Honest question, is it true that most women contantly wish to be reminded that they are loved by their partner, and that they are big on receiving affection frequently?
I just ask because this seems like a bit of an odd thing to me is all. Maybe it's because i'm a guy. Maybe it's because I think that the love between two people is more of an unspoken, mutual understanding rather than something that needs to be constantly brought up. I dunno.
But from girls that i've talked to along with good old word of mouth I get the idea that a lot of -though not all obviously, I don't want to generalize - women in romantic relationships like to be reminded that they are loved, and that if a man does not do as such, then they are doing something wrong. Is there any truth to this?
>>17488754
Yeah, I surely appreciate being reminded I am loved.
People have different ways of understanding and showing love.
I am big on physical affection. I am very physically affectionate - kisses, hugs, cuddles, snuggling, whatever. I also tend to show love by making my partner's life easy - I like doing things like cooking for them, ironing and choosing their clothes, cleaning the house, reminding them their schedule. When it comes to feeling loved, tho, the thing that works best for me is being told nice things. Something small like a post it, or a small compliment, makes me feel adored.
Just think of how much you want sex, and that's how often women want to be reminded that they're loved,pretty, that they make delicious sandwiches, that they are good at whatever.
The reason men are always looking at porn is the same reason women are texting random dudes and posting hot photos to get likes. Same reward system in the lizard brain.
I'm a girl and my ex used to constantly remind me to the point that it became really repetitive and obnoxious. My boyfriend now only reminds me every so couple of days and does it randomly, which to me makes it more meaningful and genuine.
I guess most girls think it'd be nice to constantly be reminded they're loved, maybe they should all date my annoying ex and see how unnecessary and stupid it really is. :D
>>17488774
Well, I suppose I can understand where you're coming from.
>>17488794
Yeah, I mean I get why some people might like for it to be reiterated all the time, but i'm kinda with you on this one. I just think it's a bit pointless is all, but as long as both partners can come to an understanding on the subject either way can work.
>>17488794
Well, my boyfriend is very affectionate with words and I don't mind it.
It's not like we sit on the couch and he tells me "I love you. You're pretty. You have beautiful eyes" but sometimes (more than once a day for sure) he tells me he likes something about my personality, my skills, my mind, my body or my interests. He makes me feel appreciated.
>>17488790
> Just think of how much you want sex, and that's how often women want to be reminded that they're loved,pretty, that they make delicious sandwiches, that they are good at whatever.
Got a laugh at this but you're 100% right.
Yes and no, women need to be validated, but if you do it in a way that makes you look clingy she will dry up and leave you.
What women ideally want is a gorgeous successful man who has women throw themselves at him, but for some reason he forsakes them and only has eys for a woman with few if any redeeming qualities.
This is best evidenced by the popular women's fictions such as grey's anatomy or fifty shades of grey. The female protagonist is "emotionally broken" just how all women view themselves, and are completely impossible for any healthy human relationship, but somehow they end up the object of maddening desire by men who could have any woman they want, but for some reason are drawn to a plain boring cunt.
>>17488875
Woah there sexually frustrated virgin, OP is asking for advice from people with experience in relationships
>>17488875
... This actually has some truth to it.
I don't think it is true for all women, but there is some truth to it.
This is the type of thing that makes me want to shoot myself.
>>17488915
>daddy
Cringe.
>>17488911
It has 250 million sold books' worth of truth to it. Twilight and 50 Shades are both infamous for having boring plain-jane protagonists adored by inhumanly fantastic men.
That said, probably it's mostly the perma-single "30-something career girl" types who actually behave this way, though, I'm guessing for most readers it's more like Conan the Barbarian or some shit is for guys? You don't see a lot of spergs run around in loincloths.
>>17489033
I think that it is the good, old "plain girl turning a bad guy into a nice dude who has eyes just for her" logic. When you're 15 it's your idea of romance, then you're supposed to grow out of it after being brokenhearted and posting a few depressing statuses on social media.
I found Edward Cullen fascinating when I was in middle school, now he is just a sparkly douche. If you're in you're like that after puberty, you clearly do have some issues.
>>17489039
50 Shades sold almost exclusively to 30+ women and "Twilight Moms" were a thing as well.
So, I don't actually disagree with you about anything, but by your definition there are plenty of women who have issues.