How do I cope with this?

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Hey everyone. I am a fuckup of monumental proportions. I won't get into the full details as that would take hours but I've been with a girl for 8 years whom I deeply love but have always had huge communication problems with.

We met in highschool and I have always had this gnawing doubt in the back of my mind that I was only going through with the relationship because I was a desperate teenager, but also one with integrity - I said I would stay with her, so I did, despite my unhappiness with the relationship.

Well it's been 8 years and we have had a huge amount of financial problems and had to live in my mom's backyard in a tent for the past few months. My relatives in another state heard about it and offered to put us up - for free! - in their house so we could go back to school.

We would be leaving everything behind, but we immediately accepted. Going back to school has always been our dream, and both of us were forced to stop early due to circumstances out of our control.

Well now it's a week away from move out date and we have had a lot of screaming matches and I broke up with her without meaning to - we had a long conversation in which a lot of the things I have always been afraid to admit to her - or myself - and it was clear that we were separating.

Here's the problem. Aside from emotional backlash, we have basically been acting as if we were married this whole time - shared bank accounts, making large purchases together (computers, car, etc), her family is paying for our phone line, we have pets that we both adopted together. She even managed to get transferred to her job in another state, but now that I can't/won't go with her, it's going to be a huge problem for her to move out or be independent (her work makes schedules a month in advance, she is not on the schedule in our state this month at all)

What the hell do I do? I still really love and care about her, but I can't continue this relationship. I'm miserable. But I want her to be happy.