Pre-sex jitters

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Pre-sex jitters 2016-10-23 02:03:36 Post No. 17695054
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Pre-sex jitters Anonymous 2016-10-23 02:03:36 Post No. 17695054 [Report]

Ok, weird problem

I'm 26, not a virgin, had a few girlfriends and slept with 3 women. Only one was in the last 2 years and that was a month ago; that was a tinder date which went very well.

I had no issues with performance anxiety with her.

However, sometimes I will get a whiff of a tinder hookup and I literally start shaking uncontrollably. They never even happen but if I start to think I might have the chance to go to the house of a girl I've never met before, and 'see where things lead' then I get really nervous and start to shake. I obviously wouldn't want this to happen if things go ahead and I do meet up with her, I'm sure nothing turns a girl off more than a guy who appears petrified to sex her.

I'm not sure which part of it worries me. Mayyyyybe its the sex itself, maybe its the fact that I don't know the girl at all and I'm worried that I won't have anything to say to her when I meet her, maybe its because I don't know how these things work. Going on a date is fine in comparison, but the prospect of meeting a stranger at her house and soon after being inside her is just alien to me.

Any advice for curing the jitters and/or hookups in general?

Anonymous 2016-10-23 02:14:34 Post No.17695077
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Anonymous 2016-10-23 02:14:34 Post No.17695077 [Report]

In in the same boat pls halp

Anonymous 2016-10-23 02:26:44 Post No.17695115
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Anonymous 2016-10-23 02:26:44 Post No.17695115 [Report]

>>17695054

Fap before your meet her. Now you can think straight

If you can still get it up when you meet, you bypassed your jitters.

If you can't call it off and go back to hunting.

Anonymous 2016-10-23 02:37:53 Post No.17695146
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Anonymous 2016-10-23 02:37:53 Post No.17695146 [Report]

>>17695054
Might be adrenaline

Anonymous 2016-10-23 03:04:57 Post No.17695202
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Anonymous 2016-10-23 03:04:57 Post No.17695202 [Report]

>>17695146
Good shout, that may well be it

Ok, in which case, how to combat the adrenaline? And how would a hookup like that actually work?

>"Hi there femanon, good to meet you"
>Sex
>"Cya"

How do you transition to sex? I feel like I might not be suited to casual hookups.

Anonymous 2016-10-23 06:11:48 Post No.17695515
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Anonymous 2016-10-23 06:11:48 Post No.17695515 [Report]

>>17695202
dude the same thing happens to me and i've done that kind of hookup and powered through. you just have to know that some of them aren't going to go very well and be casual/charming about it. just don't give a shit. if everything fails and you're shaking, just say 'yeah it happens sometimes. oh well, if you want to try again give me a call' and leave. the more you do the less it will happen. just do it and who the hell cares.

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