Starting a new relationship with a woman who let me know she is submissive.
She is expecting me to take command in the bedroom but I have always been so Beta not sure I can pull this off.
We have had one sex date where we explored and discussed what we like and fooled around with no pressure and did not have any penetration just oral.
She is expecting me to come over next week and I really want to please her.
I am happy doing whatever she wants but I know she is looking for me to do what I want but I don’t know how to be dominant without feeling like I’m writing a script for a bad porno.
I have fantasized about this for a long time but know that I have it I’m terrified of screwing it up, not sure I can keep her interested.
Been reading online about what submissive like so I’m looking here for any advice.
On the cusp of failure
You should find out what she likes about being submissive, it covers a wide range of possible things. You can't treat them all the same and just copy any article.
> I have fantasized about this for a long time
You fantasied about a corny role play? that might not be what she means.
Anyway basic stuff that might apply:
Undress her, or tell her too.
Say whatever position you want.
Touch her anywhere/hold her hair/grab
Guide her head and tell her to lick whatever.
Cum on her face.
Whisper things
But first, just ask probing questions.
Like what the other anon said, ask her what she likes/what she is comfortable with. She probably likes a bit of tying up but better to ask first than do
Poop on her face to establish dominance
Being dominant if you arnt naturally a dom can be pretty hard. Id say you should keep communication up if youre just starting out but since youre dominant you should take a few liberties. Be rough, order her to do things and move her yourself. She probably wants to be slapped around a little, dont worry too much about hurting her she'll tell you if something hurts too much.
>>17601555
Sit down in a chair facing her.
Tell her to have a seat on the bed.
Ask her what she likes to have done to her, and her limits. Find a good, memorable safeword.
Lucky fuck
I wish I had a sub gf
even if I am a huge sub sometimes
>>17601555
I don't know how I'd be able to please a sub, this song is literally me.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BjMwdL5WtFc
That said, good luck.