sorry, building up a complete stranger in your head as a potential girlfriend, on the other hand, is perfectly logical, right?

There are hundreds of people that can be potential partners to all of us. But starting off by just reducing them to a pretty face you obsess over from a distance is a surefire way that it won't happen.

My advice is: Avoid an awkward exchange for both her and you (you being OP).

>>17729974

Be clean, dress well (not suit everywhere, but buy nice clothes), have at least a passing knowledge of current events for small talk, don't be an ass, don't be clingy, go out and have fun.

You will catch the eye of a few girls like that.

>>17729977
Okay, I see now. You're a fat tumblr permavirgin that never gets asked out by goes, despite having been fucked by many guys. Don't let your own depression cloud judgment, not every woman is as insecure as you

>>17729991

I love how you attack me personally instead of defending your own position and explaining why it's right.

It's a good way to show you don't have any real arguments, so you go for the cheap Ad Hominem shot.

I'd say it's more weird to approach someone to "befriend" them. Nobody does that. Ever. Unless you have a class with them or something.

She'll know your intentions as soon as you approach her, fortunately for you.

>>17729999
Quads don't lie. Go for it anon

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Hey girls,

I have been told I have beautiful eyes, a beautiful smile, some great things on my face, but my skin really looks like shit. I'm 19 but I still have some acne, and I have a lot of acne scars. Is that something you notice a lot and do you care a lot?

my gf is complaining about her IUD causing pain, so she wants to start looking into other forms of birth control
What do you femanons recommend?

>>17730073
She should see her doctor.

For women: On a second date, assuming you're connecting emotionally with a guy but are not exclusive, what kind of kiss would win you over?

>>17730073
I use Nuvaring and it works pretty well for me, but as someone else said, go talk to a doctor

>>17730073
I have an IUD and the first 6 were terrible for cramping, how long ago did she have it inserted?

>>17730146
about a year or two, I think
she got it before we met

apparently her uterus is p small

there's this cute girl in one of my classes

we've been sitting together in the same row. also somehow she sat next to me in the midterm, despite it being in a different place. not that it means anything, but i've been waiting to talk to her

today, she didn't sit next to me in class. that's understandable because her usual spot was taken by someone else, and maybe she didn't want to sit right next to me. i still noticed her because i turned around and saw her sitting in a different spot

so maybe i was thinking i could talk to her after class, but nope. she left ASAP after class. fuck

do i still have a chance? i think she usually skips fridays, and next week is reading week

i just feel like i missed so many chances of approaching her, i think she's given me many chances

>>17730166
Hmm, I'd say she should talk to her doctor and see if it's dislodged or something. Pills work and if she's unreliable on the pill she can use the patch, I would not recommend the shot because she'll act super menopausal.

there's this girl i know from class

i asked her how her assignment is going, i sent that yesterday

she didn't reply, in fact she didn't even read my message. i sent it through facebook and it says she was active on facebook.

wtf? why?

she tends to skip classes a lot, and talked to me before about how stressed out and how she feels behind in the course

but why the fuck did she just ignore lol

met this girl a couple weeks ago through a club we're both members of, thought she was cute, but didn't really think anything of it
saw her again today, she asked if i remembered her, initiated the conversation with that, but at the end of the club meeting, i was too beta to ask for her number

couple minutes ago i found out she's also a member of the rarely used club group chat
should i slide into those dms or should i wait until the next time i see her with our club

>>17730272
>couple minutes ago i found out she's also a member of the rarely used club group chat
uhh and?

it's a fucking GROUP CHAT, are you gonna openly propose to her or something?

when's the next time you see her? i recommend you do the first initiation IRL, for some reason girls think it's creepy when you just befriend them or add them online (even though you talked before)

i'm guessing you're not in any rush either.

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>Go to Dining Hall
>See friend from class sitting alone
>Sit with her and talk
>Her boyfriend sits next to her
>Super awkward and confrontative
>Never mentioned him before
>Try being slightly self-depracating to dispel his competitiveness
>Try to ask him the normal "what's your major?" questions
>He keeps bringing it back to people only they would know
>She leaves
>"Well it was nice meeting you man!"
>No response, just follows her

Would you say he came out on the top?
He was clearly being a jealous dickling and I'm not that interested in this girl. I just hate the idea of somebody being in a higher position than me, even if it's in their own imagined power struggle.
Did he just embarrass himself with his insecurity? Or did he successfully emasculate me in front of my classmate?

>>17730279
it's her fucking boyfriend m8

while he was probably overly jealous, i think it's quite justified

i'd feel cucked in that situation though

>>17730276
it's a group chat that allows for private messages

my thought was "don't do this, you'll see her again in a few weeks," but i just wanted to make sure i wasn't talking myself out of doing something solely for lack of confidence

>>17730286
I don't know or care about either of them very much. It's more an ego thing of 'was I just being nice to a jerk or was I rolling over for him'

She made a specific point of saying we should hang again though so Idk

> me
> see girl doing nothing
> talk to her about studying, living etc
This already happend several times.
What to do next? Add her in fb and as her out seems logical, isn't it? Also I am poor as fuck, so I can offer either to watch a movie together, or random walking.
Also I am kind of 3-4/10.

>>17730291
yep

like i said, better to make that first contact IRL

>>17730300
you probably got rolled over by him, but there's not much you could do in that situation. you can't be like chad trying to """steal""" that girl or something... unless you're into cucking maybe you shouldn't hang out with that girl if you want to stop feeling that

Girls, do you only say yes to guys that you have a crush on, or are you willing to give most decent guys a chance?

>>17730369
>Girls do you only eat food you like or also food you don't like

>>17729035
>What is your gender?
Male.

>Would you consider getting back together with an ex where the relationship ended because of external factors? (school, distance, family issues, etc.)
Sure, if I still liked her.

>Would you consider getting back together with an ex where the relationship ended because of internal factors? (cheating, arguing, abuse, etc.)
Arguing? Yeah. Maybe. Cheating? Never.

>Do you ever think of THAT ex?
Have no ex.

>>17729376
> You heard about those warriors from Hammerfal?
> They've got curves penises
>BIG
>CURVED
>PENISES

>>17729391
Nothing "guarantees" that unless she tells you directly to your face and then you fuck. Certainly not her looking at you. But it could definitely be a sign that she is interested in some way. To what degree is impossible to tell.

>>17729920
Fuck her dude, you've got some weird power dynamics going on with that shit. I'd say you want to be at the top of the pile. Otherwise chances are you might lose your wife to this side chick. If you fuck the chick your wife'll either chase her off or accept the situation, either way you win.

>>17729817
Can I use it on my face?

>>17729991
>permavirgin
>goes
>despite having been fucked by many guys
Dude are you okay?

2nd yr in college. About a month ago I hung out with a girl and some friends & she gave me her number. However I never texted her or got in touch, combination of not being interested really + distracted w other things. How bad would it be to message her now? I almost feel like a bit of an asshole in all honesty.

Fellow guys

Do any of you ever feel like a fucking autist when you Skype with QTs? I look at the little camera window of me in the corner and I feel so stupid. But this girl laughs and says how much she likes me.

What is going on? I feel like I am ugly. But she said I'm handsome

>>17730519
best you could do is try to text her

guy here

If I ask a girl to be my date for something, and she replies that she saw this coming and asks when it is, but doesn't say yes, what should I take this to mean?

I got really bad nerves and said something along the lines of that I was trying to say I was interested and she said I was sweet and see you tomorrow.

I'm thinking that yes this was obviously a rejection. On one hand, she "saw this coming", didn't actually answer, and said I was sweet. However, she touched my arm at one point and also she did ask when the event was.

Really would've preferred a straight up no. I'd either like to be her friend or let this go and if it just hangs like this I've got no idea what's actually going on. Bothering the shit out of me

Any help?

>>17730519
Text her explaining you were busy with XYZ. Then the ball's in her court to reply or not. If she replies, great. If she doesn't, recognise that you were at fault and move on.

>>17730536
>what should I take this to mean?
It means "I'll do this as a favour, but it doesn't mean I'm actually interested in you"

>>17730480
Thanks....the problem here is she says if i fuck the girl then she can go and fuck some guy.....

Girls, my girlfriend depends on me 100% emotionally (beyond shit family life, history of abuse, etc) and I love her to bits but I'm poor and she isn't. To top it all, I've fucked up my college life and I'm probably dropping out soon. I don't want her to stay with me out of pity or to hang on because of her feelings and end up throwing her life into the trash with me. I want to break up so she can find someone better but I don't know how to do it without making her sink into depression.

>>17730629
>I don't know how to do it without making her sink into depression.
unless you can somehow hook her up with another good bf, it's inevitable

they just feel lonely and depressed without a bf, that's just how they are

>>17730551
That makes the most sense. Thanks for your input, anon

Girls and guys

What are you suppose to do if you're in a relationship, and your relationship with your girlfriend is going so WELL that it's almost too much for you? Things are so good between us, but it's practically too much for me. I don't know how to explain this. Like, she's incredible, and I'm so happy we have something. But it's so much that I feel strange and off

>>17730687
I'm in a similar situation, my problem is I think I just don't deserve this and I'm trying to fuck it up but I'm afraid of losing my girl at the same time. My best advice would be to go see a shrink, if you think you don't deserve something good then it's got to do with our self-worth more than anything else.

I hardly come into these threads This one is for girls/guys

I have known my ex for about 4 years, knew eachother for two and dated for two. We have been separated for a few months now, and it wasn't a horrible breakup. We were still pretty close, as we both still considered each other best friends where we could talk about anything.

A few weeks after our breakup, she started seeing someone else and it was someone that was an acquaintance, and that was fine with me. Most of her attention was on him. It is understandable, but I found it a little annoying considering how much we talked before.

The first say two months of their relationship, and there was like 10 bad arguments inbetween them. Ones where no talking is taking place in between, and every time she suddenly pops up giving me attention and telling me things that are wrong. The annoying part is that she never really does anything about it, just lays it all on me and then when she's done she goes back for it to happen again. After the third month of this constantly happening, I just told her to stop, and she got mad and we didn't talk for around two weeks.

Two weeks go by, and she messages me apologizing for hurting my feelings, asked if we could go out and do something together. I said sure and so we did, but the problem was she didn't really tell her boyfriend about it and he found out. He pretty much imploded on her, and told me to stop contact with her completely, and if I did he would just punish her. It wasn't to my surprise that there was another argument between them over the two week break, and that is why she wanted to spend time with me. After the confrontation she told me that she saw him as pathetic, but the very same day they pretty much made up.

I know it was pretty dumb to try and stick around to be friends with an ex. Should I just give up on her and move on? Is there any girl here who can give me any insight on whats going on with her? Sorry for the rant.

>>17728742
Danielle?

>>17730721
>if I did he would just punish her
Not a woman but this is really weird. He's trying to make you stop talking to her, rather than her stop talking to you. Between that and the fact she called him pathetic their relationship sounds like shit and almost abusive.

>>17730687
Just as the other anon said, but i wouldn't go as far as to say you need to see a shrink. You should have a heart to heart with your girl over the feeling and you should know that she is with you for a reason. You are good enough, and you shouldn't think otherwise.

>>17728571
If you have doubt, then just assume shes interested and proceed accordingly. Stay confident

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>>17728383
What are some fairly innocent things that girls enjoy doing with a guy? I'm a 25yo khv and I want to ask a girl out but I need a pretext.

>>17730629
Relationships are a partner ship. If you love her to bits you shouldn't be the selfish one and decide that it's over. Have a talk with her, tell her what is going on and how you feel. Biggest problems in relationships are a lack of communication, and even if you feel inadequate about your situation swallow your pride and talk about it.

>>17730751
If, by 'fairly innocent' you mean 'platonic' then she's not going to realise you think it's a date

>>17728699
Therapist

>>17730528
You're just not used to being on Camera it seems. If they find you attractive stop being insecure and just show confidence. Nothing is more attractive than confidence. The more time you spend on camera the more natural it'll feel.

>>17730751
No, you dont want to do innocent things. Innocent things are what you do when you just want to be friends. Being straight forward after a tiny bit of probing is the best bet.

>>17730747
I think it is pretty abusive, it's just the fact that I can't do anything about it is killing my mental state. No matter how logical I put it to her, all he has to do is say something that sounds nice and she just walks right back into the mine field.

I don't want to believe I am jealous, I just hate seeing it happen.

>>17730758
>>17730773
Well shit, I'm so inexperienced that if I try a more straightforward approach I'm sure I'll fuck it up, plus I don't know how to transition from smalltalk to anything flirty. I really want this girl but to screw it up would kill me.

>>17730789
>I really want this girl but to screw it up would kill me.
Jesus Christ, stop being such a fucking drama queen

>>17730279
He wasn't being competitive, he was being insecure. Not even being able to say goodbye to you is enough to look at him like a bitch boy. Even if you felt awkward you came out the better man.

>>17730801
Don't take it so literally, I just really like her.

>>17730789
It's pretty hard to mess up a direct approach, but the probing before hand is a bit easier to mess up.

Just tell her she looks nice today, bring up something that you would both be interested in talking about and then ask for her whatsapp or whatever she uses after. If she gives it to you be a bit more flirty over text, and if she doesn't give it to you she probably doesn't like you the way you want to be liked.

>>17730816
>Just tell her she looks nice today, bring up something that you would both be interested in talking about and then ask for her whatsapp or whatever she uses after.
Alright, I'll keep that in mind. We've known each other for a long time though, so I already have her contact details. Being old friends is one of the reasons I'm not keen to mess it up.

That makes it easier. Literally just text her

"This may sound a bit silly, but I have been thinking about this for a while. Would you like to go on a date with me sometime?"

Honestly it's the best way to figure out if she likes you enough to do it. Fastest approach and something you should just close your eyes and do right now. Get it over with, it wont ruin the way she thinks about you.

>>17730863
meant for >>17730850

You've already done the frame work, but if you have trouble with flirting it's best to be a little more direct.

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>>17730863
>>17730868
fuuuck, time to man up I guess. Gonna go have a think about things to psyche me up for it.

>>17730896
Nah man, you write word for word what I just put down and you text it to her. No amount of pacing around is going to fix it.

If you dont want to put on the big boy pants and do something else, just compliment her a bit to put the fact that you find her attractive in her mind. You'll eventually have to ask though

I commute to my classes and always show up like 40 minutes early and just wait outside for the other class to end.

I've noticed this girl who I think is cute is usually also alone waiting outside the class around the same time I arrive, I assume she's a commuter too. I've talked to her like once or twice, once after an exam and she and her friend were the closest walking out who I could ask the question to, and on Monday since I didn't understand some of the previous lecture material when looking it over and she was the only other person waiting outside the class. She gladly helped me, but her friend walked over with the worst/best timing ever, as she literally walked in as the cute girl finished explaining to me what I didn't understand. I didn't butt into their conversation to say thanks or ask for her name, I probably should have though. So I really don't know much about this girl other than she's cute and she's good with math, and she sits in front of me in class.

I wanna talk to her but become friends, and I've been told best way is through the class. Do I ask her another question today about the class, or something else? Any ideas?

>>17730921
Thank her for helping you out and ask her if she is also a commuter, and of course ask for her name. You don't have to keep to the class material to talk to her, but it's generally a good excuse.

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>>17730911
I'm not a talker, in the past I've never initiated with her. Isn't it going to seem too weird if I never start conversations then out of the blue I tell her what you suggested?

>>17730938
If she is the one who has been talking with you every single time I think it's fair enough to think that she is interested in you. She has been the one to approach you every time, dont expect her to also be the one to ask you out.

>>17730928

Yeah, but she helped me out for like less than 5 minutes, wouldn't it seem a bit odd that I'm thanking her days later for a 5 minute conversation?

Or am I overthinking it?

There's also that awkward possibility her friend walks in early a fucking gain.

You have a boyfriend
You go out with friends
You meet with a friend that you have so much in common with
You talk for hours. You meet up multiple times
You keep telling this friend that you enjoy their company
You talk to this friend how your boyfriend is testing your relationship
You share an intimate (non-sexual) moment with this friend

What do you feel about this?

>>17730952
Nah, I'd just say something along the lines of "I never really got to thank you for helping me out a few days ago"

It's not awkward, and yes you are definitely overthinking it. When her friend showed up did you just sit there quietly while they talked, or did they head off somewhere else?

This is more just guys because I didn't really think this question constituted a thread but can no gap improve beard growth?

>>17730956
Like the gap between your thighs?
The fuck gap you talking about?

Beard growth is how it is. It can't really be improved

>>17728425
Over time (years), I was able to pull my foreskin further and further back and eventually able to rub it clean as it became less sensitive. I make sure to clean it every time I shower

>>17730953
Only thing to think is how long until you dump your boyfriend and go on with this guy you are mentioning. You've probably thought about it, but if you do make sure to breakup before you do anything.

>>17730947
>dont expect her to also be the one to ask you out.
That's fair, as much as I hate the idea of having to do it.

>>17730958
I just want to have a thicker beard instead of a patchy one.

>>17730955
I usually wait outside the class near her, so I just walked over to where I left my book bag and grabbed it, and looked over my notes some more and then walked in and sat down.

Didn't really sit there and just listen to them talk, more like she finished explaining, I said okay or some shit, and went back into my book as her friend just fucking barged right in.

>>17730971
that comes with age

>>17730965
I cant really stress the other part enough though. If she has been the one to initiate conversations with you, there is an interest there. Girls don't really do that unless they are in to someone. Hell if she was the one to ask for your number then I want to smack you over the head for not catching on quicker.

Better to do it sooner than later, she probably thinks you don't like her.

>>17728742
No one would turn you down just because you happen to not shave down south. As long as it is clean, it's good to go.

I personally do find that shaved girls are more attractive though.

>>17730972
To be fair, it was her friend and it's not like you had to walk off. I can understand feeling awkward, but it wouldn't have been a bad thing to have stayed.

Generally if there is two people talking, and a third one comes in you don't really have to take off, but maybe get to know the girl you like a bit more. Try talking daily instead of every few days.

>>17728742
I absolutely love trimmed.

No one that's worth it would say anything as long as it looks fine.

>>17730986
I didn't really take off, like I said I wait near her anyway so I just grabbed my bag. Didn't really walk out, I more or less just went and looked over my notes a bit more while she talked to her friend.

I also can't talk daily since it's a college class if you couldn't tell, I only see her Mondays and Thursdays.

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>>17730974
I'm already 21. How much longer should I wait?

>>17730993
A lot of people can't grow a beard at all until their 30s

>>17730998
can confirm, mine didnt come in properly until 27-28

>Women

Man it's kind of embarrassing to ask but how and where do I meet alt/nerdy girls.

Also if you consider yourself a girl to be one in of these categories. How Should I approach you?

Also how do I approach women in general?

>>17731020
nigga just talk to them without sweating your balls off, they're human beings, they fart, they shit and they sweat like you.

>Man it's kind of embarrassing to ask but how and where do I meet alt/nerdy girls.
Just talk to them, you'd be surprised at how many women are actually into more of these "nerdy" things

>>17731021
Maybe I phrased it wrong. I have no problem talking with women but I don't know how to approach them.

Most of the women I talk to I have something in common. >School, Friends, Interests etc.
So most of the ice is broken.

But how do:
1. I approach someone on the street.
And
2. Show that I'm interested without being overbearing and repugnant? Or does this not really happen.

Or if I approach them and become good friends.

How do I show I'm interested without having them thinking I'm taking advantage of there kindness?

>>17730977
Thanks man, I really appreciate the advice, I feel a bit more confident about it all now.
>Better to do it sooner than later, she probably thinks you don't like her.
It's been over a decade, barring a few years here and there where we lost contact.

Girls (and guys) :
Been texting a girl back and forth for a while now. Sometimes we talk for an hour at a time, sometimes I text her and just get a "sorry" response after 20 hours followed by more silence. We message on Facebook a lot too, and she's always on Facebook, whether it's sharing something or putting up status updates. She always eventually replies, but I don't like waiting an entire two days to finish a conversation after being put on the back burner. I realize we both have our own lives to live and I'm not gonna be her priority a lot of the time, but we've both shown interest and I feel like I could be more serious if it felt like she wasn't so bored of me.

Am I being selfish? I don't want to tell her I want faster responses, or to have actual conversations that last more than a few minutes at a time and less than two days overall. Should I just be done with her? Really unsure right now.

It's been about three years since I caught my ex while cheating on me. What do I do to get over my subsequent commitment issues? I still can't bring myself to talk to any girl or even find myself interested in anyone and now I'm a lonely hermit.

>>17731063
Move on, if she were interested she'd be talking to you FAR more regularly

I never get past the friends/flirting/fuckbuddy stage. How to go from that to partner?

>>17731087
Cut out the fuckbuddy stage and see who sticks around?

If I'm not interested like sexually or romantically in a guy who is interested in me, should I still try to be friends with him or will this create an orbiter situation type thing?

>>17731093
I tried that. Nobody sticks around.

>>17731097
>will this create an orbiter situation type thing?
This. Don't be cruel.

>>17731104
Look for more mature people then.

Why do you girls not wear dresses anymore except for weddings? You dress terrible now wearing pants and jeans. You're like men and straight men don't want to fuck men.

>>17731115
I do when it's not windy. Well, skirts at least, it's hard to find dresses that fit me properly

>>17731123
lern2hem

>>17731130
What?

>>17731115
I like dresses but jeans are more comfortable, plus I don't need to be perfectly shaven.

r u a qt grill?

How do girls show off in front of guys they are interested in?

Personally I always try to act more socialable and funny (and look like an ass) whenever I'm around a girl I'm into. I was wondering what the other side tends to do

Guys and Girls

Did someone being Bisexual ever stop you from hooking up with them at a party or another social gathering?

>>17731191
I'm a huge autismo so a little caveat, but I usually just try to seem interested. Touch him a lot during conversation (like, his arm or something, or tell him what nice hair he has), laugh at whatever dumb joke he's making, pretend I'm really interested in his hobbies or his studies or whatever he's passionate about, just the usual stuff.

>>17731197
I don't really do random hookups, but if it's just for one night, why would it matter if you're bisexual or not?

>>17731184
r u?

>>17731197
I don't do hookups, but partners being bi is insignificant

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I'm staying with a couple. The bf, call him A, is away on business for the whole month. He was supposed to comeback today. Last night I was watching Die Hard with the gf because she said she never had the chance to watch it. In the middle of the film her phone rang, she went to listen to it. She came back, eyes watery, I asked her is everything ok, she said nothing. We continued watching the movie, to the part Mc Clane jumped off the building, she asked "Do you think A would ever jump off an exploding building tied to a hose for me?","Yeah. Definitely." She started sobbing at this point, apparently A had been neglecting her for awhile and he has extended his trip "a few more weeks", so I put my arm around her. I touched her boobs, first mistake, she said nothing. So I fondled her boobs for like 5 minutes, she said nothing, so I decided to go to her lower body, and then my hand was inside her panties. At this point, I could see tears rolling down her cheek, more and more tears. She still said nothing. I felt really bad about it so I returned to fondling her boobs. That went on until the movie was over. We went back to our room. This morning she was friendly and offered to make me breakfast. I can still feel her smooth pubic skin on my fingers.
So, femanons, is this woman looking to cheat on her bf? just because he's away for a few weeks? Of course I want to fuck her brains out (she's fucking hot). There are two other college girls living at our place and they are quite gossipy so it's pretty hard to keep it from them. I'm asking because if she intended to cheat on her bf anyway then I prefer it to be with me than with another random dude she meets at the club.

>>17731237
degenerate

>>17731237
you're a faggot

>>17731237
what the fuck dude.

How do you separate fake compliments from people trying to get something from you, and real compliments?

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This is for anyone to respond really.

To make this short... A girl that I talk to nearly every day seems to be interested in me but I'm not sure.

She always jokes about fucking me,

Example: just yesterday she said, "Anon, if I ever break up with him (talking about her boyfriend), I'm gonna come over and I'll fuck the shit out of you."

She talks about me all the time, plus her boyfriend also gets super defensive and territorial when I'm around her, shes really cute, has a fantastic ass like 1000/10 oh my lord, and her and I have the same kind of humor.

What do I do? Any help would be appreciated!

>>17731115
They're less warm in winter and it makes me feel uncomfortable to wear them in summer because I need to be perfectly shaven and if I get slightly sweaty it gets all sticky and awful.
Plus I am limited in the movements.
In fall and spring I wear them a lot, but otherwise is annoying.

Jeans are just more comfy and versatile.

>>17731338
Nothing. She has a boyfriend.

>>17731338
She sounds like a whore desu.

>>17731338
If I was you I'd rock the boat. Spend as much time with her as possible, pretend to be considerate to the bf, post on her FB wall, all that good shit while ensuring you're in her good graces. Eventually he might get beyond pissy and she'll dump him, from that point I have no idea, do your best~

>>17731358
Thanks anon/anonette.

And the Facebook thing we already do. Every once in a while we will write "hate you" or something like that on each others wall.

>>17731338
>Anon, if I ever break up with him (talking about her boyfriend), I'm gonna come over and I'll fuck the shit out of you."

Story sounds fake af t.b.h
No girl talks like this, except in some lonely guy's fantasy. Put more effort into it.

Got a bit of a stupid question for any femanons, does a hairy ass disgust/turn you off?
I've got something like a jungle (wouldn't know since I haven't seen many guy asses aside from pron) and its difficult to trim, what do?

>>17731368
Not excessively so, but trimming it isn't that difficult.

>>17731365
Not asking you to believe it or not, come to your own interpretation.

So there's this girl I met not long ago along with her parents. At first she would just be there along with her dad while we were talking about random stuff.

Once I decided to speak up about how I've been progressing after being a piece of shit NEET for many years, though she acted quite differently, as if she cared about me a lot more. Sometimes she would greet me with a hug, once I hanged out with her and she also talked about her personality, her past (which was also terrible) and the fact that she trusted me a lot more than other people.

Now every day she's pretty touchy, yesterday every time I had to say goodbye to her (that's 4 times in total) she would come and hug me. It's as if she's trying to find any excuse to do it. As I said goodbye to her and her dad yesterday I really felt a bit nervous about what he must have thought of that so I fucked off pretty fast.

Now, here's a little detail though. Something that has gone through my mind. She's been in a relationship until not long enough ago. She left that because she cheated on her guy with some other dude she can't see anymore. She's been feeling like crap ever since. Is it possible that she's after me because of it all?

Excuse me for being this dumb. Like I said, awful past.

>>17731338
Just remember that if she cheats on her boyfriend she'd probably cheat on you, if you're up for some fun, I guess it's okay? But if not then leave it.
>>17731191
I get really shy, laugh at most of the guys jokes, say embarrassing stuff and ramble.
I'm real bad at flirting.
>>17731115
It's fucking cold where I live. I wear them in the summer though.
>>17731020
Cons, clubs.
I don't know, just don't talk about your dick size in the first conversation.
Just be funny and talk about your interests and stuff. I mostly like nerdy guys that are into mtg and stuff, but basically just see what you got in common with the girl.

If it's at a con and she's cosplaying a convo started could always be "can i have a picture" and then talk about what shows the two of you like, idk.

Girls; would you rather be used or ignored by a guy you're into

Another question for any femanons, so I've got a dry sense of humor and can't tell jokes or banter unless there's some kind of chemistry. Is there another way to gain a girls interest in conversation?
I can appear confident and composed, I can even decently hold a conversation for a bit, but where do I go from there? Ask her how her days been or maybe ask about her interests and try to relate?

I'm on a dating site and I just told a girl I'm a virgin (I'm a wizard, we're the same age) and her response was "what what what"

She's still talking to me but I'm worried now. Any thoughts, ladies?

>>17731392

Hahahahaha, you are so edgy!

BTW, I'm a guy

>>17731393
Find something she is interested in and show off your knowledge in that area.

>>17731379
>She left that because she cheated on her guy with some other dude she can't see anymore. She's been feeling like crap ever since. Is it possible that she's after me because of it all?

It's very possible. Sorry dude, but a deep, emotional relationship with her sounds like a bad idea.

Fucking around could be fun, though. Just don't fall for her.

>>17731392
Are you retarded?

>>17731400
Yeah it's kinda fucked. I don't feel like having the wrong kind of relationship with her due to her parents being friends of mine (btw, I'm not much older than her, I just happen to meet older people on a regular basis). Given that I've never been successful, it's hard to keep myself away from her either. I do unfortunately enjoy what she's doing.

>>17731415

Hey, if you are not comfortable, you don't need to do anything. When family and friendships get involved, shit is more complicated.

Don't feel like you have to take the chance. Do it only if you want.

>>17731446
>>17731446
>>17731446

New thread.

>>17729938
Specific.