my bf saw an ex who cheated on him at the store a few months

Relationship over

How do you know he was talking to his friends?

Leave him so you'll be the next girl he obsesses over. You deserve to be first in your significant other's life. If he attempts to fill that space with someone else, then he's not worth your time.

Personally, I would have broken up as soon as he said he was in love with someone else. Mental/emotional cucking is still cucking in my book.

Sounds like he is has moved on and is waiting for a trigger point to call it quits. Be the bigger person and break up. Clearly the guy is infatuated by her and is feeling guilty because you are there. In his mind you are the annoyance.

There's always better people out there who won't let past relationships interfere with their current ones. You'll be ok.

>>17541028
I saw it on his phone when i searched for something while using it, the text messages came up when i started typing.

>>17541033
He says that he doesn't love her anymore and that he was just confused. Do you think this was bullshit?

>>17541035
I told him that I didn't want to be with him anymore when I first found this out but he wanted me to stay so we could work this out, he begged me to stay. but she still seems to be a problem months later even though they don't talk anymore so i'm really confused.

>>17541042
Is that true though? I feel like theres always going to be someone else. He didn't want me to talk to my exs anymore because he was afraid someone would try to take me back, so I stopped. I thought he would do the same for me. Is it really possible that someone would respect me the same way I respect them, with no strings attatched? I don't know how to feel about myself anymore.

>>17541075
>He didn't want me to talk to my exs anymore because he was afraid someone would try to take me back, so I stopped.
Sounds like he was projecting that insecurity onto you because it could potentially be something he could see himself doing.

>>17541084
That's what I was thinking too. I feel like such a fool for following all his restrictive rules and thinking it was out of 'respect' when it wasn't, because he chose not to follow the same rules with his ex.

>>17541096
I wouldn't feel like a fool. It's generally something that should be followed with any relationship. They're exes for a reason he's supposed to be with just you now unless you guys agree otherwise.

>>17541075

>He says that he doesn't love her anymore and that he was just confused. Do you think this was bullshit?

As someone who dated someone for a year and was abandoned as soon as the ex was available, yes, I believe it's bullshit. But that is from my personal experience. Only you can decide if you think he still loves you or if he's holding on until he can get his ex.

>>17541126
I guess I just resent him for having me jump through all these hoops when he wouldn't do it himself

>>17541130
She was single when this happened but now has a boyfriend. I think the only issue here is that she doesn't want to be with him at all, she cheated on him with her ex boyfriend when they were together. He was the rebound. He says he would never want to be with her again because she cheated on him, but I don't understand how he could still have feelings for her if he feels that way?