what now

go hermit mode. Buy some solar panels and live in the woods on your computer, occasionally jerking it to cartoons on the internet. Something like this guy, but substitiuting bombs with qt anime grills.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ted_Kaczynski

>>17694776
Find a new passion for life, because it's clear if you thought you would spend forever with her, you were passionate about her. Pick up a new hobby, set your sights on a new career or any goal in particular. Lift weights, run, etc.

Learn how to be a better boyfriend for the next girl and don't repeat the same mistakes.

>>17694776
What the other anon said, and the general break up advice you'll find anywhere on here or reddit as it's all the same. Find a new hobby, channel that pain into something, change up your life completely, move on.

Now you do need to understand, this pain isn't going away. Not without some serious time and adjustment. I'm 10 months out of being in your exact situation and I still have bouts of depression daily, at worst complete breakdowns. Such is life after becoming a pathetic codependant fuck.

All the advice I can give is what you'll hear over and over, like I said. Change your life in as many ways you can, and desperately grab and claw at whatever you can that will fill that and meaning she sparked within you. And do NOT get a rebound relationship. I avoided, but I've had friends fucked up by doing that.

Focus on you. Focus on moving on. You'll get there, I guess. Or not. But you've got to do something and there's only so much self pity to wallow in.

Best of luck.

Tell us your story, OP. Venting is good, and we can give better advice if you give more information.

>>17694865
>>17694865
We met when we were 18 and we instantly clicked, after about 3 months of chating non stop we started dating, meeting every day, spending all our time together. It was summer, and it was fucking magical. Oh, and at the moment we went to the same school, so we met every day after the summer as well. During school I founf out that she was a little bit jelous, but so was I, so we both stopped flirting and being too close with other people. It was worth it, because we couldn't be happier. we spent all our time together, every day. So, after almost two years she finds out I sometimes watched porn, and of course her being jealous there was a scene, and for the firs time, we had a break of about two weeks. Even though I apologized and promised to not to it. During these two weeks I felt fucking horrible, I knew we would get together, but i didn't know what to do with my time, whatever I did nothing satisfied me as much as time with her. So I tell her to meet, and I say I'm sorry, and she says it's ok, everyone makes mistakes, she thought about it and it isn't such a big deal. But she said to try and not to watch porn because that makes her feel uncomfortable. We got back together, I asked if she did something during the brake, and she said that she met a guy, but there was nothing with him, they just talked, and I know that was the truth, because she was very sincere. So we get back, and everything is sunshine and rainbows again, we get into the same university, into same study program, were happy, just that sometimes the guy texts her, offering to meet and shit. They meet a few times and I get jealous, so I tell her to stop everything now, she understands and she does. About a year passes, were happy as ever, together every day, but then she starts saying she's bored, she needs something more than just to spend time together, while for me I'm happy just to sit in silence with her, but I try to come up with what interesting to do when we meet. Cont.

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>>17694839
>Learn how to be a better boyfriend for the next girl and don't repeat the same mistakes.
That's retarded, shitty people are gonna be shitty people.

You got fucked OP, drop her, she cheated once she will likely do it again, she has no respect for you.

Move on, find someone else, pray that she's better, be the best person you can be, make her check up on you 10 years from now and go "damn"
The whole "no porn" and talking to no one else but each other out of jealousy and what not is real fucking immature.

You're young as fuck, learn from past experiences and this whole thing sounds like regular new young couple issues

>>17694839
kys

Cheaters cheat because they're idiots and cowards. If the person is going to cheat on him because of a rough patch in the relationship he may as well get rid of her sooner than later because all relationships have their ups and downs.

>>17694776
respect yourself and don't forgive her, dump her and find things to do with your life

>>17695771
Pls continue OP.

>>17695771
So she tells me the guy texted her again, I say to ignore it and she says ok. Everything is fine, but fast forward to the last couple of months. She starts acting a little bit off. You couldn't see it usually, but me, after spending almost every day of my life past 3 and so years i felt something. I thought it was paranoia, so I would just shake it off. Then, last month came. She works at her dads place, and she started saying he needs help and going there more often. Then she would feel tired and go to sleep. Then she started acting weird, but I thought that was because of all the work she was doing lately. But deep down I knew something was fishy. So we go to a party yesterday, i drive so I don't drink much. She, however, gets absolutely wasted, we go to our room and she just drop to bed and starts sleeping like a rock. Suddenly I hear her phone ringing, getting texts non stop. I take it and read through the whole chat. I don't even feel any emotions at the time, I'm just in shock. I finnish it all, there was no talking about sex or anything in the chat, but the guy asked if she likes when she touches her, and then there was a line ''did u like it today?'', and she said ''yeah, it was great'', which I already knew what it meant. I don't sleep all night, I just can't, I'm shaking thinking that this girl who I thought would me my future wife is doing something behind my back. She wakes up, I ask her about him, she asks how do I know, I say i've read your texts. Then I ask if she fucked him, she says no, which I know is a lie, so I ask her to at least respect me enough to give me the truth. She then says yes, she cries, I cry, she says she's sorry, i tell her I don't fucking get it, why would she do something like this. I tell her that I thought I had a true friend, but as it turns out I am alone, she starts to cry hysterically and I see that she is really sad. Cont.

>>17695823
I tell her that she needs to understand that everything is over, she cries even more, asks if we can at least be friend because I'm the only person she feels she can be with without hiding her true self. I say I don't know, and drive her home. Monday is coming, we study together, i dont know what to do. The sad thing is even after all this I just want her to be happy.

>>17695786
Yeah, as I said we were 18 when we met, but we matured together, and jealousy was not a problem anymore for a year or so

>>17695830
Sorry OP, you're in a really unfortunate situation. But, you have to get away from her. You say you just want to see her happy. That's because you really love her. Well, in reality, you're just holding on to the feelings you had of her. You see, she isn't what you thought you loved. She's a lying, deceiving, uncaring girl who isn't worth your time, let alone your caring. You love her, but she doesn't even respect you enough to not hurt you this way. She never did and she never will. Get away from her and find someone worth your time. You'll eventually regret every moment you continue to spend with her. It will just keep you from better things.

Just realized that things have changed. Assimilate this new information. She isn't who you thought she was. She is a cheater. She betrayed your confidence and your love. She doesn't respect you. She doesn't love you. She may feel guilty, but know that she only feels bad because she got caught. She didn't feel enough for you when she decided to throw everything she had with you away. Anyone that cheats knows that's a possibility. She thought it was worth it.

She's not worth you, OP.

>>17695851
Thank you... should I quit university? Or should I just try to not see her everyday while we're in class? It sounds impossible

>>17695823
Never get back with her, she totally betrayed you and went behind your back, she knew what she was doing.

If it helps, she sounds like she would have left you anyway, and it would have been a nasty messy break up.

You got with her at 18, it was never going to last anyway, they never do. And trust me, there is always another guy involves some way or another.

>>17695861
>should I quit university?

why, because she cheated?
it's HER fault, not yours. have some respect for yourself, you have nothing to feel guilty about.
if anyone should feel uncomfortable, she should.

>>17695861
Oh no, don't derail your life because of her. If you must see her, just try to keep interaction to a minimum. She will probably try to do everything she can to get you back. Be firm. Don't fall for it again. She should have tried when she still had a chance. Just ignore her as best you can. If she's persistent, tell her to knock it off. You two are done. Friendships only serve to reopen wounds. I do not recommend them. Once again, she didn't care enough for you to save you this hurt, how good of a friend can she possibly be to you?

>>17695823
>>17695830
Bud, people are people. There will always be rough patches, but you don't drop something you spent years on like it was nothing.
Have her make it up to you. Find out what the relationship was missing, because there obviously is something. Ask her if it's a date thing, or sex, money, whatever. Compliment her everyday, because I know dudes are shitty at that, and I try all the time.

Little things can keep it together. You breaking up with her will just set you back. Bite the bullet, swallow some pride, and work things out.

Worse come to worse, open the relationship, because threesomes if done right are fantastic.
>Don't expect the two to include you; get crafty.

>>17695908
This isn't a "rough patch," she betrayed his trust. He can't trust her anymore. If he forgives her, he is basically confirming to her that there are no repercussions to her fucking actions. What's to keep her from doing it again? It obviously won't be the respect she has for him. It isn't OP place to kiss her ass and make things better. She fucked up. She has to live with the consequences of her actions. Staying with her and trying to work things out, like an idiot, is the biggest set back he could ever have regarding this situation. There is no repairing this shit. She ruined it. You know trust? The foundation for any relationship? It's gone now.

To suggest that not only does he have to forgive her AND fix HER mess, is the dumbest, beta shit I've heard on this fucking site. If OP has ANY pride, he'll ignore your completely asinine advice, and let you be the cuck faggot you desperately want to be on your own.

That, or you're a cheating bitch who thinks you're above consequences. Either way, fuck off.

Don't feel sorry for her. Reprimand yourself for feelings like these. She cheated on you. Drop her hard and use it to start afresh. Really go out and build a new life. It's going to be difficult, but rewarding.

Don't listen to the cuck >>17695908

>>17695908
lying to and cheating on someone for months (possibly years) is not the same thing as going through "a rough patch." that is a severe character flaw and an indicator that this girl doesn't give a fuck about him.

look, OP, it's fine to be hurt. you should be. as far i'm concerned, though, you should drop this girl and leave those three and a half years in the dirt. it clearly didn't mean shit to her until it all blew up in her face.

in future relationships, try to keep that jealousy under control. you said in one of your posts that the last few years were jealousy free, but you literally forbade her from seeing somebody, and she fucked him anyways. jealousy is toxic and does nothing good for a relationship. however, don't just put up with it and accept the blame like some of the anons in this thread are saying. she is the one that wronged you and you should leave her behind forever.

Guys, thank you, I really needed this advice, because I've never encountered a situation like this before. I didn't want to talk about it with anyone I know, so you really helped. I've decided to really end it all, and your advice and explanations made it easier. You are all amazing, and I'm grateful

>>17696044
Good luck, OP! Take care of yourself.

At least you haven't had to recondition into civilization after Naked and Afraid, TV seems to be an international detriment.

>>17694776
The best thing you can do for yourself in this situation is to erase her from your life, and just move on. Forget about her, you'll find someone better or you won't, but if you get back to her she's bound to make the same mistake twice, because cheaters tend to do that

Good luck in the future, OP!

>>17695830
>I'm the only person she feels she can be with without hiding her true self
well that is a lie, she hid her true self from you with this guy she's been in contact with of fucking ever. She chose him OP. He's the guy she doesn't hide anything from now, not you. Do not be friends with some like this that will betray you.

>>17694839
He was "asking for it", right?

BAKA!

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It wasn't a one time thing that she got too drunk and made a mistake. She knowingly went to him again and again. There is nothing to salvage here, OP. You need to get out now and forget her. Easier said than done but you have to start right now.
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>>17695908
Why do women like this think that they are above consequences lmao

>>17695861
Don't quit school. Quit talking to her unless absolutely necessary

>>17694776

Break up with her. Spend a week (and not more) thinking it through. Wallow in self-pity, feel sorry for yourself. Be miserable. On the 8th day wake up and start a new life. Find a new passion. Do something new. Work on yourself. Grab a basketball. Hit the gym. Read something. Go clubbing. Whatever.

When it's all behind you and you don't want her back anymore, you'll have enough time to think about what ifs, revenge, and shit like that. You'll have a cold head by then. You won't care as much, your judgement won't be impaired. For now, give yourself one week at most, because it's unhealthy to completely drown your feeling after such a disappointment in life. It's to cope.