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>>17552873
sometimes it helps me to remember that a lot of them feel that way too, it just might not be obvious on the surface.

for some reason I find that smiling more and making more eye contact helps too. I don't know if it's a "fake it til you make it" thing, or if it's just that by doing that, I feel like I'm claiming my right to be looked in the eye and spoken to like an equal. might sound silly to some people but it works for me.

>>17552873
Everyone feels inferior to another in some way, some more than others.

You really have to learn to deal with it.

I was never great at socialising, I still hate it. But I've gotten better at it. Comparing myself to me years ago, I was a complete social retard and blew my one chance of having a girlfriend because I was oblivious.

Getting high grades isn't the 'be all end all' in life.

Don't seem to think you have high intelligence because you get high grades, it's not always the case. You should try being more humble and relating to others, it will make you feel good.

I don't know your specific circumstance so I could only give vague general answers.

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>>17552889
that is not silly because i have heard a lot of people telling me to smile and make more eye contact so people will respect you more and feel that you are more sincere

>>17552892
well true i have realised that i cant relate to other people because im pretentious all the time but i cant help it coz im empty on the inside and i have nothing else to feel good about

>>17552907
>people because im pretentious all the time
Curious, how old are you by the way?

>>17552912
17 (5 months to become 18)

>>17552914
I had a feeling you were in highschool.

If you plan on going to university, trust me, your grades are not going to make you feel superior.

Once you get into the workforce, your grades won't matter much, it's your work ethic and cooperating/socialising with other adults that counts more (depending on what job you do).

Memorising/cramming facts for a test is only good for a short time.

>>17552920
well that is some good news ,then i will be completely hopeless in college

>>17552943
If you get good grades in highschool, get decent grades like 70-85% mark, is alright, depending on your degree/subject.

I've been in college for 4 years now, I have not made any new friends that I talk to about non-work related things, I've only talked to a handful of people, so they're mostly just acquaintances.

I only had one childhood friend who I talked to occasionally at my college but in my situation, I kinda just had to deal with it. I don't get bothered about being alone at times.

Believe me, I used to think about my insecurities and replaying old conversations in my head and thinking 'how could I make this conversation better?', 'did I say something wrong?' etc. etc.,

I've become more cynical and jaded and started to worry less about not socialising properly.

Protip: try not giving a fuck but also be mostly humble and not pretentious all the time.

You're still young, like 4 years younger than me, so you'll develop more within the next few years. Sometimes it takes longer for people to develop than others. Don't feel bad about that.

>>17552962
well the problem is that the more i try not to give a fuck the more i find myself getting away from people and the more i find myself being lonely (which is more fun to me than being in a crowd)
and the thing is i have like 4 friends at school to whom i can talk about daily lives and other stuff like video games etc but i talk to them like once a week
but there is this female friend of mine whom i talk to on daily basis it's weird coz she is the most sociable person i have met and i dont know why but she just likes talking to me (in a friendly kind of way) and she keeps telling me not to change myself coz im perfect the way im

and i also replay convos in my head and think "how the hell do people still talk to me ? im so weird" sometimes it tears me apart and i regret talking to anyone ever

>>17553072
>the more i try not to give a fuck the more i find myself getting away from people and the more i find myself being lonely (which is more fun to me than being in a crowd)
>and the thing is i have like 4 friends at school to whom i can talk about daily lives and other stuff like video games etc but i talk to them like once a week
That's pretty much me, dude.

>and i also replay convos in my head and think "how the hell do people still talk to me ? im so weird" sometimes it tears me apart and i regret talking to anyone ever

I do that too but I get over it after a few days/weeks. It doesn't last long.

I was in a similar position to you back when I was your age, in a few years you'll have changed slightly and become more socially aware, and looking back to yourself you say 'man, I was so retarded back then'. Don't worry, you'll make it.

I'm not saying to drastically change yourself, but you'll have to adjust and compromise a little bit. Maybe you should talk to your friend, the girl, and ask her to be honest about what you've said in this thread.

Sorry, I couldn't be of much help.