How to stop being obsessed?

Maybe just hang out once or twice and see how things go? You could break up with your girlfriend first if you're feeling too guilty.

>>17601552
you cant.
Let the other girl know, see if she reciprocates you feeling, if she does, break up with your gf. If she doesn't, dont worry about it, go back to your gf

you have a crush. There's not much to be done about it, other than minimizing contact, trying to stay busy and forcing yourself not to think about her. You will get over it with time, but I can't say long it will take. You could get over her by next week. You could still have this crush one year from now.

>>17601576
>There's not much to be done about it
Yeah, you're right. He has NO options but to wait. Thanks for the insight WeebLord.

>>17601583
He asked "How do I stop being obsessed?", not "Should I try to get this girl I'm obsessed with?".

Ask her out, and tell her everything you told us.

I am not advising you to cheat. Quite the opposite, actually: once you've gotten all of this off your chest, she will almost certainly turn you down. But the finality of this will help you to close the book.

>>17601563
>>17601564
>>17601583
Thanks guys, but I don't know if I want to date her, I just want to get over her.

>>17601576
Yeah, but it feels wrong to have a crush when I've been in a relationship for more than 3 years. I guess I'll try to minimize contact, although it's hard when we are classmates and she seems to enjoy talking to me.

>>17601639
>Yeah, but it feels wrong to have a crush when I've been in a relationship for more than 3 years.
You think you're the first guy this is happening to?
Happens to everybody.
See it for what it is and don't sweat it.

If the OP were a woman talking about her feelings for another guy outside of her relationship, people wouldn't be writing "Happens to everybody." They would just be calling her a whore. Even if she also were trying to get over the other guy. Wow.

>>17601639
You know your girlfriend much much better than this other girl, so you know she has flaws and you're used to all of the things she does that used to seem exciting and cute.
This new girl is different because you don't see her flaws yet, and everyrhing she does is interesting and new. This will pass, wait until she makes a bad joke, has a bad day, or does something miniscule that rubs you the wrong way.

>>17601781
>inserting "muh g-gender roles" into everything
>when OP made it clear he doesn't want to date the girl and just stay with his girlfriend
Kill yourself