First year in college

Bump. anyone?

>>17507126
>extroverted
>kind of shy

>straight edge
>alcohol

i literally stopped after the first line

>>17507126
What exactly is your question?

>>17507171
Yea ok I lied a little about being straight edge

I'm saying that now that I don't know anyone, and have absolute 0 friends from High school in my college that I'm initially shy to meet people.

Introversion is not that you don't talk to people, it's how you react to energy in a social environment

>>17507179
>Introversion is not that you don't talk to people, it's how you react to energy in a social environment
Introversion has a range of different sub-traits, and being somewhat shy is one of them

>>17507176
I want to understand the Fraternity rushing process and whether or not it's worth taking the time since I don't know a lot of people as a Frosh

Additionally, I want to know if Freshman year is the one where not everyone succeeds/it's best to study your ass off instead of partying or not.
What I'm saying is, I want to balance school and Fraternity rush events and if that's a recipe for disaster I'd like some advice from some of you collegiate folk

>>17507216
Usually freshmen are the ones who rush fraternities, but sophomores and rarely even juniors get the chance to rush. If you like the guys in the fraternity, you should ask someone you know in there about the rush process and what it means to be part of the chapter. Fraternities are a great way to find a strong support base within the university, but they also involve dues payments and philanthropic events.

If you're looking to find friends, join a club on campus and talk to people there. It's much easier to connect with strangers who share a common interest, especially when they show up to a club with what little time is available for college students. A fraternity can also help you find friends, but the commitment is there towards the chapter and it's not nearly as easy to quit out of that.

>>17507494
To continue off your comment about frat / rush balance, I found myself with a 3.5 GPA in engineering the term where I was rushing. I was especially motivated that quarter to succeed, especially since the year prior saw plenty of C's and I was getting tired of that lifestyle. Just realize that the rush process will have mandatory events and that you have to spare some of your time for them in order to follow through. Again, ask your contact within a fraternity about the process and about more events you can attend. If there isn't a freshman freeze going on, you could even ask to hang out at their house some time when they're free.

>>17507517
You had C's in college? Wtf happened bro and why did you get into a frat lol

>>17507126
It truly depends on how large the fraternity is and what kind of connections you are looking for in the future. In general, i would say frats and sororities are filled fairly toxic individuals. Joining a frat doesnt turn you this way, but it attracts that type of individual. With that said there are plenty of academic frats which are filled with brilliant people.

The rushing will include many late nights, you being force to humiliate yourself, and being generally subservient to older members for a period of time. You will be disrespected in such a role, no doubt, and you'll have to suck it up. Again, academic fraternities are not going to include those things and are much more practical.

>>17507126
Also, even the worst fraternities will have kickass and kind people in them.