no sex relationship

masturbate without porn

>>17645963

I don't enjoy masturbating much. I only like sex.

She won't do anything sexual with me if she's not in the mood which never happens due to her anxiety

>>17645960
dump her
she is not entitled to an inequal relationship

>>17645968
>>17645968
Did she develop anxiety or was that due to the therapy? What was she going to therapy for?
Its a difficult situation but I think you need to ask yourself if this relationship is worth it to you. It doesn't sound like things are going to get better soon and you may end up resenting her later on. What if she decides to be completely celibate or she never recovers from the trauma? Sexual compatibility is pretty important.

>>17645960
Sex is an important aspect of a relationship and it's unrealistic to think things are going to work out if you don't try to please each other.

Is she making progress? Is she willing to get you off (giving you head)?
If she isn't willing to do anything and the situation isn't going to change, I'd have a serious relationship talk.
Its unfair to make yourself unhappy to keep her.

>>17645984

We've been together 2 years I was never much for relationships but I feel I'm in too deep now

She had anxiety issues before hand but we had a very active sex life back then

I didn't get a full scale of the issues until I was really in the relationship and it was serious

>>17645987
Catch 22.

You need to get her to address this now. Do it in a positive manner, point out how great she was feeling and how good sex was before this shitty revelation, use the fact she was coping well as a positive "you are OK" reinforcement.

Don't push the no sex problem too soon but don't ignore it either. If it's not going to get better then get out. You owe her compassion, sympathy and understanding but you don't owe her your future happiness.

>>17646008

I know she's not doing it on purpose. It's really not her fault. Sometimes we'll be having a great time. The second I put my dick in she's in pain and tells me to pull out and starts crying because she's guilty.

I would feel like a dick for leaving her for that. I'm a nice guy honestly. I don't know what to do.


I wanted to push for an open relationship but that would fuck things up in my opinion and it would hurt her feelings and I would feel like shit.

I'm very very stuck.

>>17646014
try sticking it in her asshole

you remind her as her molester
which tells me you are a shitstain probably

and your relationship ended, stockholm syndrome cured
jump off a tall building

>>17646156

Uhhh no I don't. You're retarded.

She loves me.

>>17645960
90% of the time a therapist makes someone remember trauma they had forgotten, what they're really doing is planting false memories. People don't actually forget that sort of shit.

>>17646014
Sounds shitty but I think you should talk to her about it. You can't just wait around and hope she gets better soon while the both of you are unhappy in the relationship- that's not fair for either of you.

>>17646201
That's actually true. Making them remember and putting the things into words will only lead to embedding them deeper into the victims brain. You could try EMDR. Talk with her about the trauma while she has to focus on your hand, that you move from left to right like a pendulum. Be aware that this causes much stress.

>>17646201

True. I've seen it happen before. I won't go into details, but I've seen a scum bag, money grabbing therapist do exactly that. And they wrecked a life, this person lost everything... marriage, apartment, job...

>>17645960
>My gf now developed vaginismus which makes her clamp shut her vagina
What you wants there mate is a couple of wooden wedges and a hide mallet. That'll get the fucker open in no time.

>>17646201
it can be hidden though and suddenly surface when you are 18 or just really starting to understand what happened

>>17645960
All studies suggest that these memories are not valid when discovered in a clinical setting bc of the nature of the environment and such which creates false memories. However if it was discovered outside of therapy then it would be valid.. Look it up the courts even recognize the abundance of false memory creation in therapy when it's an adult creating false memory of abuse as. A child

>>17646282
This is an interesting idea, I was just thinking about how scary the idea is that you may have been abused as a child and just forgotten.

>>17645982
Fuck off
>>17645960
>Don't forget the banner contest
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> no sex relationship Anonymous 10/07/16(Fri)04:14:47 No.17645960▶>>17645982 >>17645985 >>17646201 >>17646234 >>17646282
>So my gf went to a therapist two years ago and this faggot unearthed some hidden trauma
>My gf remembered she was molested as a kid about 9 months into our relationship.
>Ever since then sex has been really difficult and rare, and plagued with issues
>My gf now developed vaginismus which makes her clamp shut her vagina, makes her anxious, and makes sex impossible. 1/4 times we try to have sex is successful, other times it ends in tears.
>>17645960
Try to be empathetic, if the same thing happened to you, she'd be there for you

>>17645960
Shes banging chads on the side weekly while telling you to provide for one fuck a month

>>17646905

This. You niggers would be surprised.

>>17646282
>>17646201
This. And it seems incredibly sketchy that all of a sudden she would develop crippling anxiety and be unable to have sex after seeing a therapist who suddenly "uncovered" this stuff and is apparently doing nothing to help about it.

If I were you, I would do some research on the subject and find some good citations and things to present about it. Then bring it up with your gf and talk about it. Because it sounds like the therapist is a complete fuckup and is making her life worse. At the very least, you should try to get her to entertain the idea of seeing someone else, and seeing if that helps.

>>17646880
Don't worry homo. I haven't forgotten about the banner contest.

Tell her you haven't been satisfied lately and see if you can't work it out. I would personally try to solve some of these problems while in the the bedroom. Give her a massage, maybe even use oil. Eat her out. Cuddle, eat her ass. You need to make her relaxed, calm and safe feeling. Then you can stick your dick in her.

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Honestly OP, It's the woman duty to sexually please his man.
>it's also your job
Nonetheless, if AFTER you talked to her about it and she don't make any effort for trying to solve the situation. You should just leave her.

I've been in a 3 years relationship with a girl that had extreme problems on a sexual level despite having the best body I've ever seen. She never putted any effort to please me during our sexual relationship and even though I've put so much effort into helping her on that part, it never worked out because the effort was one way.

You cannot change someone who is not willing to change OP.

If you really care about your happiness and your mental health. Leave her.
>if you can't solve the problem through communication

Repressing your sexual frustration may create pathological problems.

>>17647054
>eating a girl out
>Swede trying to get others to eat ass

Gross nigger. Get out of here.

>>17647066
You must be too embarrassed to have a man lick your asshole, probably because of all the hemorrhoids.

Eat more fiber and only try to poop when it's begging to go for a swim.

>>17647128
Are all swedes this incompetent when it comes to insults?

Eating ass is disgusting no matter how you look at it Swede. Just because you're gay and have no other choice, doesn't make it good.

>>17647128
I actually have hemorrhoid and I will follow your advice, thanks anon.

>>17645960
>dump her
You two can probs stay friends especially since her new hangup has to do with everything involved with an intimate relationship. You can chat her up occasionally while finding new girls to plow until she's ready to accept intimacy again on her terms.

I weep when I see these threads.

The same people who bash people who insist on waiting for marriage to have sex are the same people making threads distressed over the fact that their current girlfriend isn't a virgin.

I literally weep whenever I come to this board.

OP, if you can't maintain a relationship with this girl because she can't have sex, she'd be better off without someone like you. The fact that you could even contemplate leaving her is disgusting. She deserve's a man, not a child.

>>17645960
Not really helpful to you but wtf was the guy thinking? Took a perfectly happy person and fucker them up.

Maybe tell your gf what the guy said doesn't matter. He's just screwing her up so he can keep getting money.

>dating a girl with 'anxiety issues' and a history of sexual abuse

I'd rather be stuck with a fleshlight for the rest of my life than that shit, how desperate can you be?

>>17645960
you shouldnt be with someone that doesnt make you happy,

Have sex with her without her permussion duh

>>17645960
Drop that hoe.

Not your problem, you dont have to put with this. Sex is a valuable part of a relationship.

>>17647917
This has nothing to do with waiting till marriage, asshole.

Tell her that she's been distant since she's been going to that therapist. Maybe get her to see a different therapist who can then help her with this issue.

If not you're gonna have to leave to protect your sanity.

>>17647917
ur a fagdet

>>17647141
>>17647141
You know how you push out with your butthole when trying to poop? Well Practice pulling the butthole up and in. I have a theory that hemorrhoids are caused by the anal sphincter losing muscle tone by repeated pushing. This imbalance created the right conditions for hemorrhoids. You fix this by doing the opposite movement, pulling your butthole up and in. Worked for me. along with the extra fiber and not going unless you are ready too.

>>17647139
Dude I'm from the US, what's with you weird ass euro's? I guess the testosterone is at an all time low on that continent. Send your women over to us when they are ready for a good ass eating.

>>17646282

I'm pretty sure she told me about our early on, but down played it saying it wasn't a big deal. It didn't seem to affect her emotionally so I thought nothing of it.

As for telling her the memories are false: you guys know how women feel about this sorta stuff, telling her something like this would make her flip out. I also doubt it's fake, but I imagine it isn't as bad as she imagines(i.e. She's letting it get to her harder than she should)

But that's women for you

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>>17645960

Well, at least your GF has a reason. My current GF simply don't like having sex... At least not when I'm in the mood (like... all the time...). Its been so long between times now, I cant even be bothered by it any more. I have found other occupations and hobbies to fill that void, and sadly let the hand do the work late at nights.

She had a "We need to have sex" phase about a month ago, and made a big deal out of it, because she all of a sudden was in a mood. When I explained that it was far from a big deal, and that I had been sexually suppressed for a good part of the last few YEARS, she got butthurt and in the end everything was my fault.... women, cant live with them, cant kill them....

I have given up hope, I push on, allowing our son to grow up a few years first, then Ill leave this miserable sexless relationship. Hoping I wont be to destroyed as a man when it finally happens.

>>17649241
how do you put up with this shit. I'd be out immediately if my gf didn't put out. thankfully she does

>>17648857
>American guy trying to play it off like Europe is frigid about sex

That's a good one. Try again when you don't have a national panic attack over more explicit nudity in movies anymore, or think that stuff like bodyhair or not showering straight before oral is disgusting. Not to mention abstinence only "sex education", purity balls and promise rings.

I'll concede that the UK has a weird attitude about sex but overall US is much much more uptight than EU.