Being Assertive and Outgoing

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Backstory: when I was a kid I used to be quite outgoing, I always tried to make people laugh, would always have plenty of things to say, and was often pegged as a kid with lots of energy and charisma. When I got into my teen years, i began to mellow out, and began to become self-concious about what i said and did, in fear that what was fine as a kid, was now going to be seen as obnoxious and tryhard. In situations where I would meet new people, i would try not to be confrontational, and have try to have a "just passing through" attitude where ever i went. I did have a good deal of healthy friendships, and could always act myself when hanging out, but to strangers, I made an effort to be as unassuming as possible, in fear of being annoying or unlikable. So, last year i went to university, and luckily had two close friends attend with me, so i was not alone all the time or anything, but struggled to create surface level and deep relationships with new people. I am going back soon, and I want to be able to be outgoing and assertive, without being obnoxious.