Asking a grill out

>>17519355
If I were a girl I would say no cause that sounds weird but I'm not a girl so I have no clue.
Don't you have to like make conversation first? Idk.

>>17519362
>so unsure of yourself and lack of confidence
Definitely not taking your advice , thanks.

>>17519355
>I was thinking about going up to her after class and saying "hey anonette, I think you're cute and not just in looks , and I want to take you out . Can I have your number ?"
That is probably the worst plan ever.
Did you consider that you are putting her in an awkward position asking her in front of your peers?

Have you considered the cadence of your voice? it doesn't look like you are leaving many opportunities for her to talk, nor are you considering the conversation not going as you pre planned it.

Are you well versed socially?

Don't you think "I think you're cute and not just in looks" sounds odd? how else could she be cute other than looks? does your compliment sound good in your head?

Don't you think you could word asking her out a bit better?

Doesn't it seem a bit strange to you being so upfront asking for the number?

This has train wreck written all over it.

I wouldn't be so formal about it. I'd say

>hey I'm about to get something to eat at ________ wanna come along?

>>17519386
>asking in front of her friends

Who said I was doing this ?

>are you well versed socially

Does it matter ? What does this even mean ?

>how else could she be cute instead of looks

I don't exactly date women who are whores . I don't give a fuck about casual sex , the persons personality takes much more cadence then the size of her fucking jugs .

>don't you think you could work it better

Uhh, isn't that why I'm posting here ?

>doesn't it seem so strange to be upfront

Should I just sit around and do nothing and hope one day the pussy on the pedestal decides that it's my turn ? I make things happen in my life if I need too .

Yeah , you're a cuck . Next

>>17519399
Thanks . I have a class afterword is the thing though .

>>17519383
>he fell for the confidence meme
Sure, girls just go "wow he's just asking me out, he must be so confident and dominant alpha male, I'm gonna accept going out with him"

>>17519432
>confidence meme
I'm naturally confident , I don't try .

>>17519406
Hey man he made some valid points. So if you wanna go ahead with your original plan then whatever. But don't be be a bitch because you got advice on an advice thread, dipshit.

>>17519406
How do you know her personality? How much have you talked to her and what about? Some people are just nice the first time they talk to a stranger because they are being polite.
Do you have stuff in common or something that sounds like date material?

>>17519439
>I'm naturally confident
>never asked a girl out

>>17519441
Asking a bunch of rhetorical questions is not a valid point . I'm no retarded , I've already gone over those questions myself , at least most of them . That's why I'm posting to get ANSWERS, not some pollock who think he's being somehow intellectually savvy by pretending to be my inner voice .

>>17519406
>Does it matter ?
yes it matters
social experience is just as important as confidence, if not more

>Should I just sit around and do nothing and hope one day the pussy on the pedestal decides that it's my turn ?

that's not what anyone's saying
what's being said is that maybe you should talk to her a bit more first
>>17519450
>tfw i'm a complete and total beta and even i've asked a girl out

>>17519406
>>asking in front of her friends
>Who said I was doing this ?
It is after class, is she socially stunted? people will be around
>>are you well versed socially
>Does it matter ? What does this even mean ?
It does matter, it helps us understand if you have any grasp of basic social interactions
>>how else could she be cute instead of looks
>I don't exactly date women who are whores . I don't give a fuck about casual sex , the persons personality takes much more cadence then the size of her fucking jugs .
I don't think you know you fucked up using the word cadence after I used it, also you didn't address the question, how can someone "be cute and not just in looks"? it sounds weird
>>don't you think you could work it better
>Uhh, isn't that why I'm posting here ?
You don't seem receptive to advice
>>doesn't it seem so strange to be upfront
>Should I just sit around and do nothing and hope one day the pussy on the pedestal decides that it's my turn ? I make things happen in my life if I need too .
Evidently not because this is the first time you have probably spoke to a girl who isn't related to you by the looks of things.
I'm not telling you that you should sit and be a retard on 4chan, I'm telling you that you haven't planned anything that can work.

>Yeah , you're a cuck . Next
I'm glad I could be of service, I'll enjoy being married and in an exclusive relationship, you enjoy being creepy, watching pick up artists and thinking you are being assertive, then wondering why nobody wants to hang around you.

>>17519450
Confidence =/= charisma

>dumb mobilefag frogposter wants to pick up grills with a cringy line
like pottery

>>17519461
> I watch pua now
LOL, I haven't even seen a single video , I think people who try that hard are cucks

>>17519461
not op but how do i ask out a girl in my class without the other people being around?
should i get her number, get lunch somewhere with her, and ask her out from there?

>>17519473
I started a group chat with the people I sat by on the first day of class and that's how I got some numbers without singling anyone out and being awkward

>>17519486
it's a bit late for me to do that though

i did ask her to help me study for an upcoming test, though
so get her number that way, and go with what i said from there? or is that a bad way to go about it too?

>>17519439
>I'm naturally confident , I don't try .
But you have never asked a girl out and you clearly haven't talked to one either.
You don't have the first clue about social interactions, charisma, cadence (that means the tempo of your voice).

This scene springs to mind
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PRskvLyCoU0
Because you think you can do something and want to do something doesn't mean you can do it, like speaking Italian when you have never had a lesson.

>>17519472
>I think people who try that hard are cucks
You keep using that word, but I believe that you don't know what it means, like a child who has heard a word but doesn't know how to use it in context.

>>17519473
>not op but how do i ask out a girl in my class without the other people being around?
>should i get her number, get lunch somewhere with her, and ask her out from there?
You are over thinking things, just talk to her, open up a conversation and if she doesn't respond/doesn't ask questions back/says she isn't interested just cut your losses (HINT: you haven't lost anything) and move on, you can't force a girl to like you.
Just make sure you don't try and ramble if you do talk, any stories you share must have a start, middle or end, topic changes must be relevant to the topic at hand, keep her talking about herself if you can.
Also don't use self depreciating humour.

If you get along well, add her on facebook (provided she has told you her full name) and talk a bit more.
Don't hide your intentions, but don't be autistic like OP and blurt out "I think you're cute and not just in looks", it is pretty straight forward.

>>17519494
>did ask her to help me study for an upcoming test, though
>so get her number that way, and go with what i said from there? or is that a bad way to go about it too?
It isn't a good idea to ask someone out after getting their number with the intention of studying together, that will come across as a bit creepy.

>>17519500
>It isn't a good idea to ask someone out after getting their number with the intention of studying together

yeah i could see that
but it's too late to fix that
would it be okay to ask her out like a month from now (or next semester), or would it still come across as creepy? in the time between now and then, i'd talk to her more often, of course
alternatively: i don't actually have her number yet even though we have plans to study together, so does that change anything?

It's fine, don't overthink it.

>>17519512
>would it be okay to ask her out like a month from now (or next semester), or would it still come across as creepy?
Have you considered asking her out after you don't need to study together? or when she is more comfortable with you?
You don't need to ask her out over the phone or by text.

>>17519473
OP here , I just want to say thank you so much for posting this . Looking at what you got as advice and your situation helped me much more because you actually got practical advice instead of "lol Op you are a fucking faggot xD just bee yourself ," . Hope things work out for you .

>>17519616
that's what i was going to do, i think i just misunderstood what you were saying (for some reason i thought you were saying that because i started by asking to be study partners, i should stop trying to date her entirely)

i asked her to study with me because i knew i was never going to talk to her if i didn't make some excuse to start doing it

so now that i've finally started talking to her, hopefully it can become more natural over the next few weeks

>>17519657
The funny thing is, I gave you better advice and you just called me a cuck.
"Fickle" comes to mind.

>>17519674
Adding to this, I advised both of you.

>>17519674
I'm not mad about it , I'm not perfect . I'll take whatever I can use .
And you didn't really give me advice . It's the people who responded to you that did .

>>17519681
You mean the one guy who asked his own question?

You can't use someone else's advice if you can't address your own faults, that's what you don't seem to grasp, that's why I asked loads of point by point questions and responded to your individual responses.

If you are socially stunted then you will be pretty fucked, considering things like your misuse of words you don't understand indicates to me that you don't know what you are doing, I wasn't getting on at you, I was trying to figure out what we were working with.
Hell, you didn't even really respond to my posts, you were evasive, like in >>17519406 you just avoided the questions and rambled on, then dismissed me as a cuck.

I wish you luck OP, but luck won't cut it if you lack the basic social knowledge before you approach someone, while confidence is a great thing to have, you will not have better chances.

>>17519705
I forgot to add:
Also they weren't rhetorical questions (you misused that word too), I was asking you to gauge what you were capable of.
You can create an advice thread, but don't expect instant advice when you can't give us any idea of what you are like or capable of, especially if you are difficult, it just puts people off of helping you.
If we think you are socially retarded, there is a very obvious reason why, don't be such a prat and throw your toys out the pram when we aren't praising the most autistic idea of 2016.

>>17519705
I am not interested in answering questions when looking for advice . Life isn't a fucking philosophy test .

I said >I have autism but I want to do ask a girl out which requires me not to have autism

What I got was
>lol OP look at how much a fucking autist. Look at all these things you haven't even meticulously thought of . You're fucked !

Yes , I know I already have autism , that's why I'm asking for PRACTICAL advise on what to do . I'm here for a treatment , I already know the fucking diagnosis .

>doc, my legs are weak . What can I do to get them stronger and walking again
>LOL FUCKING RETARD look at how weak your legs are !
>so are you gonna prescribe me something or ?

>>17519724
>I am not interested in answering questions when looking for advice .

but your original post didn't give enough information

>>17519729
That's true , but self analyzing myself in some bullshit societal hierarchy of social standing is a bit different than "hey, that sounds way to formal and straightforward . Maybe ask her out to study together first for example ,"

>>17519738
I apologize . I mean asking me to self analyze myself in the context of some societal standard I don't even care about versus asking the nitty gritty of how long we've known each other , talked , possible ways to hang out , etc .

>>17519724
>CTRL + F
>autism
>3 results
>all in your post
>no mention of autism elsewhere in the thread
You didn't tell us you had autism.
Please stop using the straw man fallacy, it is incredibly difficult to help you.
All I was after was some insight, you didn't have to be such a cunt about it, we're anonymous but we are trying to help you, telling us something simple like "I'm not very social" could have returned advice like "join a physical activity club, talk to people there and hone your skills", but not, you had to avoid every question, misuse words and hide behind straw men.

Pick and choose all you like, but remember that we're the ones trying to help you.

I wanna die im 30 belp me

>>17519750
I wouldn't have autism with such a basic form of relationships if I wasn't asking for help with it.

And I am social, I don't, well at least I don't anymore sit in my room and play videogames all day. I'm the president of one club, a member of a few others and the Marching Band at my univeristy (and we're pretty good too).

I have had a few girl friends that I have hung out with, but I have never had a girlfriend, which is why I'm asking for help.

>>17519755
why tho

>>17519762
People without autism struggle with socialising too, it can be due to a number of issues, some examples are: being wrapped in cotton wool, not being socialised as a child, being home schooled, confidence issues, no strong male figure in your life or a lack of exposure to the opposite sex.
The thing is, had you put what you have said in the first post this wouldn't have been like pulling teeth, because most wouldn't expect someone with autism to be president of a club or a member of multiple clubs.

If you are really stuck for ideas, try just making casual chit chat, you don't ask for a number straight away, just try not assuming the planet is a hive mind and everyone knows what you are talking about and you should be fine.

>>17519755
Eat more, eat a lot more.
Fat people are jolly and they never commit suicide.

>>17519802
Maybe it's because I hate chit chat, but if I'm not doing anything in the moment, I feel like I'm doing nothing at all. I don't want to wait some arbitrary time of "one day, one week, one month,". Situations could have changed and she might get taken by someone else or lose (potential interest) by then.

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>>17519355
Hold door for her when leaving class. Start a conversation about class. Walk for a bit and talk.
Find a way to contextually ask this:
>Lets get (coffee/sushi) this weekend.

Dont ask, it sounds more assertive like this and if she doesnt like you she will say no anyway.

If she says no, just say you parked somewhere else or have to meet up with some old friends. Lowkey point in the opposite direction from where you were walking. Dont sperg out. Try again with another girl.

Simple shit.