Does having a social life lead to a girlfriend?

>>17655631
Not in my experience, no

No, not in my experience either.

But having a social life doesn't hurt.

>>17655644
>>17655783
What else is there besides don't be fat or ugly, plus have good hygiene and fashion

I mean how else are you going to meet gurls? If you have a social life then the possibility of getting gf goes up exponentially

>>17655813
Fashion is a lot less important if you're a guy. Confidence is key. You need to be able to talk to girls without seeming afraid or lonely or desperate.

>>17655834
Not being afraid is easy, what are some key things to avoid to not seem lonely or desperate

>>17655631
No, moxie and confidence does. Or money.

>>17655838
Don't think about how much you want a girlfriend. Don't beg, and even though you're going to tell me you'd never do this, don't tell her how lonely you are, or how happy you are to have found her, etc. That shit can come out when you least expect it.

A social life or Tinder seem to be really important in meeting people, which includes women.

>>17655820
Internet you fool

I hate being around people and I never had a problem finding girls online without having to make pretend friends as a prerequisite.

You know there are perma-NEETs that don't even get out of the house but once a week that have girlfriends, right?

If you're that desperate and you have low standards, there are literally MILLIONS of girls more on the 'plump' side just as desperate for companionship as you to be found all over the internet from video games to online dating sites.

You basically don't have to be a complete asshole that nobody likes. Oh, and you can't be a pussy afraid to talk to girls. That's all. For many people, it's getting a girlfriend that introduces them to a social life.

Pretty much your choice alone to go without any companionship forever. You may never have a porn star as gf, no. So you settle. If you still don't have any luck, you might have to settle with trying a guy. If that disgusts you, you didn't try hard enough with a girl. If none of that works, you probably have super downs.

>>17655889
What stuff on the Internet >>17655893
Explain >>17655893
I'm not settling for fatties when I'm not even fat. I just wanted to know if lifting regularly, playing in sports clubs, hiking with people, kayaking, hanging out, etc, plus looking pretty good is all a recipe for getting one at some point or am I missing something. Also if I can get girls to smile and laugh sometimes when talking to me could I still be autistic or am I on my way

Not really

>>17655937
I'm not setthing for fatties (and rest of the post from there) was meant for >>17655904
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>>17655893
Is this OP?

Pretend friends = acquaintances. You will pretend to be friends with her friends. lol Just balance your infrequent (maybe?) social obligations if you want to keep in contact with them. I think that's key.

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>>17655893
>>17655893
Find girls online, pic related

>>17655952
No its not I'm OP >>17655937
>>17655937

>>17655943
You don't have to.

I myself while technically not the kind of person I was describing as in I only visit 4chan once every three-four months nowadays ever since 2012, I have a fairly successful career coming to fruition and for 6'4" I'm of average weight, I'm friends with a lot of people who are that kind of stereotypical neckbeard and I was at risk of becoming that a long time ago.

Allow me to rephrase (for WHOEVER the post was meant for):

*You don't have to settle for "fatties" (actually even if you are fat, but that's a rare situation that involves people who love people for who they are...in short supply these days) if you aren't fat, no.

*You DON'T have to be alone though.

My point is that even someone who is fat, awkward and ugly CAN STILL find someone equally fat, awkward and ugly. Nobody ever has to be alone.

So if you're an average sort of guy, you have greater options, but you will never be without an option.

Online or outside, quite simply it's as easy as talking to enough people that one of them says yes. That's all. You have to be social enough to ask. There's no way you'll fail if you keep asking.

Thing is a lot of people here I'm sure are like me where you don't want some bullshit traditional relationship with drama and dates and you'd rather wait and find someone you really love.

Still get desperate for company though and solution to that is easy. Find a fuck buddy for casual sex/intimacy. It's really, really easy. Hate to make it look like I'm plugging Tinder or something but I swear that it works.

>>17655631
Being social competent and popular will get you girls. Yes. Unless your friend group are all weeaboos.

Its also because it means the girl can take a backseat socially and let you steer the social wheel so to speak.

>>17656007
>>17656648
Some thing I keep wondering about is is it better to directly ask a girl out or just act cool to them and try to get the cliche "slowly drift towards being BF and gf over time" route

>>17656702
And I don't mean letting yourself he friend zoned either I mean acting as if girls are no different than guys and trying to slowly over time get one of them to become buddy buddy with you until finally you may ad well be BF and gf anyears

it helps a lot
you can be relatively cute but if you're like some mute computer-hunchback who can't talk about anything but dark souls and /pol/ you're gonna turn her off real quick
having a social life gives you two things, 1)interpersonal skills and 2)opportunities
like how you'd network to find yourself a hidden job, you can network to find someone to date

of course they're not going to fall into your lap, but it's a great deal better than being a hermit and stalking girls on okcupid or pof or whatever

>>17656711
yeah you can wait a -little bit- just to see if you two are compatible. might turn out that she's a high maintenance mega-bitch and you will be none the wiser for not having wasted your time on her

I'm going to say.. in my experience, yes.

Now, I've been a VERY lucky guy, all my friend groups in life have been about 50/50 male to female. Currently in a Uni with 70% female students, what I'm trying to say is that I have never gone without.

Fuck knows how you would end up with a girl without a social life though?

>>17656868
I wish I could get a girl who I dont really have to try to impress, wish I could find one I just click with

>>17656702
Dont treat girls like bros, treat them like hoes

Rarely talk serious talk with her, it should be 90% playing and fun vibes, teasing her, establishing touch(So she knows your interested, if shes receptive she will not pull back and/or will be touchy in return.)

>>17657940
How to tell if she'd be receptive to touching

>>17658962
This?

>having a social life lead to a girlfriend
>having a girlfriend lead to a social life
pick one, doesnt matter where u start, it's good for u either way

>>17655631
>Is that all there is to it?

When you go outside during the day, do you see women your age?