What should I do?

>>17538346
From his perspective, after everything that had happened, it looks like you were trying to get back at him by not telling him immediately. So your actions, even if they weren't passive aggressive, look to be that way. There's a pretty big difference in severity between a routine check-up and a trip to the ER.

>We hadn't spoken as much as usual and I asked him if he felt like everything was going well with us
>I got a bit iffy because I really felt like he was starting to slip away from me when it came to talking and telling
Do you think that maybe you're just thinking that things are bad, when they're not, and it's irritating him? The constant need for validation? He may feel like you're attacking him.

>>17538346

Gender sterotypes - men don't want to look weak and complain, but they sure as hell want to protect their loved ones and are concerned about their health

It's not really logical.

Also, while what you did made sense, from your view, from his view it might seem hypocritical because you started an argument about the very same thing yourself.

>>17538346
He is hitting up more chicks than Chris Brown on a bad mood.

>>17538357
I get that and I totally see it from his way, but at the same time, he made it clear he didn't see any point in telling/talking about things that doesn't matter.

Recently he's been very "short" in the sense of not talking about his daily life. I ask how his day was, he'll say fine. I say "tell me about your day" he gives the same generic response "fine" - so it makes me think I get too close and he just wants to be left by himself. That was also one point I made when we argued at first.

I stopped telling him about my day, my "complaints", my life as such, he hasn't made any inquiries either so I guess it's okay. Thus, I saw no need to tell him right away that I was heading to the ER, and it was a bit silly too because I was 100% fine and told him this when he was busy ripping me to shreds.

But perhaps you're right.

>>17538383
>Recently he's been very "short" in the sense of not talking about his daily life. I ask how his day was, he'll say fine. I say "tell me about your day" he gives the same generic response "fine" - so it makes me think I get too close and he just wants to be left by himself. That was also one point I made when we argued at first.
I think it's a matter of not being in the mood for small talk and you pressing him on it. There are days where I'm just mentally exhausted and I don't feel like reliving my day with my partner. He needs to give me space to relax and collect my thoughts. Then, if I recall something noteworthy or interesting, I'll bring it up when I feel like it.

>Thus, I saw no need to tell him right away that I was heading to the ER, and it was a bit silly too because I was 100% fine and told him this when he was busy ripping me to shreds.
Again, I think you're making light of the ER. Why go if it wasn't a big deal?

>>17538410
I understand completely and I did apologize to him. And it wasn't me who suggested that I went. My parents said I had to because I had suffered a major head injury once before.

But yeah I see that it looks pretty much like my fault. Should I apologize again?

>>17538577
Try not talking to him much at all, but being with him quite a bit. Wait a while and if he doesn't start talking again, start again with small talk and stuff, if he still doesn't want to talk then i dunno, leave him if you see fit and your unhappy, or scroll for different advice