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How to communicate with someone that doesn't really contribute? 2016-08-19 06:08:00 Post No. 17475709
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How to communicate with someone that doesn't really contribute?
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2016-08-19 06:08:00
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>Femfriend sets me up with one of her friends. Apparently friend thinks I'm very attractive, wants to talk to me.
>Because I live a town away for college where they'll be going after they finish their senior year in high school, she just gave me her number to text and see where things go.
>Seems like a nice girl, but I can't manage to get a good conversation out of her. We have things in common, but it seems she responds to my 4-5 sentence texts with maybe 5-10 words, and usually this laughing emoji
>Fuck that laughing emoji
>She's fine otherwise, but she uses that damn emoji even when what she or I says isn't remotely humorous.
>It gets weird at times
>Anyways, femfriend asks me how things are going
>"Fine I guess. I have to lead the conversation because she doesn't really contribute much"
Femfriend explains to me that the girl I'm into has only been in one relationship and I guess he treated her like shit. I asked what that had to do with her not contributing to conversations, and femfriend says that the girl has never really talked to a guy about a topic with substance or meaning. She's been "conditioned" from previous guys, and according to femfriend she's not used to talking about actual things. One of femfriend's friends said "Wow, he's really good at texting. She doesn't really say much in return though."
Not sure how one is "good" at texting, but anyways, how do I get this girl to open up or have a conversation with some substance to it?
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take her on a date and try face to face convos instead.
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>>17475768
I plan on doing that the next time I'm in town. But the semester has just started so I have no idea how long that will be. I'm a good hour and a half drive away.
Femfriend, my friend (Femfriend's boyfriend) and I are gonna do a skype call as per usual, and the girl is gonna be at femfriend's house tomorrow night so she'll be there. I figured we usually talk for a good two to three hours in those calls, so there's plenty of time to try to figure out if she's just a shy texter or if it translates into real talking as well.
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>>17475709
You can't really change them. That laughing emoji is the equivalent of the old "lol/haha" after everything. and not really having deep discussions is just a part of who she is. If you're someone that really wants in depth conversations and someone to engage you, she's not someone you'll match with on an intimate level.
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