conflicted on parenthood

bump. pls help

Fleeting thoughts and nothing else. Who will take care of you? If you can maintain your health and go to the doctor on a yearly basis, you should be able to freely move on your own into your 70s. It all depends on your fortitude of keeping healthy.

Pass on everything you learned? Why? Why not let them figure out life? Be a happy couple that can spend time with each other and are able to afford the better things in life in the future.

>>17670111
Part of the reason life is hard is because we must, necessarily, every day, make decisions without having all of the information. You can't know with 100% that ANY decision you make is the best one. The best we can do is to work with the information we have.

It sounds to me like you have a bunch of very good reasons not to have kids. Are you going to be lonely when you're old? Probably, sometimes. Are you going to second-guess your decision? Almost certainly. Are these reasons to have kids? Fuck no.

You're doing ok, OP.

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Having children is a gigantic decision that a lot of people make on really flimsy grounds. If you are not 100% sure that you want children I think you shouldn't have them. A lot of the fears you are expressing manifest from society's pressure to have children. It's really not worth taking the leap over because it's not a decision you can reverse and it will come to define the rest of your life.

>>17670111
Google the parent happiness gap. It's a real thing, especially if you're an american.

>>17670111
>we also feel the world is kind of an ugly place right now and we wouldn't want our child to suffer in it
You are such a cliche.

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>>17670526
thank you anons, I'm second-guessing myself a little less now. I figure having to deal with 18+ years of added stress, responsibilities, and expenses just to have someone to take care of you when you're old probably isn't worth it

>>17670549
I know it sounds cliche, but have you actually given it some thought? with the amount of internal conflict the US in particular is going through right now, I feel it's just not the time or place I'd like to raise a kid. however, the entire list of other reasons heavily outweighs this one, this was just kind of a minor thought

Here, watch this and reflect on it:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aEzMwNBjkAU

Yea, just don't have kids if you don't want to. Nothing noble about shittng out a fresh generation of cannon fodder. But the sad thing is that you two at least have self-awareness, so you would probably be better than average parents. The people who reproduce nowadays dont have those thoughts.

So if you did have kids all their peers would be non-white mongoloids or trailer park rape babies. Probably best not to reproduce.

Talk to HER about it. Don't bother with us!