How did you feel about your life before and after sex

What changed? Absolutely nothing.

>>17721171
it did not change shit i was just like "cool" so yea. She was loud as shit and came a lot so that was nice, but yea idk what you're trying to get out of a question like virgin lmao

>>17721171

virtually no difference. sex was still only a small tiny facet of life, similar to masturbation.

masturbation does not change life. just small parts of your day.

Idk. I was just a kid

>>17721171

Before I was broken and depressed and thinking no one would ever love me.

Then I saw a prostitute, had a hell of a lot of fun.

Now I'm still depressed, but I realize sex is over rated and it's more about the feeling that someone actually wants you. But it straightened out my priorities to get my shit together so someday I can be a better person and find someone, or get enough money to bang more prostitutes... Cause while being over rated it still felt really good and was a hell of a lot of fun.

>>17721628
Is getting an escort worth it?
Its the one thing that is guaranteed to get me laid, no one can stop it, not the cops, not the college, not frat guys, not any clubs, not my family, literally nothing can stop it if I decide to activate the ultimate fail safe

I've thought that if I do it, I want it to be raw
>inb4 1) they would never let you and 2) stds even if they did

I'm hoping if I show up with an std test from the same day proving I'm clean, and outright tell them I've never gotten laid before and I know they are all on pills, that she would let me

Also there's a lot less chance of getting an std with a girl who is hyper paranoid about them than some random college chick anyways

video related would basically be mfw if I did it after everything I've been through and all the challenges ive faced and I still couldnt get laid
it would be letting go


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Nothing.
I swear to god, I still feel like a "virgin" sometimes. It does feel nice to do it though, I can say that. If you're a virgin, don't jerk off too much before you sex or have coffee.

Honestly? Night and day. Not because of anything about sex itself, which is pretty nice but not some life-altering experience, but because I had so much toxic baggage weighing me down beforehand. You know what I mean, all that >tfw no gf shit from here, plus the constant, seriously fucking constant message being blared at me by society that my self-worth as a man was determined by how sexually successful I was, plus the occasional jibes from friends about my lack of a sex life, and worse still, the occasional "don't worry, anon, we'll get you a girlfriend this year." I mean, I wasn't suicidal or anything, not even truly depressed about it (in the clinical sense) like some people on here, but it sure weighed me down.

Now, years after the fact, I can look back and recognize that I should have just chilled out about it, said "fuck'em all," and trusted that it'd happen eventually when I met the right person, which it did. But if anybody had told me that (and I'm sure people did) back when I was still a virgin I'd have told them "you just don't get it." And they didn't. If I tried to teach somebody in that situation that same lesson now, they'd probably tell me the same thing, and in a way they'd be right.

>>17721700

The one I saw I met in Nevada. She quit shortly after working there cause she figured she made more money doing porn and stripping and doing extras.

I visited her a few times at her home city tho, she always a recent std test before I got there. Thank god cause I did it raw, and she was teaching me to have sex so I kissed her a lot and oral. Thank god I never caught anything. I had to cut it off tho, I was getting attached... She'd even call me and text me just to chat, and charged less and less and went on dates before we'd go back to my room. Hell I even knew her real name and met some of her friends.

Long story short, it was worth it to me. I had a lot of fun, I know enough now about sex that if I do have it again I'll know what I'm doing. Tho I'm hesitant about finding a local escort due to possible stings or stds cause I got lucky with her.

>>17721171
>pre
felt pretty good

>post
still feel good but now there is this chick i have to avoid.

I think one of the major issues that a lot of people on here deal with is putting too much pressure on the endgame of losing your virginity. After a certain age, it appears unachievable and that definitely isn't the case, but it leads a lot of men to turn to prostitutes just to get the deed done.

Sex itself isn't that life changingly amazing. Yeah it's pleasurable (in most cases) but the best sex I've ever had (in fact possibly the only good sex I've had) was with someone I genuinely had a connection with, which didn't happen until I turned 28.

I'd had sex prior to this and was completely different - to the point where I was once in a relationship where I didn't have sex for over six months.

I had no interest in sex, I saw it as a chore and to be totally honest, associated it with negative things. It made me feel worse rather than better about myself.

However, after meeting someone I felt truly comfortable with (and completely in love with) I now appreciate every touch, every kiss and every intimate moment we have together.

It's amazing the difference it makes. Sorry for the long boring post, but I just wanted to describe my experiences with having sex because you think you have to, and sleeping with someone you actually want to.

>>17721730
Cause see I've thought about a scenario like yours before, it would be nice if I could get a girl who is on the cute side, and I definitely don't wanna get any shit from her about "haha virgin" or anything

It'd be nice if I wasn't under some time crunch while there, and it would be cool if she was kinda chill, I get that time is money and she is running a business but I can still be cool with local waiters and stuff, get preferential treatment, etc, they are still people

How much less would she charge you each time?

Also did she make you pull out?

And how did you convince her to let you do it raw?

>>17721740
I've heard people swear before that it feels no better than a properly warmed up venus real soft ona hole

Then again I hear people all the time idolizing sex
Then again most people don't have sex toys
Then again some people who have had them say its still inferior even physically

If I somehow magically knew what sex was like, and it turned out to be no better than what I've already got, I would drop literally all the shit I'm doing and I dont know what from there

Because what I get from the ona is nowhere near being worth anywhere even like on the same continent as all the shit I've done

>>17721730
Also did she know you'd never gotten laid before?

>>17721844

Oh, I'm not for one second saying that trying sex for the first time with a prostitute is a bad thing. It's true, the physical replication of sex can be done quite easily I suppose - especially with how advanced sex toys are nowadays.

However I don't think you can replicate the excitement and connection you get when you sleep with someone you have feelings for. I think comparing the two is a bit pointless.

>>17721719
Am sry but what are you trying to say? what lesson?

before sex
>lol games fun lmao topkek
after sex
>tfw no gf
>why doesnt she love me
>why cant i get fucked again
>tfw no sex since july
>before that, 1 and 3/4 of a year of no sex

ye m8 im depressed. lost my V to a 30 year old who i fell in love with and was then cucked by my uncle. who lives next door. this was 2 years ago. still think about her everyday and still long for the sexual feeling again. she made me feel normal thru sex and i miss it

>>17721849
I was just saying how I wonder how close to actual sex these things come

>>17721171

Prior to I tried really hard to look my best, or what I thought was my best at the time, I put myself in situations that could lead to getting laid. I wasn't exactly desperate, but I wanted to do it. Otherwise I was happy and had a good group of friends. I'd be lying if the fact I was a virgin wasn't a bit depressing time to time, but those were fleeting thoughts.

When I did get around to doing it with what became my girlfriend of nearly 4 years I felt on top of the world, but I think a lot of that was the confidence of dating someone I really liked, I don't think the sex actually did anything for me, it felt great and all but It was more the relationship that made me happy.

So long story short I don't think sex changes you at all, once the novelty of it wears off it's just another thing you have experienced along with most of the rest of the adult population, it's great don't get me wrong but not life changing.

Nothing really changed in the long run and it's not a big deal. I was just really happy afterwards and looking forward to it again.

Literally nothing changed.

I didn't notice much of a change. Though it'd be hard to tell what change was down to sex and what was down to getting my first gf.

I think I'll pass on the advice of a wise man: Sex is like air. It's only important when you aren't getting any.

Basically, a need is satisfied and that's about it.

>>17721171
Losing your virginity is one of those things that seems bigger before than after. The most likely response is "Is that all there is to it?"

>>17721842
>>17721846

After I chose her and we were back in the room I told her I was new to this. She thought I ment prostitutes, but then I told her I was a virgin and she was cool with it. Said she never actually got to take anyone's virginity.

First time I met her it was $500 for 30 mins. Then it became $500 over night, and next it became hang out all day and night for $500.

I convinced her to do it raw on my second trip seeing her. I wanted to know what it felt like and then it became about trying as much as possible and her teaching me alot

>>17722129

Fuck now I miss her. I might call her and see what she's up to.

>>17721171
Nothing changed at all, and I think you'll hear that a lot. I guess the only thing I could think of that would change immediately after is maybe you'll be more confident in relationships because societal expectations dictate that it's nearly a requirement and you'll have that experience under your belt. I don't personally give a fuck though, it's not even the best part of being with someone.

>>17722160

Yah in the end sex is fun but in the end it's the overall relationship is what I really want. Losing my virginity made me realize that

>>17721171
I was totally drunk off my ass and didn't remember a thing, but when my friends told me what happened my self esteem soared.

It's come back down pretty bad though.

>>17721171
It's not really a big difference as long as you know that sex is not 45 minutes of piledriving like in Brazzers movies, but more about feeling each other breathe and enjoying the unavoidable awkwardness of being naked while trying to fit body parts together.

I recently lost my vcard to a girl who is kind of using me. I want something long term but she doesn't, she pays for dinner and then fucks me and then leaves within 15 minutes. Made me realize that sex is actually underwhelming without a relationship. I used to dream about being a Don Juan and bedding a different hot girl every night but now all I wish is that this one special girl would like me as I like her. That's the biggest change for me, realizing that sex in itself is overrated.

The most important thing about being a virgin is that you shouldn't get clingy. What I hear from girls is that this is the biggest reason they don't want a virgin. Just be cool about it and it's not a big deal.

>>17721171


Nothing Changes. You are the same person.