Not sexually attracted to my girlfriend?

Anyone?

>>17704578
Learn to be greatful you jizz cock

>>17704591
Pretty much. I'm trying to make sense of the situation myself.

Stop wanking to porn
Reduce exposure to sensuality.
Our culture stimulates us too much. We get unrealistic standards.

You should get hard and horny as duck just from the smell of a person, especially someone you actually like

>>17704623
Yeah, you're so right. I need to do this. I do have unrealistic standards.

OP you need backbone. Look up how to be assertive, and then be assertive.

>>17704676
How is that supposed to help though? I'm not particularly assertive, but I'm in a situation where I have my theoretically perfect girl, minus the good bangs. I don't know if I'm being stupid for thinking of giving that up, or if I should be trying to fix it somehow.

OP, tell us about the crappy sex, is it because she's not really good at it or it's just physical attraction? Is she overweight?

>>17704779
She's not overweight, she's just incredibly awkward and not very good at sex. Some girls are talented, or just have skill from practice, but she doesn't have that... Her spit is thin and her pussy is dry, she doesn't like using lube. Not a good kisser and she wont shave down there.

>>17704826
I was on her side until I heard she doesnt shave. Dump her

>>17704826
Maybe try to "teach" her? If it's not physical, try to show her how? But if you did this thread, it's because you already tried right?
Her pussy is dry? Even after a lot of foreplay?
Maybe sex therapy could be the answer, I don't know.

>>17704838
Yeah, I have tried, although maybe I just need to try harder. I would rather save it than move on.

We do heaps of foreplay, she doesn't get that wet though, even after an orgasm.

>>17704826
abandon ship immediately
this is not a drill

>>17704844
And? Any progress or it was all in vain? If there was some progress, just go on like this. Otherwise, I don't know what to say.
Good luck man.

>>17704503
Help her make herself more attractive. Buy her makeup lessons or buy her clothes or say get x hair cut do makeup x way you would look amazing with x.

I'm in a similar situation OP. Actually saw a few prostitutes and had an affair. The sex with my Significant other is terrible. Dead fish terrible. She's great besides that. Everyone will give you shit on this board for how you feel but they live in a fantasy world where everyone has a soul mate.

The question is should you cheat. And that's up to you. Can't answer that for you. For me I cheated. But the sex with my SO is getting better because I tell her what I want and communicate with her on what she is doing wrong. We've fought over this because no one wants to be told they suck. It still isn't great and I do still feel guilt and fuck her once in a while just so I don't have to for a while but it's getting better. Ask me anything I'll try to help.

>>17704856
I couldn't cheat because I'd rather just be honest and move on. Better to try harder to fix it first though. Also don't know how I'd find someone who'd be okay with me having a gf and them on the side haha...

I've tried giving her a few tips. Some of them she takes on board, sometimes she feels insulted. Glad that yours is getting better.

>>17704876
On a percentage scale it's gotten 5% better. So not much better. My affair happened spontaneously with an old flame.
Some of the best sex I've ever had but only because we talked about what we each wanted sexually.
The main problem with my SO is she doesn't want to talk about it. Whenever I try she jokes and brushes it off.
I have even told her she doesn't take it seriously. Okay it sounds like I'm super serious about it but I have a normal sexual appetite. Just wish we could be on the same page communication wise about sex. Everything else looks/personality/interests is great perfect except for the sex.

>>17704895

Totally understand you. Thanks for sharing that.

I wouldn't cheat - not that I judge you for doing that, for some people its necessary to keep everything going. It's just a thought that has popped into my mind from the situation, that otherwise probably wouldn't have.

Maybe it's all just a weird mental thing on my part.

>>17704910
It's not mental. I was there too. You know what it should feel like. And society will tell you that your expectations are too high but you know that's not right either.

The solution is break it off. Find someone who satisfies you completely. But that's a fantasy.

I bet she is banging someone else. You think she is the problem. Maybe its you?

>>17704826
>>17704844
If you actually care about the relationship just talk to her about it. Obviously she knows you avoid it she's probably not retarded. Don't tell her she isn't hot and you hate fucking her ,and you want to bone every other woman in sight but talk. I kinda went through this with my ex and it ruined the relationship for me. If she doesn't understand then fuck her in a figurative way. You guys are in a relationship and you both need to make sacrifices to help the other. Basically lay it out you like/love/whatever her and want to make things better because you really want it to genuinely be better. But say hey I need you to do stuff like for example take instructions in bed/experiment with me (nothing crazy at first), dress sexier at home/out?, and you want her to shave. This isn't exactly a fucking hard list of things for a woman. Like expanding your sexuality to get better for your partner or helping them enjoy sex more seems like a fucking no brainer if they actually give a shit and shaving is basically nothing. If she can't do this that dump her selfish ass trust me /bro/ I went through that same shit for far too long it ain't worth it no matter how much you love her. Trying to convince a girl to fuck more/be more sexual if she fights it and doesn't want to for you it ain't worth shes a cunt m8

>>17704933
Nah man, if she doesn't shave the problem is her.

>>17704503
break up with her before you fuck it up talk to her maybe shell let u have 3 somes idk