Not deserving of affection/love

>>17663011
Yeah man, I know how you feel. It's gone in stages for me.

Recently I met a really great, attractive, compatible girl who made it known that she wanted to spend a lot of time with me, and I committed some pretty intense self-sabotage. Just the idea of someone like her actually caring for me was so weird to me. And she tried multiple times, too. She really did try to let me know she cared about me, but I couldn't accept it and felt like she would end up not being satisfied with me for some reason.

I would say don't cancel with this girl, but see how you feel when you're actually around her. See where things go with her. For me, with this last girl, I realized that I have some personal issues I need to work out before I try and get anyone else involved in my life. Here's to hoping that you're better than me.

>>17663209

It is really confusing. A few years ago I was out with a girl I really like and really cared about there was a point our faces were really close, and we were looking into each other's eyes, I wanted to kiss her so badly, but I knew I didn't deserve her kiss. She's too perfect. I wouldn't have deserved it. she knew I had some issues with anxiety, but still cared for me. But even tho I liked her so much I couldn't accept it. After time she found a better guy.. that was years ago but I still think about her.

The girl I'm suppose to date tonight, I already canceled. Its better I don't even waste her time..

>>17663248
That's tough to hear man. It was similar with the girl I'm talking about, but even worse really. She was bold enough to make the first move with me, and we actually made out a couple times. She actually wanted to have sex with me, and was basically begging me to do it. But I got anxious and told her I had to go. Even then, she wanted me to stay the night and just cuddle and stuff but I was too embarrassed at that point. We hung out a couple more times over the next few weeks, and I had her in my bedroom alone several times, but I couldn't do anything. I just couldn't make a move, even though I really liked her.

If you're like me, chances are people have told you several times that you're a nice/good person. Maybe you even have some pretty good friends that you know care about you. But for some reason, none of it feels "real", and you can't believe it.

If that's the case, I don't know what to tell you. I don't know what happened to people like us that makes us feel like we're so fucked up and unworthy of love when people keep trying to tell us that we are worthy and give it to us

>>17663288

>If you're like me, chances are people have told you several times that you're a nice/good person. Maybe you even have some pretty good friends that you know care about you. But for some reason, none of it feels "real", and you can't believe

This. Exactly this. That's how it is for me. My friends kept telling me "dude that girl likes you a lot, you need to be with her. She cares a lot about you". Or if someone does something nice for me I feel really awkward. At work someone bought me some food when they went out to Lunch. I tried to pay them back the next day and they said "no lol, it's fine don't worry about it" I kept trying to give them money but they wouldn't take it. I felt bad.

>>17663011
Same. I actually never pursued any important goal since I think I'm shit and so I abort it at the start anyway

>>17663361

I'll pursue goals that I have to work for, like career type things. But when it comes to people and relationships, I just can't.

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>>17663011
>be 20
>never been in a real relationship
>qt 3.14 18 year old girl starts working at my warehouse
>instant attraction
>1 week in i tell her I like her
>last night after work she asked me why i havent asked for her number
Oh god I felt like such a fraud. I don't deserve this man, She was super fidgety when she told me, and she also said she was practicing in the bathroom to ask me. I feel so wrong.

>tfw this has been my life for the past two weeks

>>17663375

It's rough man

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Grow some balls, will you?

>Oh dear, somebody likes me, woe is me.

>>17663670
Shut up anon, for some of us its a bizarre sensation we don't feel worthy of.

>>17663685
But you feel worthy enough to string those women along, even make dates, but then pussy out at the last second?

You're not feeling undeserving, you're just a scared prick.

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>>17663011

>>17663715
im not op sperg

fuck that I feel the opposite. Fuck you bitch who you think you be I am fucking GOAT fine take me for granted fuck you bye

>>17663715

It's not about being "scared". A few 5 years ago a girl gave me oral sex, literally while she was sucking on me I was feeling bad like "why is this girl trying to suck me off? Why?" I didn't enjoy it at all, I didn't cum and infact, I went flaccid In her mouth.

Yeah, I'm in the same boat. My parents were never affectionate towards me and only ever gave negative feedback. Most girls I've been interested have rejected me in one way or another. The only serious relationship I've been in involved a girl that was fairly abusive and frequently did things to make me feel bad about myself. The last time I was in a relationship, the girl (who seemed really into me) ended up breaking it off because she decided I wasn't worth being a priority.

It sucks, and it's hard to get over. Most of the time, I don't even try with girls because I just assume that they don't like me and would have no interest in me at all.

>>17663761

That's awful man

>>17663749
teach me

>>17663774
I have a really fat dick.

i like this girl but when i was getting to know her more i found out she's rich and has alot of friends and parties alot and shit , so i just kinda lost attraction to her but i still love her, hopefully not too long before i forget her i feel insecure when i look at her

Why do people say "Everybody deserves love"?

>>17663954
Because love is to a person like milk is to a baby. It has a titty attached to it.

>>17663991

But what if that person is a girl? No girl wants a man with tits

>>17664012

But a girl might want a girl with tits.

>>17664016
wise anon is wise

>>17663761
>My parents were never affectionate towards me and only ever gave negative feedback.

Fuck man, my father simply refused to see me for the past 10 years, and I think he really never wanted me because he and my mom broke up right after I was born.

>>17664016

Assume she's straight. That logic sucks

But for real, why does everyone deserve love?

>>17664023
Might be cause he's not your real dad you dumb fuck but he cares enough to let you have a father on paper.

>>17664032
I really look like him though.

Should all people experience sex, or no? and why?

>>17664182
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uqVvZDKEd3A

>>17663670
i know, oh poor you you fuckin cunt

>>17664318

I'll watch it later. Thanks

>>17664318

I watched it. Sort of funny.. but depressing at the same time

>22
>never had a girlfriend
>few girls interested in me
>don't know how/where to meet girls
>just blow my money on escorts
>fucked a pornstar in atlanta yesterday
>she's clearly in it for the money but I think of her as being interested in me
>keep thinking about what kind of person she is, maybe she'll like me

I'm lonely

>>17665200
Shirt nigga, are you me?
>Tfw hookers ask you why you don't have a gf...

>>17665234
I don't understand why girls don't like me. I don't know what's wrong with me. I see guys effortlessly meet and pick up women all the time and I feel like none of them even pay attention to me. I'm just nothing, no one. I'd like to know just for one day what it's like to be wanted, to be her special someone. Just one day can I please be the greatest man in her world?

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>mfw OP have reach the barrier of cuckery where he feel he don't deserve to be love

I swear you faggots always find a way to impress me.

>>17665247

This is unrelated to the thread

I know your feel bro. Up until this point i felt like i didnt deserve any kind of love and affection. Last girl i was with i just refrained from everything about sex, just because i felt like i didnt deserve it. It ended up with us parting ways out of frustration.

Now just recently i hooked up with this girl and i still have some of the feelings from the last relationship stuck with me. However by being more with her and her being really encouraging things gets easier. Complexes are allways turn-offs, but she seems to accept me for it. Just try to stay calm and just go with it.

Its not up to you if you deserve it or not. Alot of people have gotten way more than they deserve and vice versa. If she's into you then she likes you for who you are (hopefully) and she decides if you deserve it or not.

>>17665200

I pretty much did this when I was 19. After a party I went with a friend I felt empty and unsatisfied that I didn't meet a nice interesting girls solely out of not taking actions because I'm afraid of women. My friend suggested that we go to the whores in Brussels. So I did and subsequently visited whores 2-3 times in a year, I was a student back then so I didn't earn a lot. There was this one particular whore asking me if I had a gf and I said no and she started slapping my butt saying how can you not have a girlfriend, you look pretty nice. (I think I look ugly)

I'm lonely too :(

>>17665257

Acting like a tough guy while actually looking like a neckbearded fedora wearing faggot with doritos crips on his fat manboobs jerking off to 2D animation girls.

>>17665234
>hookers ask you why you don't have a gf
Sort of related to this, once, one of the kids I work with was absolutely stunned when he found out I didn't have a girlfriend. He refused to believe it, and thought I was lying to him because someone as cool as me has to have a girlfriend.

That was weird as fuck. Likewise, a friend of mine a few weeks ago told me a girl we know is into me, and I told him I didn't think so. His response was "Why not? You're the smartest guy we know, you're funny, good looking, what girl wouldn't want that? Just go for it." And it really fucked with my head.

>Manlet
>Ugly
My insecurity has gotten to the point where any time a woman shows interest I perceive it as derision. I like to think of myself as an interesting person, I think I have cultivated some compelling interests, but the fact is I'm socially awkward, not confident, short, and unattractive.
Love will never happen.

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How do I find Love

>>17665983
congrats, you finally realized the image you have of yourself does not necessarily match the image of you other people have.


took you a while, though.

>>17665983

That sucks man

I'm hanging out with a friend and his wife right now, and they keep saying "you should find a girlfriend anon!! You could find a really nice one"

It makes me feel uncomfortable. I don't deserve this..

If this feeling dominates your life and you've felt it consistently since childhood or adolescence, psychology has some answers, though it won't save you. Read this book:

The Emotionally Absent Mother: A Guide to Self-Healing and Getting the Love You Missed

>>17666345

I know that feel senpai