Help me not cheat on my gf

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Fast forward a year or so later. Our relationship blossoms. She's caring, creative, positive, thoughtful, smart, we can laugh and talk about something new every day. She's adventurous and can keep up with my high energy lifestyle. Personally we're closer than ever, we've traveled on holidays together, we have plans for moving in together. We talk about kids all the time. There's never a dull moment with her. But we still haven't developed a healthy sex life, with our own 'language'.we brought up the subject of our boring sex life more than a few times but it was never really addressed conclusively. During our trip the sex was a little better, but the momentum wasn't strong enough to have a long lasting positive impact on us.

I'm really attached to her but i can't help but just ogle savagely at every piece of meat i see in the street, even when I'm with her. I was doing my best to ignore the beautiful foreign backpackers during our trip. I'm feeling the urge to walk up and talk to any girl i find attractive. I haven't done that in years. i want to fool around, have some sex crazed adventures before I'm tied down. Tinder stories make me gasp for air. I have so many fantasies i haven't had the chance to live before but feel like i can, now, and I want to act up on them before it's too late. I wasn't always like this. It's like I've lost faith in monogamy. i can't really tell where do my morals end and where do my urges start. The line between what i really want versus what my dick wants is pretty blurry to my eyes.

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For example it's like I'm mad about her for a week or two, but for the following week or two i need to take a breather. during this phase i fap to lots of different types of girls online while thinking, "why isn't my girlfriend more like her x? Why can't she be a little more kinky/a little taller/more athletic/have juicier ass and thighs/dress more womanly?" and then lose faith in our future as a couple. but once I'm fed up with porn i drop it for a week or two, and at that point when i see her again i feel stupid for having such bleak thoughts about her, i feel like i couldn't need anyone else in my life and should be more grateful and stop being so unnaturally nitpicky. Until i build up enough sexual energy and blast it furiously the next week... And repeat.

Fire away guys... I know cutting down on porn will help but that's the thing... It's been going on for so long i really can't tell what it is i truly want at this point. I need someone to either remind me that the grass is always greener on the other side and i should suck it up, or that i need to act on my urges.

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Just don't do it. It's not that hard.

Go ahead and fuck up one of the best relationships of your life. The only one who will care is her, and you clearly don't care about her.

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>>17473361

Roast me guys, keep it up

Kinda same boat as you OP. I'm just over three years in, and despite some issues like all relationships have I've decided it's about shit or get off the pot time. And, I'm committing. Worst case scenario, I can't handle bad sex and I cheat and get caught and we break up. Best case scenario, I become asexual, and she cheats and gets caught and I break up with her.

But, hopefully it's somewhere in the middle of all of that and it's all good.

a 5/10 (all around, not looks specific) relationship is good enough for my already mediocre and average life.

That's the test of love. If you cheat, that's your answer for whether you love her enough. If you resist temptation, then you love your girl. If you give in, she might be wife material but you'll know you're not husband material. Really if you need 'help not cheating' and yet you're still going to blubber on about 'but I really love her', it just means you're mentally weak and have no willpower. Were not going to be there to hold your hand and be your coice of reason when you're face to face with an opportunity to be unfaithful, it's up to you alone. That's what fidelity is - the sheer force of your will that causes you to strive and remain stalwartly faithful to the one in your life. Dilligence is needed to combat the allure of lesser things.

>>17473329
I think if she knew that she would be really sad.Gj, op.Just leave her alone and let someone else more worthy have her.After this then go bury your dick into some dumb ass sexy vagina whom you will brush off immediately after cumming.She deserves better.

I know it sounds extreme, but have you thought about couples therapy for your sex life? You said you guys have talked about your bland sex life before so it's not like you'd be slapping her with "sex sucks" out of nowhere. I know couples therapy sounds like a last resort but it's actually good to try it before things become unsalvagable. I think if you both are willing to try to make your sex life better, talking to a professional about it can really help. Best of luck

>>17473329
Here's an idea, OP: Tell your girlfriend about how much you can't help wanting to fuck other women, and ask her permission.

She will probably be heartbroken and disgusted. Perhaps she will leave you. Maybe she loves you enough that she'll let you fuck around, although the number of people who do that happily and willingly, rather than desperately and sadly, is almost certainly very small. If she does give you the green light, you owe it to her to get some strange on the side, too, of course--how do you feel about her fucking other people?

Do these options sound good enough? Do they make the idea of staying with someone you apparently love but may not be sexually compatible with seem more appealing? Think long and hard.

Personally, I would stick to fidelity, fapping, and fantasizing, like most partnered/married people the world over (and that's what I do, in fact--married for a long time now).

But if you guys aren't fundamentally sexually compatible, the relationship may not be a happy one, so you need to fix it or end it. The stuff above could do either.

Just leave her already. Let's look at the facts.

You are unhappy with your sex life now that you're both still young and free. You reckon that will start to sizzle after you had kids together and settled down?

You are not ready to settle down into a serious relationship, you crave a different lifestyle.

Your girlfriend is now with someone going through all this while with her qualities she could have a guy who is dazed just to be with her, let alone wondering why she isn't more like someone else.

Honestly your whole post to me reads like "I know I have to end this relationship but I can't take the plunge because she's a great package".
And yeah, maybe you'll regret it, maybe single life would disappoint you. But there's only one way to find out.

>>17473329

what are you fantasies? why is she not good in the bed? what are a list of things you want her to do?

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>>17473329

Cheat on her but DO NOT get fucking caught.

Use a fake name, only fuck at her place or your car, do not let her text you or save her number.

You need to be cunning but it'll be fun.

Just don't let her find out, ever.

>>17473429
I hope all your girls get fucked by strange dick behind your back.

>>17473429
I always wonder why people like you never consider talking it out or asking permission, you'd just rather irreparably chuck out whatever trust lies between you in the relationship for quick pussy. Open relationships are fine if both parties agree,there's nothing wrong with people wanting to fuck other people while still being in love together. It's just the scummy betrayal of trust that makes cheating so abhorrent to everyone.

God, you are such an asshole. People go lifetimes searching for someone as good as you've got. And yet here you are ready to throw it all away just because you're horny.

> It's like we're sexually incompatible and i haven't had much interest in putting in effort to fix it.
You better fucking find the energy or you will lose her and you will cry your eyes out over it. You might never find someone as good and regret it for the rest of your life.

Would you trade ten minutes of basically meaningless sex for a lifetime with her?
That's the only relevant answer you will need to know

Always think of the worst case scenario when making decisions. Could you stand losing her? I sure couldn't if I had my dream girl