How to un-invite someone to a party

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How to un-invite someone to a party 2016-10-20 02:39:31 Post No. 17686788
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How to un-invite someone to a party Anonymous 2016-10-20 02:39:31 Post No. 17686788 [Report]

So, I'm having a big party, 30+ people. There will be drinking, but it's not some college kegger.

Anyway, I invited everyone I work with. Among these people is a fellow who's not too popular, but I don't dislike him and he would've heard about the party anyway. He's always been /b/-tier humor, 'hyuk hyuk why not just put black people in cages to protect them from themselves?", the kind of shit you hear teenagers say to try and russle jimmies.

Well, since I told him about the party, he's been making increasingly hyper-sexist comments, far past his normal 'controversial' bar. At first I was worried about him trying to red pill people at my party, for the sake of being a good host, but he's gone past raving about "all women" this and that. When speaking about a girl who will be there, he said "man the first chance I get I'm gonna rape the shit out of her". So, I'm now morally obligated to either bar him from the party completely (who the fuck says that to the host of a party with lots of drunk girls?), tell her myself, or just have one of my 'crowd control' friends watch him close. They have daughters, they don't like guys like him.

There are more than a handful of girls that I work with going, and even more personal (girl) friends showing up. My fucking sister is going to be there, and I don't have the time, energy, or patience to deal with him antagonizing people that I actually like, let alone threatening to rape someone.

Tactful ways to handle the situation? I prefer to keep things amicable if possible, but I'm not one to shy away from confrontation when it's called for.

Anonymous 2016-10-20 02:48:31 Post No.17686809
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Anonymous 2016-10-20 02:48:31 Post No.17686809 [Report]

>>17686788
Send him a text, email, or other form of written message outright telling him that you're a hair away from revoking his invitation. Explain to him that you were trying to be kind and inclusive by inviting him, but his behavior since the invitation has been completely unacceptable and if he does or says anything else inappropriate before the party, he better not expect to still be welcome.

Basically you put the ball in his court, making it very clear that you can and will ban him if he fucks up, but he has to knowingly make the decision to fuck up; it's not you being an arbitrary dick bag. Having it in writing just makes the whole ordeal verifiable in case for whatever reason this extends to other people at work.

Anonymous 2016-10-20 02:50:37 Post No.17686816
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Anonymous 2016-10-20 02:50:37 Post No.17686816 [Report]

>>17686809
That's a good explanation.

Go with this OP.

Anonymous 2016-10-20 02:53:24 Post No.17686823
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Anonymous 2016-10-20 02:53:24 Post No.17686823 [Report]

>>17686788
Why not ask him nicely to keep it a bit to himself because you don't want to deal with those bitches complaining all night?

Anonymous 2016-10-20 02:54:22 Post No.17686830
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Anonymous 2016-10-20 02:54:22 Post No.17686830 [Report]

>>17686809
This works.

Anonymous 2016-10-20 02:55:46 Post No.17686833
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Anonymous 2016-10-20 02:55:46 Post No.17686833 [Report]

>>17686809
Excellent advice, thank you.

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