How to get serious with one girl without dicking over the others?

Stop worrying about the right thing and think about what's best for you.

And from what you're saying your best option is to dump the ex-virgin and focus on the other girl. Yeah, it sucks, she'd be devastated, you'd look like a cunt. But staying with her will lead to nothing good, you won't suddenly start to like her more than you do already, especially since you'd be loosing your chance with the girl you like because of her. You'd just grow to resent her and it would end worse for everyone.

Just cut it clean now and stay with the girl you like.

Pull the plug and tell the ex-virgin what happened. She'll likely hate you and yeah, it will blemish the memory of her first time, but most people don't look back that fondly on how they lost their virginity. She knew you weren't heading towards a relationship.

This is short term uncomfortable but every alternative is worse. Go for the clean break.

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>>17510082
Thanks, I guess there's no other way, ey
How do I make it as not-awful as possible for her?

>>17510126
"We can still be friends"

>>17510126
Be honest. Don't feed her excuses or lines. Don't beat around the bush. Don't try to pretend it's less shitty than it is.

Give it to her straight. Tell her you realize what you told her, but you developed feelings for someone that you want to be with and it would not be fair to this new girl to keep hanging out with someone you so recently had sex with. You also think it won't be fair to ex-virgin to "keep her around" while ultimately she should look for someone else and you have little to offer to her.
Answer her possible questions, sit with her for a while. DO NOT try to make it a very casual or short thing to not stimulate her emotions... this is more likely to register with her like rubbing salt in the wounds, like your very actions show how little regard you have for her and how you dismiss her feelings. Take the time to sit down with her one more time as people who shared something and give it to her straight that your situation has changed.

Then be cordial to her but nothing more. Do not reach out to her ever. Do not respond if she sends you emotional messages. Do not speak badly of her ever.

>>17510133
Okay, I'll just sit down with her and tell her straight how it is, there's no way I can make this okay for her, so just do it as honestly and openly as I can

This is awesome advice, thanks so much anon

>>17510146
No problem, best of luck! And remember: yeah, you're going to hurt her, but at least it's because something you couldn't have foreseen and didn't opt for regardless of her feelings. People hurt each other all the damn time and often enough it is simply because of disregard or because they want to. You got into an unfortunate situation, but were honest and try to be decent about handling it. To me that's absolutely something you can accept with regret but without shame.

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