Advice/techniques/skills for coping with loneliness pls

Death is an effective solution.

>>17474627

You don't cope with lonely unless you want to. You don't seem to want to.

But unless I got that wrong :
> Inner thoughts : Make yourself conformable with yourself, yeah that sounds weird but you will face these thoughts everytime you will be lonely, so better think about them and prepare.
> Passions : Whatever they are, getting to learn things, work out, playing an instrument, learning another language, do it.
> Read a lot : Even if it's not your passion, you'll find yourself more insightful, more centered as a person.

But again, you don't seem to know why you're alone. Are you sure you want to do this in the first place ?

>>17474643
Please

>>17474644
>you don't seem to know why you're alone.

What do you mean by this

>>17474648
You wouldn't be asking this question in the first place if you knew the reason. You wouldn't need someone to teach you how to cope with loneliness.

What's the problem, OP ? Why are you forced to be lonely ?

>>17474659
I'm ugly and cannot socialize with women, that's why I'm lonely

>>17474665
>Can't socialize with women
You clearly can't socialize with other men either, because it is literally exactly the same.

>>17474687
I can. I have a lot of male friends.

>>17474695
If your friends are so great, why are you lonely? The girlfriend fairy won't magically fix you.

>>17474665
yeah, guessed so.
Grow the fuck up, OP.

> "I'm ugly"
You're probably average, maybe ugly but that isn't the reason you are/will be alone.
Have a look at /fa/ and /fit/, a better tone, well-suited body with a nice sense of style could help that. But it's probably a matter of confidence.

>"cannot socialize with women"
That's because you don't want to socialize, you want to be the cool guy dating women from every place, that will not happen. "Socializing" is something greater than picking up, that's becoming friends with them, you don't seem to pull that off.

>" that's why I'm lonely"
No, that's because you lack the will of making your life better, you think that you're supposed to fuck women to make your life better.
You're lonely because you never wanted to socialize, you just want the intimacy of meeting women, and that will not happen because they're not attracted to your appearance.
You can profit from solitude, to learn some things, to get enjoyment about some activity, to fulfill your life to a great point than picking up chicks, the women will be the price of your work, a complementary thing.
Until then, you will probably get no qt gf to cuddle with, unless you find someone at your level ( for instance if you're a student, you just need to find someone as open and determined as you with the same interests)


I'm not trying to be rude at all, I just feel that you've got the wrong priorities in life and I wish that you step up to take what's yours, a better, greater life, anon.

>>17474706
Male friends, no matter how close, are not companions. I have many close friends I have known for over ten years and I would take a bullet for them. But I still crawl into a cold empty bed every night.
>>17474711
>a better tone
Voice or bmi?
>well-suited body with a nice sense of style could help that
I'm trying on both fronts
>that's becoming friends with them, you don't seem to pull that off.
That's correct
>that's because you lack the will of making your life better
Also correct
>You're lonely because you never wanted to socialize
I enjoy socializing with men
>for instance if you're a student, you just need to find someone as open and determined as you with the same interests
I'm not determined. I'm not open. My interests are only shared by men.

>>17474735
What's bmi ? You can't change your voice, but changing your way of speaking will give you a boost in confidence and assume a certain charisma on your person. That really helps, you could watch videos on youtube, or just focus a little more when you converse with someone or even pay for a singing course, they will teach you how to "put" your voice at the right moment.


You said that I was correct, but I'm intrigued by the fact that you don't seem to want to change. Could you explain these two ?

>that's becoming friends with them, you don't seem to pull that off.
That's correct
>that's because you lack the will of making your life better
Also correct

and this one too

>I'm not determined. I'm not open. My interests are only shared by men.

>>17474627
Don't worry about dating OP. If you aren't ready to date, it will suck, a lot. I'm in this situation right now, and I'm about to just call it off with the girl I'm dating because I'm not happy with her or my life. Just take time to work on yourself, work on a passion or new hobby, and/or socialize with new/old friends. You will find a girl when you are ready.

Also, Listen to >>17474711
Anon might sound harsh, but he's being honest. That should mean something.

>>17474771
Bmi is body-mass index. I wasn't sure if you were referring to a "toned" body or tone of voice.

I don't know how to change those aspects of myself. I've never been able to make friends with women as much as I crave having a gf. I am generally lethargic and unintelligent, I do not know how to maneuver through life in a way which I improve my living standards. I have no marketable skills.

>I'm not determined. I'm not open. My interests are only shared by men.
The first is a character fault. The second is a character trait. The third is an unfortunate truth.

>>17474779

You don't seem lethargic and unintelligent. Stop shaping your identity with negative virtues of yourself and everything will be fine.

Women are not that hard, getting to know them might seem tricky because they always see you as someone who wants to be in their pants. Don't show them that, try making a few females friends before trying to get a date. People, men and females like to be entertained, you don't need much for that, humor, thinking, debating about something that you both appreciate, etc.. I see women as people who really like to be listened to, and they like when you're agreeing with them, if you're not agreeing with them, you better have some fucking reasoning. They tend to be very emotive so if you're nice with them, they will notice, on the contrary if you're too silent, peeking, talking shit about them or something them hold onto, they will ressent that too.

Find women of your age, in your profession maybe. Show them a friendly side, you don't need to be sexual for now, show respect, show interest, these are enough to make you a friend, a good friend is someone who relieves their mind, so with joking and good advice you will get even more female friends.

As for your living standards and your marketable skills, I can't say much, these are your own things, you must find them yourself I believe in you. Introspective thinking is the answer to your problem.

What are these interest that you only share with men, anon ?

>>17474627
How to live alone:

define 'alone'. im guessing you are edgy and claiming that the universe has magically decided that you will be single, so im going to write out assuming that.

the things you need for a happy life are
>a job you can stand
>'productive' hobbies
>meaningful relationsihps

lets start with
>a job you can stand

not everyone gets their dream jobs and most dream jobs are not what they are cracked up to be. however if work is something you hate or get sad at the thought of, then your job isnt right for you. try to find a career field you can stand.

my best friend loves working at a restaurant cuz its social. he just has to take orders, make small talk, and deliver plates. it keeps him on his feet and burning calories. I cant stand wokring at a restaurant. i enjoy the exercise but after that it makes me feel like im dead inside. I prefer working in a small business cuz i enjoy wearing suits, relaxing, doing math etc.

dont be afraid to try new jobs. it may take up extra time until you find the right one (what iwth working one job and applying for another) but its an important sacrifice to make until you find one that works for you.

>>17474862

>'productive' hobbies

i put productive in quotes cuz the actual definition of productive is hazy here. my advice is generally to take something you enjoy doing in your down time and reverse engineer it. for instance,

>do you like playing video games? learn how to design one
>like reading comics? draw one!
>reading books? write one!
>watching TV? film a web series!
>watching movies? write / produce one!
>sitting in chairs? build one!
>listening to music? learn an instrument!
>like cars? start remodeling them.
>any other subject? consider a podcast! or managing a meetup!

some hobbies can be a little expensive but a LOT of hobbies are getting cheaper and cheaper by the day. even filmmaking is REALLY cheap after the initial investment. i even learned visual effects to make it even easier for me to tell the badass stories i want.

whatever your interest, reverse engineer it. dont be afraid to try multiple things you do not need to have one hobby for the rest of your life or even the rest of your year.

write a book, then a comic, then radio play, then learn to build shit, then make a video game. do anything you want. just make sure its the kind of hobby that has a sort of 'end game' and mile stones.

just 'drawing' doesn't have much reward cuz there isnt much you can do with a drawing when its done except post it. no matter how bad your comic book is some people will want to read it.

most people avoid productive hobbies cuz they have a weird fantasy of only doing this when tehy magically get a huge budget and it becomes their careers. dont bother. just produce something for the fun of it.

>>17474890

finally, meaningful relationships. this doesn't mean dating. on the contrary. Romance is the absolute most fragile of all human relationships. its the reason you go through a million girls in your lifetime (whether in actual dating or just weird fuzzy feelings) but your best friends tend to be a select few.

if you like your parents, try to deepen that relationship. if you like your friends, deepen that. or make new friends, some hobbies, such as the filmmaking, are GREAT ways to meet like minded friends, and working together on such projects really bonds you together.

generally speaking. the best way to bond with people is to spend extended periods of time together, work on things together, and experience emotional shit together.

the reason high schoolers seem as close as those soldiers that call each other 'brother' is because in a high schoolers mind, daily life is just as dramatic and traumatizing as a battle field. its edgy, but it works. they share their emotions together adn spend more time together than they do with their parents.

so dont be afraid to collaborate with people on building, designing, writing, go camping, take a road trip, or just have a fuckin sleepover where you intend to beat an entire game.

nothing bonds people together like time. being 1 on 1 also helps as they develop a bond with you instead of a whole group.

good luck OP, hope this all helps. if you have any questions comments or concerns let me know, I'll be around for a little bit but gotta go cuz a friends coming over to do a greenscreen test.