My long term girlfriend and I have technically broke up. It's

If a girl tells you she doesn't have the same feelings anymore, no amount of self improvement can fix that.

I am just being honest I don't want to get your hopes up like other anons will.

>>17592077
I don't know. She said there was a chance. She just needs space and time and stuff. I really don't want to give up until I try everything

>>17592092

Space is never good. Think about it, how does getting away from someone make them more desirable? A little seperation here and there but space is talking about significant amount of time before she is ready to come back to you. Does that sound like a healthy relationship to you?

Also why are you doing all the work? Busting your ass in the gym, working on your self esteem and putting in work while she does nothing but take time off from the relationship. Does that sound like a fair relationship to you? Where one person does all the work and the other person is aimlessly taking a break.

>>17591714
>She just said she didn't have the same feelings anymore
she has already checked out OP. Women don't come back from that. she's easing you into the break up by agreeing, after your begging I assume, to a "break". It's over. Now it is possible when she fucks the guy she is crushing on it won't be as she expected and resume with you but that will be only temporary until she finds another.

>>17591714
She want to hang out with another guys, this is why she asked for a break.
Move on, Anon.

>>17591714

First thing to do OP, is to not contact her until u really get your mind right. Which may take you 2 to 4 months. It's easier said than done though, because she will try to call you while u take your break.

Realize your gf doesn't benefit you in anyway at this point, she's distant, cold and being bitchy. Your problem OP is likely that you're scared of being alone and are too dependent of your gf. You need to work on making yourself happy. Distract yourself with whatever and try to meditate.

make a really really awesome foundation for yourself and find that really happy place and naturally you will not let negative people in your life mess that up. If you had a billion dollars, would you let a bust down chick with 4 kids in your life, HELL NO. If you feel like the shit, you're selective who u let in.

>>17591714
"same feelings" usually means you turned out to be a major dick that broke her heart. try being nice again and be natural about it.