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Dead End Relationship? 2016-09-06 22:13:09 Post No. 17539999
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Hey /adv/. I was with my girlfriend for about 3 years. We went to the same school for 1. Then, she moved to another state, and we continued dating long distance. I'm not an emotional person, so I'll admit, even though we had loads of fun and nice times, I was an asshole occasionally. Occasionally, her too (usually during her period, though.) Other than that, we had a good relationship. I went to visit her during the summer, and I took her on a a couple of dates. We had a blast. She had fun. I had fun.
She went to get surgery the day I had to go back home. During her surgery, her psychotic over-zealous Christian mother took her phone, and read all the messeges between me and her. She demanded that I never talk to her again, according to my girlfriend. We emailed back and forth for a little, and said we need to 'take a break'. So we did. We went full on radio silence. When I was with her during summer, I had rediscovered my emotions, at least the ones for her. During the break and the meltdown, I lost all of that. I'm not complaining, it's nice to feel stable like this.
Well, about a week ago, she texted me. We exchanged Skype usernames. She said that she found herself. She's very busy balancing school and work now. We Skyped, and we acted like a couple would, without the oogling and pet names.
However, she explained that she's not sure if she wants to being in this long distance relationship again, especially with her being busy. I accepted that, and we talked the rest of the night.
She sorta teases me now. She wants to Skype 24/7, calls me names we called eachother during our relationship. And I know this sounds odd, but she shows me porn on her Tumblr dashboard (hopefully Tumblr's degeneracy doesn't effect her too hard), however, she is odd like that.
I'm not sure what I'm doing talking to her. I like being single sorta, a relationship requires a lot of work. I don't want to get stuck in a dead end relationship, or be cucked harder than a Swede.
What do?
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Shamefull self bump
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I have sort of been in your position before. When my ex girlfriend and I broke up, we knew the relationship wasn't working for us anymore but we still had feelings for each other and didn't want to let go.
So we ended up in an ambiguous FWB type situation for a while, where we spoke decently regularly and hooked up when we saw each other, but weren't officially dating.
You guys might be able to sustain this for a while, but eventually one of you will want to remain single and the other will have renewed feelings. That will complicate things.
You've gotta either both commit, end it, or just ride it out until it inevitably dies.
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>>17540224
Thanks for the reply, anon.
Yeah, I see what you mean. It feels like we will eventually hit that FWB level. And at long distance? That's just not worth it. I'll see what happens, I guess.
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>>17539999
It sounds like you're both just horny for each other but also want to be single. Maybe you can agree to just be friends with benefits?
If she's not interested, just move on because you don't want to be the vessel for her flirty but flaky attitude.
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Man I'm 32, just blew 39k to get a divorce consider yourself lucky and just goto xxxconnect.com
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>>17540334
That doesn't sound too shabby. But over long distance? I mean, what if I hook up with someone? I don't want to be her 'buffering' (as in the guy who just fills up her time until she finds a relationship) guy, and I'm sure she doesn't want to be the same to me.
I'm just not sure how to explain this to her, you know? Like, what if I chose what I want to do, but the other options might have worked out in the end, maybe even better? :/
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Anon I would say just keep her as a friend. Maybe you should move on and look for other girls in your area.
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